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    Aspec of Stardust
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  1. The way that I have used and thought about aspec is as encompassing a lot of identities and issues that get brought up in the ace and aro communities (I am not agender and so do not have a close tie to that community, and can't speak to that side of things). For example, we often talk about different kinds of attraction, relationships, etc. For folks I know who are questioning their identities and figuring out what labels might be right for them, the idea of "aspec" has been really helpful. It can be hard at first to completely tease apart what exactly is sexual and what is romantic attraction. Someone who is questioning their identity might find a community and some sense of identity with "aspec" even if they don't have very specific labels yet (or ever). Even for me, I have identified as aroace for ~6 years and sometimes still have a hard time parsing what parts of my experience would fall under aromanticism and what parts would fall under asexuality. For me sometimes they are impossible to distinguish between, but I know that they are "aspec" experiences. The "aspec" term also allows for the overlaps in experiences of the ace and aro communities. While they are not exactly the same, there are a lot of things that our communities have in common, and a lot of people who identify with both. The bottom line for me is that this term has been and continues to be very useful for a lot of people, and questioning the legitimacy and validity of the term stands to do more harm than good, especially for folks who are new to these communities.
  2. I'm highlighting aspec related research and content on twitter for pride this month @aspec_stardust! We're only 5 days in but plenty more coming that I think you'll be interested in including. I'll have a round-up post on my blog (aspecofstardust.wordpress.com) at the end of the month too. I also have most if not all of the pdfs for the articles I mention so if there's a resource you'd like to have let me know and I can send it to you.
  3. For pride this month (in the US) I'm highlighting aspec researchers and content creators on twitter! Follow me @aspec_stardust and keep an eye on #AspecResearch and #AspecContent. Round-up will be on my blog at the end of the month (aspecofstardust.wordpress.com)

  4. Use whatever labels work for you! It might be helpful to think about sexuality in the model proposed by the AVEN Triangle: The top line represents the Kinsey scale, the left being homosexual, the right being heterosexual and the third dimension, leading to the bottom point of the triangle, represents sexual attraction. Asexuals lie in the bottom regions of the triangle, which is why you might see the two-toned triangle having only the bottom corner black. AVEN chooses to display the triangle as a gradient, which allows room for demisexuals and grey-asexuals. It signifies that there really is no clear cut black-and-white; it is a continuum. Basically, that who you are attracted to can be thought of as one axis, and how you experience that attraction is another.
  5. You might resonate with this episode of the AOK podcast called Truth can Change and That's Okay with John Arrow who talks about how his identities have shifted over time https://www.aokpod.com/e/30-i-actually-really-like-being-single/
  6. Posted a submission for May Carnival of Aros about a recent embroidery project I finished based on The Lady's Guide to Petticoats and Piracy: https://aspecofstardust.wordpress.com/2020/05/23/rare-and-wild-and-impossible-to-forget/

  7. I'm hoping to eventually be a neighborhood farm witch
  8. wow this is super interesting!! Do you think the rest of the book is worth reading?
  9. I highly recommend The Lady's Guide to Petticoats and Piracy by Mackenzi Lee!
  10. I never had crushes when my friends started having them. Also, I knew from like 10 years old that I wasn't interested in dating, I just didn't have the words to explain for a long time why I knew that was the case. It took me 6 more years to find the word aromanticism!
  11. I love love love tea but I do also really enjoy coffee. I always have so many different kinds of tea on hand but I particularly enjoy spiced black teas like chai and fruity/hibiscus herbal teas. This year I'm working on starting a tea garden! I'm going to try to grow lavender and mint. We'll see how it goes!
  12. @The Angel of Eternity I'm not sure I understand what you mean by speaking activities -- do you mean just like a discussion group where you talk about certain topics? @Naegleria fowleri yeah that sounds like so much fun just to be able to hang out with people in an inclusive environment. I'm going to make the group centered around aromanticism and asexuality (and be careful to not conflate the two for sure @Mark) but I don't want anyone to have to come out if they aren't comfortable and I want to encourage attendance so we won't be picky with who participates as long as everything is respectful. Thanks everyone for your ideas, keep them coming!
  13. I mean I personally consider myself single but I also think I have a different relationship with the word than most of society. Some people see it as being sad or isolating but I don't really find it to be that way. Maybe if I were looking for a romantic relationship being single would be a bigger deal to me, I don't know.
  14. yep this has definitely happened to me but I hadn't seen it put into words before! I think as aros its probably something we are more keenly aware of than alloros.
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