nonmerci Posted November 18, 2022 Share Posted November 18, 2022 So I was wonfering if just aro is a good label for me or if aro and ace is better. (I'm not a fan of aroace for me, just realized this night lol, cause even if it is technically the short for "aro and ace", the fact they are put in the same word makes it sounds like they are linked which is not how I experience my identity... aro ace would have sounded better but still weird) I don't really know why I am wondering that now. It's just that I was thinking to something last night, I don't even remember what, and the words "just aro" came to my mind as a description for me instead of aroace and since I'm asking myself questions lol. It's not like I don't fit the description of "asexual". But I connect a lot more to my aro identity and usually, except if it is important to the topic, I would say I'm aro and only add ace in parenthesis if I mention it, aka "aro (and ace)". And usually the reason I do it is because I read it is important to say when you speak from an aroace perspective and not from an alloaro one, so we highlight the fact that our sexuality affects our relationship to aromanticism. It's not like I particularly feel the need to say I'm ace. See what I mean ? I also connect more with the asexual identity. It took me years to enter an ace forum though I subscribe to arocalypse the second I realize I was on the spectrum (thought I was greyro back then). And though I stayed on AVEN, I'm not gonna lie, it is mainly for the meme thread and the people who are in that thread. I can't explain why but I don't really feel the need to talk about my asexuality or to give that much of my time to the acr community (which I'm ashamed to admit cause I do believe the visibility of the ace community is as important as the one of the aro community, I just feel less concerned for some reason I don't get). Finally I tend to connect more easily with other aros and I feel more connected to the "philosophy" of the community (of course I know that aros don't all think the same way, it's just a general tendency about how we present things or whay kind of debates we have). Anyway all of this to say : are there just aros here who would be comfortable to explain why they chose this label ? I know I see some in the past but not sure they are still here. If not, does someone have links to just aro blogs or articles or things like that ? It would help me to see clear. Thanks. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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