Untamed Heart

On 6/30/2016 at 1:51 AM, DannyFenton123 said:

@Rising Sun That reminds me of playing Sims with my friends. They'd be designing the partners of their dreams, and I'd just be trying to kill mine 

I had pretty elaborate set ups where one Sim would be an imprisoned artist and painted portraits of the cow plant, before eventually being fed to it once they'd got to a high enough level of artistic talent and painted enough portraits to support the remaining household members... ^^" 

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That really is great to hear, and thanks  I never really got with anyone in the past "just because", more like I was looking for emotional support in what I felt was a rough few years in my life and thought romantic relationships could give me what I wanted (As Seen On TV lol), as I didn't really have any good friends and there were problems in the family. Nothing totally major, but I didn't feel like I could really share how I felt with anyone.

They were all pretty similar experiences, but this time was a bit different and while I still wish it could have worked out for us, I'm glad it happened and I feel a lot different, more free and I understand myself a lot better. I also realise my first relationship, the only one I was truly happy in, was pretty close to being a QPP, as it felt like having a best friend as well as romantic partner, though it was long distance which probably helped in my case.

Apocalypse (please beginneth lol)

I think I've experienced it very mildly in the past. I have fairly ample breasts and used to sometimes not be comfortable with having them at all, particularly when they were drawing unwanted male attention. I did used to fantasise about binding my chest up instead of wearing a bra, to minimise them (they're saggy when not contained, so it would have been uncomfortable for me to just not wear a bra, not to mention probably also obvious if I was only wearing a T shirt).

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I agree with you, on feeling lucky to be aro-spec and grey ace with Asperger's. I did think my difficulties 'feeling' anything in my last relationship were caused by it to at least a degree - trying to make conversation while Inner Me was flailing her arms and screaming "get the fuck outta here, it doesn't even feel like you can make friends with him!" knowing nothing about aromanticism at that point. 

I'm not great at socialising in general apart from when I'm with my good friends, and I don't get really attached to that many people. I think unless I feel some kind of "spark" for another person, I just don't have any motivation to find out more about them and can often find talking to people I don't know kind of boring at best. I'm one of those Aspies who needs a lot of alone time, doing my own things. So, for me at least, they're related.

I'm still haunted by my last relationship, even though it's been over 6 months since I let him go. I never actually loved him and my attraction mostly just kept fading away once we'd got together, to the point where I just couldn't go on seeing him any more. I had ended up trying to fake it to make it in the end, hoping it would somehow, miraculously work, but it was pretty futile, and I was just left feeling sick, guilty, confused (cos I couldn't understand why I didn't love him - he was everything I felt I wanted in a man, wasn't doing anything wrong - and why I'd just ended up feeling the same things as in my past relationships).

I'm totally fine being by myself, I'm not scared of being alone later on either, but it's so difficult when I "like" someone, and even though that's rare for me anyway, I'm dreading it happening again - would I be able to talk myself out of pursuing someone?

I think most of my repulsion comes from actually being in a relationship. I know I answered earlier, but the more I think about how I've felt before, and especially the last relationship I had (which is basically what led me to find out about asexuality/aromanticism), the more I realise it's something I used to like the idea of and sometimes kind of want, but not something I can handle in reality. It makes me feel sea sick!

Lol, cos everyone's got time to make out and do lovey dovey stuff when they're being chased by undead creatures hungry for flesh and brains. That's something I liked about Shaun of the Dead, there was a romance there but it pretty much took a back seat. And the fast driving scenes were a bonus, in my book.

Bugger!  

Hehe, I've been able to happily ignore Valentine's Day for years to be honest, I like the legend behind it though.

The movie/TV trope of a man saving a woman's life and she feels obligated to be with him or 'repay' his courage with certain favours...

Reading up about it, I'm pretty sure I've been limerent in the past towards some people, but not really towards anyone I actually got into a relationship with. My friend describes it as 'the chase is better than the catch' but I just feel horrible now when I think about my past in those terms. Almost dirty in a way  

I've never understood why some people have got engaged or even married after knowing each other a very short amount of time - maybe even a day! Sure, it worked out for some people, but I'd bet my bottom dollar they're in the minority. Yet, they're still framed as positive, "I found The ONE and I'm telling my story to give hope to all the lonely singles out there ^TM " stories, rather than "acted ridiculously rashly, was lucky it worked out in our favour".

Non joggers go for applesauce 

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Edgeworth from the Ace Attorney games - he never talks about women in romantic terms, is very absorbed in his work as a prosecutor and can get annoyed at the advances of another female character (Wendy Oldbag). 

Andy didn't imitate idiotic whales

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I'd be in Gryffindor, no idea about anything to do with Divergent or Percy Jackson I'm afraid!

Off topic - Is your avatar of Squall from FF8? He's my favourite Final Fantasy character ever!

On topic - (also from slightly younger days of mine) some guy sitting on the pub steps with friends flirting with me as I walked past, asking if I "dig him". I just said no and scuttled off quickly  

I think it's because 'the outsider sees most of the game,' as I would put it. I have had relationship experience, though my romantic feelings are all over the map and usually not that strong anyway, but it's definitely more difficult to see what's going on from a logical viewpoint when you are in one. Pesky hormones etc! I have had to give a little advice to my best friend before, but she's been in the same relationship since I met her and it's pretty stable. 

That's kind of how mum makes me feel sometimes. She doesn't know I found out I'm arospec and I probably won't tell her, but she has said before that she thinks it would be nice if I found someone to settle down with. She says she wants me to be happy, but I think I'll just have to be happy in my own way. We have had the 'future crazy cat lady' talk, so I don't think she'll be too shocked anyway

I think it was middle school, but I remember saying out loud to nobody in particular (that I remember) that I was never going to have another boyfriend. Another girl said, "don't worry, you'll find someone!"  thanks, but that's not actually what I meant. Also, around the same time in general, pushing boys away without even realising when they tried to randomly kiss or hug me, cos I never asked for any of it.

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I've been listening to a lot of Disney stuff lately.

On 4/13/2016 at 5:45 PM, Rising Sun said:

I hate stereotypes. Things couples do on Valentine's Day, nicknames, noisy "toilet plunger" kisses, those things aren't cute, they're just cheesy, and not even cutely cheesy. It's such a sugar overdose that it's enough to make you diabetic just hearing about it.

And the worst of all, the "love at first sight" stuff. Come on, that's not love, that's attraction. You can't love the same when you know only someone's body and superficial behaviour, and when you really know someone's soul. It's one of my pet peeves when somebody pretends the contrary.

I agree - I used to believe it was possible, but now I've learned more, I think people who claim that were initially very attracted and they both just happened to also be compatible enough to make love(?) possible.

As for stuff that repulses me, noisy kissing I guess?  I don't actually go out enough to encounter much romantic behaviour, or when I am out I'm mostly in my own personal bubble anyway.

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