Lovebird

grayrose ppl ftw

Huh, what label were you using before, again!

Congratulations, by the way!

@Storm_leopardcat I just considered myself an allosexual pan

I can understand what you say for some reason I feel the same way about non romantic songs. Well there is some exceptions but only a few. Myself I love the Backstreet boys that only sing about love, can't help it just love AJ MCLEAN's voice, I am enjoying listening to their songs even if I don't relate to these feelings. (I know it is an old boysband but I am 38 and grew up with them. Bruno Mars' music is cool too  

As a person who listens to Asian pop boy bands, I understand completely lol 

Glad to know  I am not the only one!! I love this forum it so great to talk to people like me, who lives the same things and feel the same way.?

Different strokes for different folks I guess. People are allowed to think its gross or enjoy it. It doesn’t hurt anyone.

"considered okay" yeah but I'd hope they mean okay for them. Sucks when all the aros are bunched together under a set strict guidelines. like hey man, chill. it's a spectrum. don't talk shit about the things other people do, they could very well say the same things about you. golden rule or whatever

Kissing can sometimes be viewed as sexual. There are a lot of aro aces so in the aro community who are repulsed by the sexual implications. Also kissing on the lips is the signature move for every modern romantic movie / book. 
 

Kissing carries strong romantic and sexual connotations. Im not surprised some aros aren’t comfortable with it. 
 

With the societal context in mind how is the typical aro view on kissing hypocritical? 

 

Furthermore

You can think an activity is gross, repulsive or weird while also thinking it’s okay for others to do said thing. 

Sex repulsed asexuals don’t think it’s not okay for others to have sex for instance. They can still think sex is gross and repulsive and voice their opinion on the matter.

Same for aros who don’t like kissing.

Aros can find kissing weird or not understand the why but still respect others right to engage and enjoy that activity.

It only becomes an issue if gatekeeping happens, but I’ve never seen kiss averse aros gatekeep smooching aros. 

Yikes, I've never encountered this and I am so glad. I was in a physically and emotionally abusive friendship. Thinking that we're immune is so dangerous.

Same thing for me. I'm aro, I won't get myself in a toxic relationship. However I did go through really toxic friendships, never realized it, and and decide to accept everything that the person could do... Because they were a friend

@Antiochit's quite common on the r/aromantic subreddit, tho tbf the sub itself is full of batshit people who think aros can never experience negative relationships, only aphobia.

@Atypique I was also in a toxic friendship and it nearly killed me, I only thought those in romantic relationships were abusive at the time. I was totally wrong.

😢 Heartbreaks are always downplayed, even the word is strangely cutesy. While I also don't "get them", at least I understand that they are very traumatic and painful and wish you healing!

I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know what I could say, but if it would make you feel better, then feel free to talk to me!! Either way I hope you'll  be alright!!

I'm so sorry. Six years is a long time. That's a hard break up. Just take it day by day and take care of yourself. We are here for you.