paporomantic

16 minutes ago, Cassiopeia said:

THERE IS SQUISH THREAD, AND THERE ARE THREADS ABOUT COMPARING AND DEFINING TYPES OF ATTRACTION. 1 2 3 4

AVEN HAS A SPECIAL THREAD WHERE MEMBERS CONFESS CRUSHES / SQUISHES ON EACH OTHER, AND IT'S SEPARATE FROM THE ONE WHERE THEY TALK ABOUT REAL-LIFE CRUSHES / SQUISHES. I MEANT A THREAD ANALOGOUS TO THE FORMER. I FIND SUCH A SEPARATION QUITE CONVENIENT.

I'LL DEFINITELY READ THE OTHER LINKED THREADS, THANKS.

17 minutes ago, Cassiopeia said:

I GUESS SHE IS JUST DESPERATE AND IS MORE INTO THE IDEA OF A RELATIONSHIP THAN THE ACTUAL PERSON...

IS THERE A CHANCE THAT SHE'S ARO WHO'S FOOLED BY AMATONORMATIVITY AND FORCING HERSELF INTO A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP TO BE VALIDATED BY HER ENVIRONMENT [Q]

20 hours ago, Cassiopeia said:

I JUST WANTED TO SLEEP WITH HER BUT SHE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND CONSENT OR ANY OF THE STUFF I HAVE TOLD HER SO NOPE.

NOW SHE IS ALL POSSESSIVE AND SHE BUYS ME ROSES AND TEXTS ME CUTESY STUFF...

 

I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER.

OUCH

ALAS NOT EVERYONE FOLLOWS SAINT-EXUPERY'S PRINCIPLE 'YOU BECOME RESPONSIBLE, FOREVER, FOR WHAT YOU HAVE TAMED' [ASSUMING THAT SHE REGARDS YOU AS A SUB] OR INTERPRETS IT RIGHT. AS FAR AS I UNDERSTAND, BEING A DOM REQUIRES NOT SIMPLY 'CARING' ABOUT THE SUB, BUT FIRST AND FOREMOST LISTENING TO THEIR EMOTIONAL NEEDS.

ALAS THE ISSUE IS NOT LIMITED TO BDSM - THERE ARE A LOT OF OVERPROTECTIVE PARENTS WHO 'CARE' ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN THE WAY THEY OR THE SOCIETY THINK IT SHOULD BE DONE, WITHOUT ASKING THE CHILDREN WHAT THEY REGARD AS REAL CARE AND WHAT THEY DEEM UNNECESSARY ACTS OF 'LOVE'.

SO OBVIOUSLY, YOU NEED TO STOP ANY CONTACT WITH HER, BUT IF SHE'D LIKE TO HAVE CHILDREN POTENTIALLY, IT WILL BE GOOD IF YOU CONFRONT HER AND EXPLAIN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DISPLAYS OF LOVE AND REAL LOVE, SO THAT SHE EVENTUALLY LEARN TO BE A GOOD MOTHER.

GL WITH FINDING A CARING PARTNER 

On 5/30/2016 at 5:31 AM, Spud said:

SOMEONE ON THE SQUISH THREAD ON AVEN SAID THEY HAVE A SQUISH ON ME

CONGRATS  BTW, HOW ABOUT A SQUISH THREAD ON AROCALYPSE [Q]

On 5/12/2016 at 10:34 AM, Starry Sky said:

*POKES HEAD IN*

 

I KEEP FORGETING ABOUT AROCALYPSE  LOL I CAN ONLY KEEP UP WITH ONE FORUM

NP, IT'S OK TO BE [SERIALLY] MONOFORUMOUS 

Hmm, I'm indeed not sure... there are plenty of people here who will listen to you better than I would.

Anyway, your previous squish is now gone, and I yet see no reason why the new one is necessarily going to be a wreck. Let's hope for the best until you learn more facts about him!

On 5/14/2016 at 0:01 PM, Dodgypotato said:

My last one literally almost killed me.

Ouch, what happened?  

I thought squishes can't be harmful if done right. I mean, who on earth would hate to have one friend more (i.e. befriending you)? Or do you mean some kind of monoamorous queerplatonic attraction, i.e. did you want them to be exclusive with you in some way?

I thought I was a heteroromantic ace (earlier - that I was a heteroromantic heterosexual) because I aesthetically prefer 'generalized females' - people who like to beautify creatively (most females - both cis and trans - except very 'vanilla' ones, but also male goths, for example).

I have to admit that I used to mistake intense envy of successful 'generalized females' for romantic attraction