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  1. New blog post about aromantic research for august 2020 carnival of aros is up: https://aspecofstardust.wordpress.com/2020/08/30/aromantic-research/

  2. If you want to be aro and you feel like it's a good fit, then yeah! Sounds like aromantic might be a good fit for you.
  3. I like that I'm really compassionate and take care of people ❤️
  4. Loveless by Alice Oseman has an aroace protagonist and is out in the UK now!
  5. I've always used "aroace" myself. There have been many aroace flags created though, here's a wiki link about them: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Aroace The one I see most often on tumblr these days is the orange and blue one by aroaesflags, but plenty have made the rounds. I would love to use a combination term for myself -- I feel like there are a lot of parts of my experiences and identity that I can't parse into either aromantic or asexual because for me they are so intertwined. I understand how for other people they might not be, and in some ways I experience them differently (especially related to repulsion) but a lot falls in a blurry in-between for me personally.
  6. The way that I have used and thought about aspec is as encompassing a lot of identities and issues that get brought up in the ace and aro communities (I am not agender and so do not have a close tie to that community, and can't speak to that side of things). For example, we often talk about different kinds of attraction, relationships, etc. For folks I know who are questioning their identities and figuring out what labels might be right for them, the idea of "aspec" has been really helpful. It can be hard at first to completely tease apart what exactly is sexual and what is romantic attraction. Someone who is questioning their identity might find a community and some sense of identity with "aspec" even if they don't have very specific labels yet (or ever). Even for me, I have identified as aroace for ~6 years and sometimes still have a hard time parsing what parts of my experience would fall under aromanticism and what parts would fall under asexuality. For me sometimes they are impossible to distinguish between, but I know that they are "aspec" experiences. The "aspec" term also allows for the overlaps in experiences of the ace and aro communities. While they are not exactly the same, there are a lot of things that our communities have in common, and a lot of people who identify with both. The bottom line for me is that this term has been and continues to be very useful for a lot of people, and questioning the legitimacy and validity of the term stands to do more harm than good, especially for folks who are new to these communities.
  7. I'm highlighting aspec related research and content on twitter for pride this month @aspec_stardust! We're only 5 days in but plenty more coming that I think you'll be interested in including. I'll have a round-up post on my blog (aspecofstardust.wordpress.com) at the end of the month too. I also have most if not all of the pdfs for the articles I mention so if there's a resource you'd like to have let me know and I can send it to you.
  8. For pride this month (in the US) I'm highlighting aspec researchers and content creators on twitter! Follow me @aspec_stardust and keep an eye on #AspecResearch and #AspecContent. Round-up will be on my blog at the end of the month (aspecofstardust.wordpress.com)

  9. Use whatever labels work for you! It might be helpful to think about sexuality in the model proposed by the AVEN Triangle: The top line represents the Kinsey scale, the left being homosexual, the right being heterosexual and the third dimension, leading to the bottom point of the triangle, represents sexual attraction. Asexuals lie in the bottom regions of the triangle, which is why you might see the two-toned triangle having only the bottom corner black. AVEN chooses to display the triangle as a gradient, which allows room for demisexuals and grey-asexuals. It signifies that there really is no clear cut black-and-white; it is a continuum. Basically, that who you are attracted to can be thought of as one axis, and how you experience that attraction is another.
  10. You might resonate with this episode of the AOK podcast called Truth can Change and That's Okay with John Arrow who talks about how his identities have shifted over time https://www.aokpod.com/e/30-i-actually-really-like-being-single/
  11. Posted a submission for May Carnival of Aros about a recent embroidery project I finished based on The Lady's Guide to Petticoats and Piracy: https://aspecofstardust.wordpress.com/2020/05/23/rare-and-wild-and-impossible-to-forget/

  12. I'm hoping to eventually be a neighborhood farm witch
  13. wow this is super interesting!! Do you think the rest of the book is worth reading?
  14. I highly recommend The Lady's Guide to Petticoats and Piracy by Mackenzi Lee!
  15. I never had crushes when my friends started having them. Also, I knew from like 10 years old that I wasn't interested in dating, I just didn't have the words to explain for a long time why I knew that was the case. It took me 6 more years to find the word aromanticism!
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