paporomantic

4 minutes ago, Kojote said:

You could, theoretically, hit all the creep-tastic ones without being 120 or more.

I'd then most likely hit a lot of non-creepy items as well (those that are the milder versions of the creepy ones that I'd hit).

Online tests aren't designed to be 100% accurate anyway (nothing replaces visiting a psychotherapist in person). Several percents of false positives and false negatives are fine for them.

Yes, they're extremes, and those who're sane enough don't score the full 150 points. A pathology is suspected only if the score is >=120.

As I see it, when two people are in reciprocated 'love', their psychoses cancel each other  much like in a skill game where my blunders aren't punished by an opponent who is similarly weak.

To begin with, it's barely possible to find the most compatible human out of 7 billion. Finding for a top-0.001% human in terms of compatibility would be a more practical goal, but it's not mandatory either 

32 minutes ago, RedNeko said:

I've not heard girlflux before, I assume it's a more specific version of genderflux

It is.

According to a master list of genders on Tumblr, it's called girlflux.

Meh. I'm OK with folks making out as long as they're not too noisy (sometimes female moans in my house are way too loud and i start wondering whether some neighbors are just having sex or, all of a sudden, being tortured). When folks make out in public transport, I pity them for being so much not in control of themselves that they can't even wait until they arrive home

I'm essentially out to the relatives (though I don't use the lingo), and they still think that refusing to date is my conscious decision or a consequence of laziness or of seeing how my brother is exhausted by being the sole breadwinner for his sons and lazy wife and nurturing them at the same time.

13 minutes ago, Simowl said:

but I did mention just getting loads of dogs and he said he'd be happy to baby sit if he ever needed to  

Pets are legit (grand)kids too!

I'd just present as I feel like in practice and stop worrying about the theoretical identity 

Being an aro ace makes it much easier because you don't need to worry about being attractive romantically or sexually (which would make it desirable to present as a definite gender because the percentage of people who're polysexual or polyromantic is too small for them to be a 'target audience' in dating).

17 minutes ago, Simowl said:

I spent about a year after hearing about aromanticism thinking "nah I'll meet the right one, I'm not aro"

Tried ace dating sites but got disappointed, eh?

My teenage knowledge of love was deepened a lot by a Social Studies textbook. It was describing love as a pleasurably ecstatic but uncontrollable force, and the latter property repulsed me a lot. I like to be in control of myself.

7 minutes ago, Vega said:

I just realized my hair is technically aro-colored.

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I wish I had your love for vacuuming  Maybe I just have a wrong (too old) cleaner and haven't yet found The Right One™.

6 minutes ago, Cassiopeia said:

Ok, so what should go, and what should stay?

I need time to think about this

Re: pet names - I'd add an extra question about what the terms should be, with few popular terms of endearment as options - sometimes it's hardly possible for partners to agree for pet names to call each other because their favorite animals are different. I'd hate being called a puppy or especially a fishie but would tolerate being called a kitty

Judging by the feedback I once got from romantic aces about such a super-detailed list, I'd advise you to make a short list of main (bullet) points first and then, if there's no major conflict over the short request, proceed to send requests-appendices with finer details of each of the bullet points, one by one. A long list will gross some people out because not everyone is ready to approach a relationship so rationally.

@aussiekirkland You've made me feel broken, haha. Well, I've always known that I am, but I'm repairing myself gradually 

3 minutes ago, RedNeko said:

I'm curious, what would your score be these days?

Do you want me to apply it to my attitude to my, erm, currently most preferred person? I'm not even sure whom to give this title

Just now, RedNeko said:

The test is fun though, I scored 8 on it .

Did you measure your current feelings or did you apply the test to the most intense feelings you've ever had? I did the latter. If you did do too, congrats on being much more predisposed to happiness than me  The score of my current feelings is way lower, lol.

On 4/26/2016 at 1:36 AM, Blue Phoenix Ace said:

James Park, an existential philosopher and author, attempted to define romantic attraction/love in a small book breaking it down into 26 points. The online version may be found here.

OMG, James Park is my hero! I score 90-95 on his test, but I totally share his negative view on 'romantic love' (limerence, in preciser scientific terms). I don't think that having experienced limerence makes one (grey-)romantic; conscious longing to have such an experience once again (or continue it with the current 'loved one') is necessary to make such a conclusion, imho.

In short, a romantic is someone who would like to be 'in love' (limerent), an aro is someone who would hate it.

Also, I adore it that he classifies rational mate-selection as non-romantic 

A corollary is that I pity romantics just like drug addicts 

26 minutes ago, aussiekirkland said:

- A lot of the questions were just filler. Although they didn't specify which ones, a good portion of the test was useless questions to tire out the test taker and make them answer the important ones more honestly

How cruel of them 

I did the test once upon a time and remember that it was extremely tedious and indeed required good knowledge of the US culture...

It described me as an androgynous MtF crossdresser with mild inner conflicts, which is fair enough.