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On 5/21/2023 at 1:16 PM, HelloThere said:

I’d love to do something like that when I’m more sure of myself. (And when I’m out of the house)

I enjoyed it. And they invited me to a discord so that will help me connect with them further I hope.

I got some good advice there about asexuality. I've not read it written anything about aromanticism there though so I don't know how that is.

I don't. But I'm a relationship anarchist so I'm not into looking for people to fit one specific relationship. I might at some point have a relationship that someone would consider romantic or a qpr but it's not something I need.

Last episode next week!

5 hours ago, aro_elise said:

i haven't either

I only read about it recently on this forum. It's this one https://youtu.be/qF1DTK4U1AM

You can never make anyone else do anything. It's terrible that people won't believe us when we say we don't feel that kind of attraction, it's happened to me as well. We can try to change that somewhat but it's not gonna be solved any time soon. My advice therefore is to try to figure out why someone elses attraction towards you make you feel so terrible and then address that.

I probably wouldn't consider people I only interact with in text my friends because sharing a physical space with someone is really important for me for connection. But everyone is different, I'm sure many people can feel a platonic intimacy through text. If I were you I would talk to your friends about your friendship. For example first tell them that you consider them your friend and ask if they feel the same. Depending on what they answer you can go on to ask and tell what kind of things you'd want the friendship to mean

On 5/18/2023 at 7:34 PM, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

 

I don’t like Tiktok. I don’t use Tiktok, and I’ve seen the harm that it can do. But I can’t, especially as a Hispanic American, feel good about it getting banned when I know that its ban has nothing to do with its actual content, and everything to do with xenophobia and the prevention of global information exchange.

Similar discussions going on in my country and it's not about china being non white, it's about TikTok being owned by the Chinese state which is a dictatorship that ignores human rights and are commiting genocide to Uyghur (by forced sterilization and children separated from their culture). The state already has a lot of power in other countries too due to its economic investments and they use it to further their interests. To forbid social media controlled by the Chinese state is not unreasonable. I agree that private companies also needs more regulation, this decision could be a start for that.

I think using dating apps is your best bet. A lot of people won't get it though so you have to prepare yourself for a lot of explaining. It might be easier if you try to connect with people who describe themselves as polygamous or relationship anarchist as they will have a more open mind what a relationship could be about.

I don't think it's immoral to date without romantic attraction. However there are many people for whom the lack of romantic attraction would be a deal breaker. In my experience knowing that their partner is in love with them is a big part of romantic relationship for many.

You could also look for meetups for aro ace or polyamory. There are also dating apps for making friends and for asexuals. I don't remember any of their names because I've assumed they are not used in my country.

There's not much aro or ace activity at all in my country from what I can tell, but I did find this one page which apparently does these meetup events so I thought why not join. I've been feeling a craving recently to find aro friends in real life.

I personally have a bit of a libido but I just solve that by masturbating. In a way it's kinda like yoga, you can do breathing exercises and mindfulness as part of it.

Good advice! I would also add that it's ok not to be sure. Part of growing up is to figure oneself out.

I agree that it seems easier to know ones identity now. I too grew up with internet but it wasn't as mature as it is now. Back when I was a tween we had dial up internet and our experience consisted mostly of playing mini games and chatting with creepy men on chat forums.

Cool! Did everyone reply that you selected? Were the only options about asexuality on the ace spectrum or ace?

Does anyone else have any warnings? 🙂

There should be more stories about people forming other kinds of relationships I think, not just romance.

I don't like romance novels but I sometimes like romance on TV because I enjoy the sexual aspects of them. I prefer queer romance because there's often an aspect of the characters growing as persons by exploring their orientation.

That's awful!

Sorry to hear that!

Have you tried watching Ted Lasso? Maybe that would help

@Keithwhat did you think of the latest ep?

I loved the hairy but speech

You can't make anyone do anything. Does all your friends do it some of the time or is it a few of them specifically?

This forum is nice. It's not super active but I usually check in at least a few times a week to read and comment on new posts. If you have any kind of aro thoughts you want input on this is the place. There's also a lot of posts about culture, like aromantic headcannons.

Seems like you have a nice subconscious that sends you kind dreams which makes you feel supported 🙂

Sounds cute from the synopsis. It's probably not for me but if you watch it let us know what you think

If you feel uncertain you can share that with your friends. Say that you consider you might be aro but you're not sure. Questioning is also a valid identity.

Also I don't think you need to feel bad about feeling drawn to identifying as queer. There are lots of things about queer culture she mindset that can resonate with someone regardless if they're queer or not. You could look into concepts such as relationship anarchy or solo polyamory. These are concepts that resonate with many aro people but are for everyone who wants that lifestyle.

10 minutes ago, Keith said:

I feel that they tried to put so many different things in this season, that they kind of lost their way.

Yeah that's a good summation of it. There are just so many threads and characters.