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  1. I'm not officially out to my family, but I will agree out loud that I'm not in a relationship, there is no one I am interested in, and I'm not looking. I've gotten way more comfortable with my aro-ness as I've gotten older and at this point, when older relatives ask I just give a casual "Nah" or whatever with a clear disinterest in the topic. And if they get pushy about it I just put on an aggressively upbeat attitude with an undercurrent of 'drop the subject'. "Nope!" >:)
  2. Thank you for your sending over some support!!!! I think I'm always so wishy-washy about talking to people about his stuff because I've never met another aro person in real life and have never had that understanding and validation. I know my friends do try, but they just don't GET it.
  3. Yesssss. I guess I just assume that everyone in my RPG group knows that all my DnD characters are aroace because I am and my friends know that. But then my best friend who has just started DMing a new game was like "Oh your character WILL be flirted with at some point, FYI" and I kind of tried to hint that I didn't want that, but she was like "Ok, but that's just how the world is." And my other friend is playing a bard and he IS going for the stereotypical flirty-bard angle and while I shut his character down immediately, it was still somewhat uncomfortable. I am still working on getting up the courage to point out that DnD is supposed to be an escape from reality and that it's supposed to be a space where I feel safe from have to deal with that sort of thing... 😞 I feel your pain @Oatpunk.
  4. Oh man. So speaking of fight or flight responses.... I had a guy in high school who basically stalked me from class to class; like, I'm pretty sure he had my schedule memorized. He would show up at the doorway of the class I was leaving, follow me through the halls to my next class, and then go to his own. (There was also a whole thing with him trying to ask me to prom and a ton of panicking on my part and telling him I had promised to go with my friends as a group and then avoiding him the entire night of prom.) Fast forward to college and he ended up going to the same school as me. Part way through the year I spotted him across the campus and before he saw me I basically threw myself behind the nearest building and then ninja-ed my way back to my dorm like a Mission Impossible character. I am really glad I didn't I have to deal with the inevitable awkwardness at our high school 10 year reunion over the summer because he didn't show up.....
  5. My good friend/brother sent me a bamboo plant and a card that said "Happy Annual Fake-Romantic, Overly-Commercialized, Hetero-normative, Shoved-Down-Our-Throats Day". It totally made me laugh/cry and was the best Valentine's gift I've received ever. Love my bro.
  6. I think someone already suggested this on a similar thread, but "Don't Fall In Love" by Danko Jones is one of my favorites.
  7. I will admit that I'm pretty much only knowledgeable about TOS and the very beginning of TNG, ha ha. I need to get around to marathoning some of the other series....
  8. I see where you're coming from, but I guess to me, the idea of a partnership doesn't necessarily mean a romance. Just because two people happen to compliment each other and work well together doesn't mean they can't have a platonic relationship. And the movie explicitly avoided a kiss scene when they could have easily made it into one, which to me enforced the non-romance of it. (Although now that there's a sequel coming out soon I may end up deeply disappointed...)
  9. Pacific Rim! I know some non-aros read Riley and Mako as "romantic", but to me it just felt like an incredibly genuine QPR. Two people who understood each other on a deep level, literally inside each other's brains, and just aggressively became the ultimate cheerleaders for each other, rather than falling in love. Also, they fight giant monsters together.
  10. The "but that doesn't mean they don't experience romantic/sexual attraction!!!" at the end of the aro and ace descriptions is kind of annoying to me as someone who is both.... It just makes them seem mutually exclusive. Like one or the other is still required to be acceptable....
  11. I see the enterprise......are you......a fellow trekkie?
  12. If you're into Sci-fi and don't mind long running shows, Star Gate: Atlantis was fun. There's some romance for a couple of the protagonists, but the main character, John Shepard, has basically none. He's divorced from a marriage that "didn't work out" and there were one or two episodes with some girl who liked him, but he always "nope"d out of there as fast as possible, or just acted super uncomfortable about the whole situation. (Totally AroAce IMO) For the most part it was a show about friendships and the Gate team becoming a makeshift family. (And super cheesy sci-fi aliens and situations )
  13. Join usssss. Ha ha. Welcome and everyone I've encountered here has been totally cool. Basically, have fun finding labels you're comfortable with and if they change over time, that's cool too.
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