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  • Birthday 04/05/1983

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    Anne
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    Hetero, grey, lithro? Aroflux?
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  1. Untamed Heart

    How do you even know if you're 'seeing the whole person', anyway? Also, I'm thinking of seeing a counsellor again. The lady I saw last time was great and I left with a different perspective, but we didn't really work on any issues. I was so focussed on trying to find out why I felt the ways I did with my ex, rather than possible causes, mostly because there weren't any tangible ones. I was depressed and anxious for no reason, but I am starting to identify potential underlying issues and really want to explore them. I don't want to get "fixed" in order to find someone (I really don't need a boyfriend), I just really want to know what's going on with my brain and become a better person for myself. 

    1. omitef

      omitef

      Doesn't "seeing the whole person" mean being able to recognise both the flaws and strengths of someone?

       

      I'm glad that you want to start exploring your mind more--that takes a lot of courage. I know that mental illness complicates my attraction to people, and right now I'm working with my therapist to figure out what things I'm uncomfortable with due to PTSD, and what things I'm uncomfortable with because I just haven't tried them yet.

    2. Untamed Heart

      Untamed Heart

      I think you're right, but to me, it's just another one of those things that people throw out there as 'dating advice' and never actually explain, maybe because they assume people already know what it all means? 

      I'm almost absolutely certain that autism makes things more difficult for me in relationships, to a greater or lesser degree. I realised as well, I'm probably more 'shallow' than I thought - I've always a little anxious or worried about boyfriends getting haircuts because it changes how they look, and it makes me feel differently about them for a short while. I find that interesting, especially since I'm not sure I've been (much) past primary attraction (another thing people don't explain :P).  

      I hope you're able to work through your issues, too - it will be worth it, I have faith in you! :)

      I feel I'm more on a quest for knowledge, than anything else. I don't want to get "fixed" in order to be able to date, I just really want to know what's going on in my head and make things more comfortable for myself, hopefully even become more assertive and stuff xD 

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