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I care a lot about not looking like a 'special snowflake', both to the general society and to the ace/aro community. If you could get into my head and peer-review my past feelings, you'd likely disagree that I'm 100% aro (i.e. that my suffering was not romantic attraction) no matter how strongly I'd be asserting it.

Anyway, my behavior doesn't depend on my labels, I'm not going to let them rule my life.

@Cassiopeia You can create a spoiler (like the two that Blue has posted above) by highlighting the content to be hidden and then clicking on the eye on the far right of the editor panel. That eye icon is indeed counterintuitive, I realised only a couple of minutes ago that it creates a spoiler (previously, I was writing [spoiler]content to be hidden[/spoiler] tags in posts manually , which is however sometimes a more robust method than using the eye - it avoids bugs that sometimes happen in the WYSIWYG editor when the content to be hidden contains tags like quotes or images).

@Blue Phoenix Ace The appearance of the 'Anyone who isn't aro?' thread has made me wonder: isn't it appropriate to eventually create a forum analogous to AVEN's SPFA (For Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies) but with 'sexual' substituted for 'romantic', i.e. a forum where zedromantic allies (relatives, friends, QP partners, etc.) of arospecs can discuss issues related to the interaction with the arospecs?

@Elise They were appointed by Blue Phoenix Ace.

ASTROCALYPTISTS VS ARTOCALYPTISTS 

HAVE ANY OF YOU HEARD ABOUT CHRIS CANTWELL'S QUANTUM CHESS [Q] MIND = BLOWN. IT'S HAS TOO COMPLEX RULES TO BE PLAYABLE BY A WIDE AUDIENCE, THOUGH.

21 minutes ago, Simowl said:

THE PROFESSOR I'M WORKING WITH AND HIS TEAM WERE TRYING TO FIND SOME OF THEIR WORK AND RESEARCH THAT I (A HIGH SCHOOL STUDENT) COULD UNDERSTAND

IT WAS PROVING VERY DIFFICULT

I WAS TAUGHT THE BASICS OF SPECIAL RELATIVITY THEORY AND DISCRETE PROBABILITY THEORY AT HIGH SCHOOL, BUT THAT WAS IN A GROUP OF STUDENTS TALENTED IN MATH. I'M NOT SURE IF A GENERIC SCHOOL STUDENT COULD UNDERSTAND IT.

GENERAL RELATIVITY [THE BASIS FOR GRAVITATIONAL WAVE STUDY] AND QUANTUM MECHANICS REQUIRE A HEAVY HIGHER MATH APPARATUS THAT'S TAUGHT TO MATH UNI JUNIORS.

6 minutes ago, Vega said:

UNFORTUNATELY OUR THEORETICAL PHYSICS PROFESSOR WAS NOT THE BEST FOR TEACHING AN INTRO CLASS, HE KINDA SEEMED TO FORGET THAT WE WOULD NOT KNOW CONCEPTS AND EQUATIONS THAT ARE OBVIOUS TO MORE ADVANCED STUDENTS.

YEAH, ALAS PHYSICS PROFESSORS ARE OFTEN BAD AT BUILDING LOGICALLY COHERENT COURSES, UNLIKE MATHEMATICIANS.

DON'T ALL UNI-LEVEL PHYSICISTS HAVE TO KNOW [AT LEAST A BIT] AND APPLY THEORY ANYWAY [Q]

I WONDER HOW ANYONE EXCEPT TOTAL GENIUSES CAN APPLY QUANTUM RELATIVITY. IT'S A COMBINATION OF TWO THEORIES THAT ARE CRAZILY COMPLEX ON THEIR OWN. LET ALONE STRING THEORY.

THERE SEEMS TO BE A STRONG CORRELATION BETWEEN STUDYING ASTROPHYSICS AND AROMANTIC ASEXUALITY  [IN THE SENSE THAT THE PERCENTAGE OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE STUDIED ASTROPHYSICS AT SOME POINT - WHICH I'VE NEVER DONE - IS ENORMOUSLY HIGHER AMONG AROCALYPTIST AVENITES THAN AMONG PEOPLE IN GENERAL].

@Cassiopeia NOWHERE DID I STATE THAT THEIR LAUGH WOULD BE A NEGATIVE OUTCOME 

I'LL NEED TO THINK A BIT ON WHETHER TO TELL THEM.

@Cassiopeia BECAUSE OF GENDER PREJUDICE, IT WOULD MAKE MY COLLEAGUES LAUGH A LOT IF I TOLD THEM THAT I KNIT TO CALM MYSELF 

@Cassiopeia IT'S BETTER FOR ME TO FOCUS ON EARNING DOLLARS NOW, SO THAT I CAN RETIRE FASTER. EARNING WILL BE MUCH HARDER WHEN I'M OLDER AND MY MENTAL AGILITY IS WORSE.

STRICTLY SPEAKING, I SHOULDN'T BE FORUMING RIGHT NOW, BUT I'M BEING SLIGHTLY DEPRESSED.

On 5/13/2016 at 8:03 PM, PerformativeSurprise said:

Absolutely not. I have zero desire to have children.  Being aro ace could be effecting things, but I honestly don't think so.  I don't think my personality or temperament are suited to raising children.  I'm not good at relationships in general, and I think that would have a very negative effect on any potential children.  I would feel very irresponsible raising kids, even if I wanted them, since I feel like I would make a bad parent.  I don't think that would be fair to the child at all. 

It's all true in my case too  (except maybe aroaceness).

My distinction may sound strange.

To me, a squish is an attraction whose causes are obvious to me immediately (i.e. I know why I should like the person). A crush is an attraction whose origin I can't explain to myself for at least 2 days, and can only find an answer until I inquire myself deeply.

In short, a squish is a manageable attraction and a crush is an uncontrollable one. But of course other people need different definitions.

Ironically, the definitions of genders are tied to the definition of a crush for me. A 'generalized male' is someone I feel I can never crush on (minus my relatives who were AFAB), while a 'generalized female' is someone who I'm afraid can trigger a crush in me if I'm not careful (plus my relatives who were AFAB).

IT SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING I'LL FANCY DOING WHEN I'M RETIRED AND RUN OUT OF OTHER WAYS TO CHEER MYSELF UP 

12 minutes ago, Vega said:

YEAH MAKING THOSE BRACELETS IS TIME-CONSUMING BUT IT'S REALLY EASY, ESPECIALLY AFTER THE FIRST FEW ROWS.

DO YOU THINK IT'S EASY EVEN FOR SOMEONE SLOPPY WITH ZERO PRIOR EXPERIENCE WITH ANY KIND OF NEEDLEWORK [Q] 

@Louis Hypo HAVE YOU READ THE SHORT STORY 'SLEEPY' BY ANTON CHEKHOV [Q] IT'S ABOUT SITTING A CRYING BABY, A BIT TOO CRUEL, THOUGH [IT CONTAINS VIOLENCE].

IF YOU HAVEN'T, HERE'S ITS TRANSLATION INTO ENGLISH.

IT'S THE RARE CASE WHEN A MATH PROBLEM IS AN INNUENDO 

OK, I'LL DO RESEARCH THEN.

STILL, A THING MADE BY A FELLOW AROCALYPTIST WOULD TRIGGER MORE POSITIVE EMOTIONS THAN ONE MADE ON MY OWN. SO WE'D RATHER MAKE ITEMS FOR EACH OTHER THAN FOR OURSELVES.

HOW MUCH TIME IS REQUIRED TO LEARN TO KNIT A BRACELET / ARM WARMER FROM ZERO [Q]

ON A SIDE NOTE, I WISH I HAD A SWITCH BETWEEN CIS-MALE AND CIS-FEMALE BODIES SO THAT I COULD APPEAL TO BOTH GAYS AND LESBIANS 

OH, YOU KNOW THAT YOU'RE A CAPS ADDICT WHEN YOU KEEP UP WITH TWO CAPSLOCKIAS AT ONCE 

WELCOME TO AROCALYPSE  

AND CONGRATS ON THE INCORPORATION OF AVEN AS A 501[C][3] NON-PROFIT 

2 hours ago, Louis Hypo said:

CRAWLING IN MY SKIN, THESE WORDS THEY WILL BE REAL

WAS THIS MEANT TO BE A LINKIN PARK QUOTE [Q] 

15 hours ago, Cassiopeia said:

ONE THING I LEARNED FROM DEALING PEOPLE FROM THE BDSM SCENE, THAT WHEN OTHERS HEAR BUT DO NOT LISTEN, ONE SHOULD GET OUT ASAP, BECAUSE THAT'S WHEN IT POTENTIALLY ESCALATES.

INDEED  THERE ARE SOME VIOLENT FOLKS THERE WHO DON'T PLAY BY THE RULES.

15 hours ago, Simowl said:

PLEASE MAKE SURE YOU'VE PAID THE OFFICIAL TOLL FEE AND YOU CAN BE ON YOUR WAY TO ENJOY OUR BEAUTIFUL COUNTRY

SORRY, I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THE OFFICIAL FEE IS BUT ARE YOU MAYBE OK WITH THIS [Q]

MAY I PASS NOW [Q]