lovely-lavender Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 Because of how highly romantic attraction is valued, and how desirability itself is based upon it- does anyone else ever get a bit of a power rush when people admit being invested in you romantically? Sometimes I get repulsion, sometimes a bit of guilt. And sometimes I can’t bring myself to care. I like feeling out of reach. I can’t help but laugh sometimes when people make those advances towards me cuz b u d d y, you’re barkin’ up the wrong tree; I’m flattered nonetheless. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aro_elise Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 actually no, it's just uncomfortable for me. i want people's attraction to me to be the same as mine toward them, whether platonic, sexual, or none. (oh except i'd like if anyone found me aesthetically attractive.) in an ideal world, of course; i don't expect it to work out that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nix Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 My first internal reaction is panic, then pity takes over. ‘I’m sorry, but that road leads to nowhere’ I am flattered of course, but I do shut it down immediately. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeltaAro Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 (edited) 10 hours ago, lovely-lavender said: Because of how highly romantic attraction is valued, and how desirability itself is based upon it- does anyone else ever get a bit of a power rush when people admit being invested in you romantically? I'm not flattered. My feeling can rather be described as: "Run to the Hills" Edited May 15 by DeltaV 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuySomeCheese Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 I definitely relate- I feel super bad about it later and the “power rush” (idk if that’s how I’d describe it for me but I don’t know what other words I’d use, so borrowing yours for now!!) is always coupled with Panic but it is a bit nice XD 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roboticanary Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 Not sure I'd call it a power rush, but I do feel good when I find people who are interested in me and my life, which people tend to lean towards if they look for romance. Its nice when someone thinks highly of me. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sili Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 Honestly, the few times someone has confessed to me, its been confusion. Like, "Ok, erm.. Why?" Which likely isnt a good response, let alone the wanted response, but is generally the only response I can manage. Just... why do you have a crush on me? 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pulchritudinous_toast Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 Honestly, yeah. Although, it's almost instantly followed by intense repulsion and pity/guilt. But there is a certain sort of... confidence I acquire from it, at least at first? Like "Haha, I must be hot sh*t then, anyway... sorry, no." The first time I was confessed to, it was like that too; I was flattered at first, then quickly became terrified as all my body and soul went nope. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
queer_kaleidoscope Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 (edited) When someone has a crush on me it's just this weird tornado of negative emotions. I mostly experience a lot of repulsion/disgust and guilt. I remember once I found out my closest friend (at the time) had a crush on me and I actually I started shaking and sweating and feel sick. I also felt guilty for not being able to reciprocate his feelings, especially since he was going through a lot at the time and I thought that me being able to be in a romantic relationship with him would help. Edited May 15 by queer_kaleidoscope 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pulchritudinous_toast Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 40 minutes ago, queer_kaleidoscope said: When someone has a crush on me it's just this weird tornado of negative emotions. I mostly experience a lot of repulsion/disgust and guilt. I remember once I found out my closest friend (at the time) had a crush on me and I actually I started shaking and sweating and feel sick. I also felt guilty for not being able to reciprocate his feelings, especially since he was going through a lot at the time and I thought that me being able to be in a romantic relationship with him would help. That sucks, it's the worst when a friend confesses, especially in that type of situation. I'm sorry that happened to you :( 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whirl Posted May 16 Share Posted May 16 Like a lot of things related to romance, in theory I love it but when it actually happens I feel repulsed and terrified. But after the negative feelings have passed I do feel a lot more confident. 13 hours ago, roboticanary said: Its nice when someone thinks highly of me. Exactly, to have someone think highly of you is great! I just wished it was more normalized in a platonic way :/ A lot of my "crushes" were just people I deeply respected and admired, but back then I didn't even know that you could feel those things without romantic attraction, so I mislabeled my feelings. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arsenic Posted May 16 Share Posted May 16 It is uncomfortable. Just uncomfortable. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeltaAro Posted May 18 Share Posted May 18 On 5/15/2022 at 6:03 PM, Sili said: Honestly, the few times someone has confessed to me, its been confusion. Like, "Ok, erm.. Why?" Which likely isnt a good response, let alone the wanted response, but is generally the only response I can manage. Just... why do you have a crush on me? To me this is just so ... surreal and absurd. Someone having a crush on ME, yeah that perhaps happens in a parallel universe but not this one! So I want to get out of this situation ASAP. I probably get across as extremely rude. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paisfp Posted May 18 Share Posted May 18 Honestly I’d like to think I’d be confident in that situation but 1.) I’ve never been confessed to and 2.) I’d probably be uncomfortable or nervous in that situation 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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