Blue Phoenix Ace

Hmm yeah I could agree with that. I did the best I could and mustered a whopping 11.

I got a 12 on the "quiz". However, I feel that a lot of questions are an automatic no if someone has never been in a romantic relationship. That being said, I never really felt any of that in the one I was in.

I like you a lot more now, because if true I'd be back to being aro . But, I stand firm in my stance that aromantics have never even felt a crush or limerence. (I'm going to go take the test now. I skimmed it before but never got a score)

I wonder what the scale is that they use here. -450? Uh, OK. Is -1000 totally male or something? Why a crossdresser, I have no idea. Never done it, answered the questions honestly, but hey, I'm apparently a crossdresser. I don't have any problem with people doing that, so I guess that's where the score came from. And you know, whenever I vacuum, I just get so turned on. The sound of the dirt going into the vacuum, it's just so hot. I wanna go vacuum the carpets now, even though I did it an hour ago.

I agree, I think one main difference is the jealousy factor. You could be jealous in two ways: 1. That person should belong to you, and you to them (or you should be committed to each other, place each other as the highest importance) 2. A romance would monopolize their time and you wouldn't get to be with them as much If you are experiencing the second one, then it's not necessarily a crush, but the first one is. There's also an obsession with the target of the crush that surpasses how you might feel about a friend or potential friend.

I just added the eyeball by the way.

It was about $200, plus the domain registration, plus the web hosting, plus a few other things. There are some recurring costs for hosting and domain name, and continued support with the forum software. I have a pretty good job, and I think this community was worth it. So, here we are.

I asked for volunteers when I started the forums and I had so many volunteers I had to narrow it down some. I just tried chat and it opened fine. Must have been a hiccup. The developer of this forum software is Invision. I gave them some money and installed their software. I think it was worth it.

Yup, this is still baffling me. I contacted customer support about it. Maybe they'll have a clear answer. It's hard to search the internet (or even just IPS) for "chat" and expect any kind of reasonable answer.

I don't have much control over how chat works unfortunately. Also, are you talking about private chats? Nevermind, I know what you're talking about. The main chat window doesn't show avatars at all. I don't see any settings to toggle this on. Maybe there is a more complicated solution though.

98 The age I hope to live to.

Great! I'm glad they are working out. As for post count on Off Topic, I'm just going to leave it as not counting. Post count means you're talking about aromanticism. I realize a long post about a serious topic in Off Topic takes a lot of energy, but those posts should be done for the sake of discussion, not for points.

facepalm arolove clapping aropride

Ok, I've added the new emoticons. If you insert emotions from the toolbar, then click categories, then click Smileys you will find them all there. Or you can use the following within colons: arolove hugs euphemism facepalm

I will see if I can reproduce the problem on IE. I doubt it is something that could be fixed in the css code but it is worth a shot. Also @Cassiopeia did this problem start recently or has it never worked for you?

Sure, find me appropriate icons and I can add them. I think the size should be 24x24 pixels, but 16x16 is also good. Not sure about the bold/non-bold problem. I've never seen that so it would be difficult for me to fix. I don't have firefox installed, but what happens if you use internet exploder?

I experienced my first (and only) crush at the age of 35. When I finally asked her out and she said no, I felt more relief than sadness. (Is that still a crush?)

I didn't figure this all out until I was 37, so I'd be the wrong person to ask. I guess never being interested in dating would be the biggest sign. But, the lack of a feeling doesn't really smack you in the face as much as the presence of a feeling does.

I just had an idea. The next time that happens, ask the... requestor(?) to step aside and speak privately. Then shut him/her down. They don't have to get embarrassed, and you can be honest with them.

That's awful. I don't think anybody should ask anyone else on a date in front of other people. It's really awkward if they aren't interested. It's kind of like when people propose at a baseball game. Are they really going to say no when they are up on the Jumbo-tron? It's much more respectful to pull someone aside for a private conversation for this sort of thing. It sounds like you handled it pretty well though.

I just added a "not sure" option to the first question. You can change your vote if you'd like. I thought about this same today and I feel like maybe it's the reverse. That is, because I don't want children, I feel no romantic attraction. If I had wanted to make some babies, I might have taken the plunge with somebody just so I could do that, even if I wasn't very romantic about the relationship. Then again, wanting kids wouldn't necessarily change my orientation, just the outcome of ending up in a "romantic" relationship. Does that make sense?

I'm curious how many people here want to raise kids, and if they think their romantic orientation had an effect in that feeling... Enjoy!

Don't feel guilty for sharing the truth with somebody. Sure, it crushes his hopes and feelings, but it's not your fault he feels that way. It's always better for someone to know these kinds of things sooner rather than later anyway. Would you rather him continue to crush on you for months without knowing? I think you did the right thing.

This should be fixed now. They were set to private (which is kinda silly).