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Sexual attraction as felt by aros
paporomantic replied to paporomantic's topic in Sexuality and Gender
Ironically, my experience is similar to this: I've started suspecting that I can be regarded as a 'libidoist aro ace' in the AVEN context and an 'aro straight' in the context of this thread, i.e. that the classification depends on the community. -
That's a curious observation. I'm actually a pervert but I can't afford to let anyone know what my fantasies are, so from the outside, I'm indistinguishable from an aro.
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I hold the unpopular opinion that my aromanticism has been caused by whatever undiagnosed mental issues I have (which might be schizoid, avoidant, borderline or autistic spectrum), but I don't mind my personality the way it is - the aromanticism is making my life so much easier to plan.
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Having both Arocalypse and AVEN tabs open and getting notifications from both so that I don't miss any action at either #feelsgoodman
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Hmm, the thing is that I need to create a Discord account for a somewhat commercial purpose, and I might start asking experienced Discord users about the intricacies of its usage soon
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[Not as funny] Travie McCoy ft Bruno Mars - 'Billionaire' as written by Ari Levine, Bruno Mars, Philip Lawrence and Travis Mccoy. Run through Thai, Spanish, Simplified Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Lao, Italian, Hindi, Finnish, Afrikaans, Zulu, Latin, Pashto, Sudanese, Malagasy, Tamil, German, Kazakh.
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'Black Widow' performed by Iggy Azalea ft Rita Ora (trigger warning: romance) as written by Katy Perry, Amethyst Amelia Kelly, Sarah Hudson, Tor Erik Hermansen, Mikkel Storleer Eriksen and Benjamin Levin. Run through Malayalam, Georgian, Portuguese, Hawaiian, Shona, Swahili, Traditional Chinese, Maori, Yoruba, Korean, Xhosa, Belarusian
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Disclaimer: the attempt in my below post has turned out much funnier. The original 'Hard Rock Hallelujah' by Lordi as written by Tomi Petteri Putaansuu, Sampsa Petteri Astala, Niko Arto Hurme, Jussi Antero Sydanmaa and Leena Maria Peisa. Run through Ukrainian, Simplified Chinese, Hungarian, Japanese, Esperanto, Khmer, Czech, Vietnamese, Russian, Spanish: Google Translate is so advanced that it has saved almost all the meaning (well, it's partly because religious terms are unambiguous in most languages).
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ICYMI: AVEN is finally migrating its servers to IP Board 4 on Nov 18-20 http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/147793-server-transfer-nov-18-20-2016/
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Paging our musicians @Will @Ugh... @Mezzo Forte @brsajo @aussiekirkland @Blue Phoenix Ace (I'm sure there are more) The 2nd question needs a separate option 'I've never played an instrument'. I've voted for 'other' in its absence.
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I'M ABOUT TO BE DAMAGED BY BREXIT INDIRECTLY SO I'M ALSO TRYING TO SAVE MONEY AND WORK HARDER [WHICH, IN MY CASE, MEANS 'WORK AT ALL'].
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I've just poured Coke on roasted potatoes and onions to cool them down... the soup tasted surprisingly decently, with only slight sweetness.
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Is aromantic vocabulary unconsciously amatonormative ?
paporomantic replied to Rising Sun's topic in Aromantic Discussion
I feel that this terminology was designed in attempt to prove to amatonormativists that far not all aros are 'heartless robots'. In so doing, aros erase themselves by likening their experiences to romance so that they look more like the majority. This looks quite similar to rom aces' proud claims that they can love 'like everyone else'. -
HOW LIKELY TO BE ASEXUAL IS A WESTERN GIRL LIVING ALONE, PLAYING DETECTIVE GAMES AND WATCHING ANIME AT 24 BTW, THE MAYBEPAPO IS A GOOD REPLACEMENT FOR A QUESTION MARK IN CAPSLOCKIA. PERHAPS SO IS THE STOPAPO FOR THE EXCLAMATION MARK.
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ALSO, THE SWEETEST OF THE MANY SWEETIES SEEN TODAY HAD A RING ON THE RIGHT MIDDLE FINGER. I THOUGHT AT FIRST THAT IT WAS A BLACK RING, BUT WHEN I LOOKED CLOSER, IT TURNED OUT THAT THE BLACK CORD OF EARPHONES ATTACHED TO A TABLET WAS WRAPPED AROUND HER FINGER LIKE A RING, WHILE THE RING ITSELF WAS SIMPLY 'GOLDEN'. WHAT A BLOODY TEASE GIRLS LIKELY THINK THAT MY STARE CHECKS THEIR HANDS FOR A WEDDING RING... THEY HAVE NO IDEA THAT I CHECK FOR THE PRESENCE OF AN ACE/ARO RING, NOT THE ABSENCE OF A WEDDING ONE.
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WOW, I SAT NEXT TO AN [OBJECTIVELY DECENTLY LOOKING] GIRL OF A SIMILAR AGE [MY FUTURE NEIGHBOR] FOR HALF AN HOUR IN A ROW AND DIDN'T DEVELOP AESTHETIC ATTRACTION TO HER. APPARENTLY, SHE'S TOO 'VANILLA' TO MY TASTE. GO ME [I DID STALK HER ON FB, THOUGH - OLD HABITS DIE HARD.]
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DULY NOTED. I'VE JUST GOT MYSELF ANOTHER PACK OF MELATONINE AND I HATE THE FACT THAT I STILL NEED IT. I GUESS THE DRUG HAS BEEN, ALONG WITH CARB ABUSE, ONE OF THE MAIN KILLERS OF MY PRODUCTIVITY.
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I wonder if I should contact local romo aces.
I'm afraid of my romantic unavailability upsetting them. And I wouldn't like to be evaluated.
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I used to have this fear a lot when I first realised I was lithro, but the more time I spend out, the more I'm developing a mentality of "I don't owe you anything" and "you're the one who misinterpreted my actions as romantic." It's a bit like the myth of the friendzone in regards to men getting rejected by women. There's no romozone for alloromantics getting rejected by aros. Aros don't owe romantic people anything, and if romantic people get offended because we don't want to be with them--that's their problem. We're not responsible for their feelings.
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I cannot speak from experience, I have only met one other ace in my life, and while she is romo, it wasn;t something that came up, as she is my mother.
I guess I kind of think of us aro aces as like the ultimate 'gay best friend'. Since I started being openly out friends treat me differently in a good way, regardless of their gender and attractions, they treat me as off limits, and not jealous or uncomfortable, so they can feel free to talk about partners and attractions with me, and confide in me. I don't think romo aces, if they are nice people, would be any different.
The other thing I wanna say is I have some experience in being desperate for relationships, in my case friendship. Partly due to simple geography and circumstance my options were limited, My options were even more limited by the fact I am autistic, and I had serious and visible mental health issues, (although I didn;t know it) I was nonbinary, and experiencing a different puberty from allos. Children were not exactly lining up to be my friends. To say I was desperate is an understatement.However, because I had been hurt for being different, I had standards designed to protect me and keep me happy. Firstly, I had to actually like them, secondly and more important, they had to WANT to be my friend. Trying to be friends with someone who doesn;t want you is agony.
I don't see why the same rules wouldn;t apply romantically, they should have learned, maybe better than most, that persuing a romantic relationship from someone that doesn;t want one would hurt them too much.
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I've met a couple of romantic aces from tumblr but we haven't gotten close enough for it to be a problem. Though after talking to them a bit it seems that pursuing romantic relationships isn't usually on their radar because navigating the sexual element is too much effort.
I also agree with @Ace-TheTimelordsCompanion that since coming out to my friends, they confide in me about crushes (especially my bi friend) and it's all very detached and easy
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I have a hunch that, if I'm not careful, I might start squishing or crushing unrequitedly on someone unknown whom I'll meet soon
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Nah, not today :flex: http://www.arocalypse.com/forums/topic/30-capslockia/?do=findComment&comment=14721
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THE DUMB ME HAS JUST REALIZED THAT, EVEN THOUGH, UNDER THE RULES OF FRENCH, THE 'H' IN THE NAME @Louis Hypo IS AN 'H MUET', LIAISON IS PROHIBITED BECAUSE 'LOUIS' IS A PROPER NAME, THUS THE 'S' IS NOT UNMUTED AND THE NAME IS PRONOUNCED LIKE LWEE-EE-'PAW.
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Have you ever been in a relationship?
paporomantic replied to owl's topic in Aromantic Relationships
I jocularly proposed to a girl with whom, exclusively, I was hanging out (the way friends do) at middle school; of course I didn't realize then what marriage actually is. I've never confessed a passion for anyone, except an awkward AVEN squish which was erroneous and should be forgotten. The general concept of an intimate relationship is alien to me. I'm the best possible friend I can ever find for myself. -
BUT OF COURSE BASE 2^4 IS SUPERIOR TO BOTH BECAUSE IT NATURALLY ARISES IN COMPUTING
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THIS INFREQUENT USE IS QUITE VALID. HOWEVER, IF SOMEONE WRITES 'UM... HI[Q]' IN THE TITLE OF A WELCOME AREA THREAD, IT'S SURELY NOT SARCASM AND NOT A QUESTION. IN MY IMPRESSION, IT USUALLY MEANS PEOPLE ARE BEING UNCONFIDENT AF
I'm afraid of my romantic unavailability upsetting them. And I wouldn't like to be evaluated.
