paporomantic

BUT HE'S GONNA BE VERY WELL-FED WHEN HE REACHES THE TOP 

Haha, nice bluff @Dareyth 

4 minutes ago, Dareyth said:

Is ice cream the equivalent of Aven's cake meme?

Yes, it is

@Dareyth (welcome to Arocalypse, btw ) @Cassiopeia Aren't there non-alcoholic drink that taste like certain kinds of wine? (I haven't researched this.) Or is etanol itself necessary for the good taste? 

13 minutes ago, Punable said:

Well, loneliness did NOT make me fall in love, thank you very much.

Oh, so you feel the 'right' kind of love

The 'deficiency love' ('D-love') that's described in that section of the quiz is however a well-studied phenomenon (since Abraham Maslow's work). It's a dysfunctional type of 'love'.

Overall, I feel that the quiz is rather a test for limerence than a test for love.

The problem is that I don't understand (and have never felt) any kind of 'love' that isn't limerence 

13 minutes ago, Punable said:

I didn't feel lonely as I knew that there's someone out there for me.

That's an empowering statement  But it sounds like a religious belief to me 

In this thread, romantics are encouraged to answer aros' questions about romance and, conversely, aros to answer romantics' questions about aromanticism, so that we learn to understand each other better  (This is an analogue of AVEN's 'Asexual-Sexual Q&A Thread'.)

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Let me start with a question to romantics (incl. @Nai @HappyBunny @Punable):

In the romantic love quiz that is currently in use on Arocalypse as an (inaccurate) kind of a 'litmus test', which of the statements give an incorrect impression about the nature of romantic attraction, and which grasp its nature correctly?

The most intense 'horror episode' in my limited experience happened when a pretty girl (1 out of 4 girls in a class of 24 students) asked me to help me with an algebra home task (though she was supposed to be good at it). Judging by the size of the crowd that was watching us, I thought that it was a setup, felt dizzy for a few seconds because of the awkwardness of the situation and answered with a resounding 'no'.

Later in life, I used that experience when an even prettier (subjectively and temporarily) girl asked me to let her copy my homework: my 'no, because reasons' response was instant. She reminded me of this years later and told she couldn't forgive me  It's amazing how much garbage people like to memorize.

There must be a nonzero correlation between sexuality / romanticism and alcohol consumption because the Western culture encourages its use as a kind of a hookup / dating lubricant 

@deltaX WHY ISN'T YOUR AROCALYPSE AVATAR A GREEN SPACE TRIANGLE [Q]

Yeah, and references to elections can be removed too.

However, the fact that a PT and elections are referenced doesn't change the meaning of the ToS (a nonexisting object is allowed to have any property and this won't lead to a contradiction, you know), and the fact that they're mentioned is cheering me up as it might be hinting that a PT and elections will appear once the community grows 

BUT IS IT TRUE THAT THE RIGHT EYE AND THE RIGHT HALF OF THE LEFT EYE ARE OF ONE COLOR AND THE LEFT HALF OF THE LEFT EYE IS OF ANOTHER [Q] [WHICH IS SECTORAL HETEROCHROMIA.] MAYBE I'M JUST TOO COLORBLIND TO NAME THEM PROPERLY.

OK, UPON EVEN CLOSER LOOK, THE RIGHT EYE IS TOTALLY BROWN, THE RIGHT HALF OF THE LEFT EYE IS ALSO BROWN, BUT THE LEFT HALF OF THE LEFT EYE IS GREEN. SO IT'S SECTORAL HETEROCHROMIA.

UPON CLOSER LOOK, I THINK IT'S COMPLETE HETEROCHROMIA. THE RIGHT EYE IS BROWN, THE LEFT ONE IS GRAY.

5 minutes ago, Zemaddog said:

THAT'S ACTUALLY SURPRISINGLY CLOSE.

DO YOU HAVE HETEROCHROMIA IRIDUM [Q] 

26 minutes ago, Zemaddog said:

WHO CAN CORRECTLY TELL ME WHAT MY EYE COLOUR IS?

SCHRÖCOLOR, OBV.

1 minute ago, Vega said:

WAIT DON'T SHAVE ME I JUST DYED MY HAIR.

HAS IT BECOME EVEN GREENER [Q] 

Right, it has a lot to do with aromanticism just like Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies that are under the Asexuality category on AVEN.

Where the new forums are placed doesn't matter much as long as posts there contribute to the personal post count. (As witnessed on AVEN, where Just For Fun posts increase the count but Arcade ones don't, it's possible to make different settings even for forums in the same category on an IPS board).

@Jade How about grouping sexuality + LGBT into one subforum (working title 'Sexuality') and romantic allies + grayromanticism into another (working title 'Romantic Relationships'; the latter forum is less urgently needed than the former and can be postponed)?

I don't find it logical to group sexuality with romanticism in a single new forum.

14 minutes ago, Jade said:

- sexuality

- LGBT issues

- romantic allies

- maybe some grayromantics who want to talk about romance

Yeah, that's basically what I'd like to be added. These are not too many forums, and each of them makes sense (especially seeing the decent traffic of the sexual allies and grey-A forums on AVEN relatively to that entire board).

The romantic allies forum will have traffic problems at first, but I expect the word of mouth to populate it soon enough; or those Arocalyptists who're currently in relationships with romantics can bring their partners here so that we have useful first-hand viewpoints of romantic people on the subject of romance.

10 minutes ago, Louis Hypo said:

How about in miscellaneous, you add another topic simply called LGBT discussions?

It must contribute to the post count, though, for the LGBT pride reason.

In relation to the recent LGBT-related discussions...

Dear admods, do you think it makes sense to create separate forum(s) about sexuality-related topics (maybe a forum about sex with cishets separate from a forum about other sex talk to keep the LGBTIQ+ membership happy)? Or do you want to keep the structure of the board the same in the foreseeable future?

I've redone the test, imagining how I'd behave if my most recent squishy swish* had a crush on me in return (or, for questions talking about unrequited 'love' - how I normally behave when I have swishes).

*The feeling is fortunately gone for now but might relapse.

So @Jade, my current score of 75 is much better than the previous assessment '90-95' that you recorded 

Don't blame me for giving perhaps contradictory answers to some questions - I'm on melatonin to fall asleep better and so my brain isn't functioning that well.

23 minutes ago, Blue Phoenix Ace said:

However, I feel that a lot of questions are an automatic no if someone has never been in a romantic relationship.

I think people who have never been there are supposed to emulate a hypothetical romantic relationship in their imagination and answer how they would feel if they were 'in love' the way they tend to do (e.g. if they formed a couple with someone they'd have a self-proclaimed 'squish' on).

At least that's I was doing. I don't have enough experience to give answers 'proved by the reality' to the questions that discuss being in mutual love because my squishes (or whatever it's called) were never reciprocated; however, I do have a fairly accurate idea of what would have happened if certain girls (whom I had never asked out in reality) had agreed to be my girlfriends.

@Blue Phoenix Ace Imo, being 'naturally aro' is like being cissexual and being 'functionally aro' (the type of an aro that I described in the post that you quoted) is like being transsexual (post-op). I.e. the difference in appearance and behavior is unnoticeable and it doesn't matter much how one has got the body that one currently has.

Speaking of the quiz, I'll need to redo it because I was being too self-loathing when I was filling it out and attributing some psychoses to myself that I had probably never had.