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I have a three room flat and for the fall I'm gonna put some posts out about looking for flatmates. I'm trying to decide if I should put in the add that I'm aromantic.

Pros: It would make other queer people know I'm also queer.

Con: Most Swedes don't know what aromantic is. Also my romantic orientation doesn't really matter for a flat mate relationship. I'd rather write that I'm solo but I feel like that's even less known as a concept.

No more humans

Nebula from guardians of the Galaxy

Categories banned so far (copy this to your post and add your bans so we can keep track):
No men
No brunettes
No humans

4 hours ago, MulticulturalFarmer said:

Where did you get it? I suppose I could also do a simple google search too :)

I bought it as an ebook from ebooks.com

This game is about trying to name new persons while restrictions are added. I'll show an example and then start the game in the second post.

First post
Ben Affleck

Second post
No more humans

Thor

Third post
No more humans
No more gods

The iron gigant

Ben Affleck

That story is really good @Whirl

I think it's a good idea to use aromantic as an umbrella term. Many people don't know about the term so by using it you're increasing visibility over all and also letting people know its full definition.

8 hours ago, MulticulturalFarmer said:

Were you able to get it a library or did you get it on amazon?

Neither

Today Sweden celebrate midsummer by dancing around a giant phallus.

Have anyone else read this book? I'm reading it now and I find it very useful and inspiring. It's about different ways to create community. The author clearly knows a lot about queer culture and references aro concepts such as qpr.

Are you familiar with the concept of voidpunk? I feel like it's similar to what you're talking about.

https://aesthetics.fandom.com/wiki/Voidpunk

6 hours ago, HelloThere said:

I’d love to get a hard copy at some point, and sit down with some music on and just waste away relating to all of that and seeing other experiences.

Is there no hard copy?

I've never felt excluded but pride is a pretty wide event in Stockholm. A lot of people who walk in the parade are just allies of different kind. But I don't really relate that strongly to LGBT+ identity. I feel more closely related to relationship anarchists and solo polyamory people regardless of their romantic orientation.

On 6/6/2023 at 10:38 PM, DeltaAro said:

Why does Artemis hunt? 😔 I want an Artemis who is just a peaceful forester, then she would be perfect.  😄

Nor does laughter-loving Aphrodite ever tame in love Artemis, the huntress with shafts of gold; for she loves archery and the slaying of wild beasts in the mountains, ...

from: Homeric Hymn to Aphrodite

If we think of hunting as a kind of foraging maybe we could have a Artemis vegan version who is only hunting for plants.

Mine is really short and not only aro songs, just no romance. But a few of the songs are aro themed.

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2zralhbz1XHNweFPub9WOf?si=tnD0C7pMR3SSl2M8owEFZQ

This one is more solo themed than specifically aro but I like it.

I've had somewhat similar feeling. I'm very sex positive and I like masturbating. I've been feeling like I would like to have sex but in reality I don't have any person I would like to have sex with. Not even celebrities so that's different from you. I can feel arousal when I look at a beautiful person but it's not really connected to wanting to do anything sexual with them. Whenever I fantasize about sex with someone it's just nameless faceless person. When I masturbate I don't think about anyone, it's more like yoga for me, just focusing on the sensations and breathing.

I asked about this on aven and got some helpful response there. The repliers said that libido and sexual attraction are different things. If I feel sexual arousal but don't experience the desire to have sex then asexual fits as a definition for that experience. So nowdays I identify as a sex favorable asexual. It would be nice if I someday meet someone I want to have sex with but it's not my priority so I don't take any steps currently to try to make it happen, like dating.

In Stockholm the best time of the year is June because it's the start of summer and everyone is at their highest energy enjoying the light and the warmth. We have really long evenings with beautiful soft twilight, tonight the sun sets at 22:03.

It made me curious what do you think it's the best time of year where you live and why?

💚💚🙂

9 hours ago, HelloThere said:

Oh yeah, I just want that to stop, because the answer is YES. It’s just a label, it serves you not the other way around.

Still it's useful to know what other people's understanding is of a word. One purpose of a label is to be a shortcut in communication.

For example if OP were to post on a dating site that they want a qpr different people will make different assumptions. They might be better of posting the longer explanation to actually connect with someone who's looking for the same thing

I have two friends who I think are technically aro, although they don't identify as such because they are romance favorable so kinda allo passing. I met both of them without knowing they were aro.

18 hours ago, DeltaAro said:

QPRs aren't romantic in nature, that's all. It's neutral regarding sex.

I don't feel there's a general consensus on that. When I used qpr to describe a fictional relationship several people on this forum replied they were confused why I used that because the characters had sex.

One of the first hits on Google for queer platonic relationship defines it as also non sexual. https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Queerplatonic_relationship

I don't have any strong feeling about it myself because I don't find it a useful term for me personally, just noting that the definition seem to be a bit varied.

18 hours ago, HelloThere said:

Well qpr’s are really just non-romantic relationships, there’s nothing in the definition saying that it has to be non-sexual so label it as that if you want because that does fit the definition.

Aren't qpr generally non sexual though? It seems to me most people go by that definition. Because platonic relationship generally means non sexual and non romantic.

I want people to think I'm aesthetically attractive and enjoy my company. Often those things corelate to sexual or romantic attraction but that's just an unwanted byproduct for me.

I think aros experience are very different so it's hard to say something general about it. For me personally I've never wanted a romantic partner so I don't have to spend time and effort looking for one, or getting my heart broken when a relationship ends, like my allo friends.

I just watched Causeway and I thought it's a great movie for aros. I could have put it one of the movie threads but since this forum is not exactly run over by new content I thought I might as well make a separate post about it. 

Jennifer Lawrence plays a veteran who's trying to recover from an injury. The movie is all about the importance of relationships but none of them are romantic. Her mother does have a romantic relationship but it seems to only be there to show the neglect the main character feels from her. 

The movie is slow but it still feels engaging because of the interesting cinematography and the performances.

I watched it on apple tv but it might be available elsewhere to, probably depending on the country.