cute kitty Meow! Mewo! Posted October 24, 2016 Share Posted October 24, 2016 some of the fans of the webcomic Go Get a Roomie, including me, have been for quite some time now speculating the two main characters, as one asexual romantic, and the other aromantic sexual. Right now the storyline, the aromantic girl is discovering "her love" for the other, and it's kind of forboding for me. I guess that for a person who's prided themselves on their lack of attachment, to love someone, which implies some level of attachment, would be pretty scary, and would require a dramatic storyline when they face the realization of loving this friend of theirs. but, on the other hand, the thing is... the way the writer has been playing out the relationship, this girl is "different" for her, and it looks a lot more like she's just a romantic person who's romance-repulsed. makes it kinda frustrating, when I was reading into it as a representation of aromanticism. The way it's unfolding, it really looks as if she's had romantic feelings all along and just didn't see em. I guess that this is something that people do deal with, and probably on a larger scale than people who are aromantic, IDK, the whole "late blooming" thing is a real trend, no idea if there are more "late bloomers" or asexuals, let how many aromantics there are. anyway it's.... frustrating. I am a huge fan of a few webcomics, and when they randomly have romantic plotlines running.. I'm just annoyed about it. In another webcomic I read, Questionable Content, they're in a story arch that's been focussed on two new characters. one is becoming the friend of one of the more main characters, and the other met one of the less prominent characters, but right now about equal time is spent on both girl's arcs. I'm really loving both of the stories, and even really identify with the second girl, but I'm sooo hesitent about where this is going. with the girl who I've been a lot like in the past, and still now, kind of taking everything literally and not understanding the subtleties of meeting new people. and her mood and attitude towards the world is one I am in a lot of times myself. but I just know, that because they introduced her to the one character, it's gonna be a romantic story by the end of it. and she might even just not be a permanent addition to the plotline as a whole, or who knows. right now I'm getting really comfortable with the plot of this comic, but at some point they're gonna change arcs and I'm gonna be sad about that. and with the other girl's arc, she and the more central character are becoming close buds. and I'm really excited about this, it's like, a qpf or something, they really care about each other, although they haven't yet discussed it. and considering certain details of the plot and the general unawareness of the population of aro and ace existence, I'm bitterly anticipating the moment when boom they're a couple, not friends. it's love between human and machine, look at how edgy this is, love across intelligent species. yeah! ... <_< I just can't appreciate the friendships both characters have now, because of the fear that they'll fall for someone at some point. at least there's a few good solid friendships in the comic already, but there's just never an arc about friendship, all the arcs so far either end up in life changes focussed on one of the characters, or romance if it's an arc between two characters. I want these arcs not to end with romance. but history tells me, they probably will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted October 24, 2016 Share Posted October 24, 2016 I haven't read those webcomics but I chip in with my thoughts on the topic in general. I feel like almost always when someone is portrayed as either aromantic or asexual in media, their arch will be that they develop sexual or romantic feelings for someone. My advice is to read until you see the signs. Then stop and have forever your cannon of the character as aromantic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cute kitty Meow! Mewo! Posted October 25, 2016 Author Share Posted October 25, 2016 maybe I should just get into the fanfiction business hehe. or the webcomics business. and write the stories myself! yeah I wish IDK. I wanna actually get into webcomics as a hobby for my own self. and I know that getting skilled enough to do these things is something that takes time and patience and practice. but I just can't get myself in the motions of practicing. IDK what to do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dodecahedron314 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Speaking of representation of romantic and nonromantic relationships in webcomics...does anyone mind if briefly I rant about the epilogue/"post-canon content" of Homestuck here? So, Homestuck is one of maybe two works of fiction of literally any medium that I've found in which QPRs are not only a thing that canonically exists, but are actually considered normal and just as important as traditional romantic relationships. (They're technically considered a type of romantic relationship under the quadrant system, in which traditional romantic relationships (or "matespritships" in-universe) are considered only one of the four types of romance in existence, but if you look at the definition given of the concept of a moirallegiance, it's almost identical to that of a QPR, just with quadrant system terminology instead of QP terminology. Anyway, moving on.) So, there are a couple of canon QPRs or implicit QPRs that are considered to be just as important as the traditional romantic relationships present in the comic, and that's absolutely amazing and I love it so much. And then the "post-canon content" happened, and one of the main romantic relationships gets an entire wedding scene's worth of closure and happy endings...but one member of the main QPR is just completely missing and we only see her partner looking for her but being unable to find her and the implicit QPR is just entirely ignored. Don't get me wrong, there are a LOT of other problems with this upload, and some of those feed into the frustrating lack of representation of pretty much every QPR that up until now had been pretty well established, but this is just something that specifically really bugs me. The traditionally romantically involved characters get a happy ending, but the QPRs are hardly even mentioned...and the representation was so good up until now...sigh. Rant over. At least there's the epilogue proper to hope that this gets resolved in??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cute kitty Meow! Mewo! Posted October 27, 2016 Author Share Posted October 27, 2016 dang that sounds super annoying too! I haven't read homestuck. tbh on the one hand I sort of giggle a little to myself 'cause as an aromantic I associate elaborate weddings and whatnot to romance, and so feel sort of gratified that there wasn't such a big ceremonial thing. on the other hand, that sounds really dismissive, that they're all like "where's this important person in my life" and that's it. that's like. that's so OW. like, there are ways to give time to a closure for them without it being over-the-top, if that was what was intended. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dodecahedron314 Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 I agree. A giant ceremonial thing would have been 1. really awkward and not at all in keeping with the nature of the relationship, and 2. totally out of character for both of them (as it was, it was kind of out of character for the two characters for whom that actually *did* happen, but honestly there are just a lot of problems with this particular part of the comic in general with continuity and how in-character things are and such), but still...I need something else here! Apparently this is just a "post-canon content" thing that's sort of meant to fill the gap between the end of the comic proper and the epilogue (well, in terms of when it's uploaded rather than the chronology of the story itself...I think? It's confusing and kind of chronologically incoherent), so there's still hopefully a chance for closure with that, but that doesn't make it very much less aggravating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassiopeia Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 I have read some of Go Get A Roomie, I didn't get this far just yet, but I hope it's headed towards a QPR and not the romo. I'm so sick of these kind of plots in the media (indie or mainstream or whatever). Fetishised grey romanticism is the same category as queer baiting. I'm absolutely delighted to read about any a-spec identities and any sort of queer relationship BUT not if it's written for straight fans' fapping sessions. We aren't a damn zoo, our sexuality and feelings should be portrayed realistically and the characters as people. """Redemption arches""" when a-spec characters are magically cured are not for us. At least I found them emotionally distressing and I don't really have time for another dose of self hate. I probably won't be reading these then, it's just not worth it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cute kitty Meow! Mewo! Posted October 28, 2016 Author Share Posted October 28, 2016 exactly! it's like, I eat these story lines up because the person I just identify with them. but the fear of the author tearing it away from me makes me feel defeated.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassiopeia Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 1 hour ago, cute kitty Meow! Mewo! said: exactly! it's like, I eat these story lines up because the person I just identify with them. but the fear of the author tearing it away from me makes me feel defeated.... And it's the same bullsh*t people tell you every time you talk about your feelings. Its not just a character, it's one of the small comforts and sources of reassurance these people have. Turning a queer character straight is about as good as killing them off for melodrama Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cute kitty Meow! Mewo! Posted October 28, 2016 Author Share Posted October 28, 2016 yeah like. it's kinda ironic for me because, like, I'm demi-romantic. so seeing someone be demi-romantic should be gratifying for me right? except the thing is. it isn't, because there isn't any support of aromantic people enough, that's like, more important to me. argh I'm making no sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassiopeia Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 There is difference between the turning straight theme and being demi/gray/lith. Like actual people who are a-spec aren't heartless bad boys who turn into an obsessively romantic dreamboat overnight. Also (lith or gray etc) aroace girls don't turn into virginal sexgodesses for the Man who is the One the minute he walks through the door. These aren't actual people. That's a walking talking sexual/romantic fantasy created to stroke the ego and other bits of someone. And liking pwp porn is fine but lets not call it representation or pretend that it's a realistic human being we see there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cute kitty Meow! Mewo! Posted October 28, 2016 Author Share Posted October 28, 2016 omg soo true. like. I have 4 crushes, from ever. the feelings linger. I call it a crush because what else am I supposed to call it? but it's not an intense feeling. it was for a short period, but the thing is, I never had romantic feelings for them while they were in my life. only after. like, a year after. or more. so dumb! but it's just... it's this lingering feeling, that kinda feels good, but also kinda hurts. sometimes it's like this big pressure on my heart but what am I supposed to do. one of them was a part of my life again, he'd join me and a friend and another friend and play video games the four of us as coop. and i'd just ignore him the whole time. but to keep it from being awkward, I'd have to ignore everyone too. it was torture. I didn't really feel all that different being "with" him again as I did when I was apart from him... it was just awkward. the one crush of mine... she's the most intense one. if she called me up and wanted to reconnect. omg I'd drop everything for her. I know I would. but would that make it the perfect relationship? god know. I'm sure I'd fuck it up even worse if she did decide to call me. I am following her on facebook, and sent a friend request. thankfully she's ignored it (several months) I deleted her number so I can't message her or call her. but is this bcause I'm some kind of sappy romantic person for her? no. it's because knowing that I have the ability to message her, seeing her face as a contact on my phone, is a bullet through the heart. and I don't even feel strongly for her romantically. it's all because, we were close once, I was close with other friends but just because I Feel sort of maybe romantic for her. everything is different. everything is scary and it hurts. I'd just be a trashier friend for her if we were still friends, than I am for my other friends. it doesn't change who I am, it just makes my flaws more easy to abuse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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