boothcreek Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Hi everyone, my name is Anna and I am an Aro Ace(well, autochorissexual really but not everyone know what that means so I just go with Ace for those not in the know) Gal in her late 20's. Live and work on a Ranch raising livestock and gardening in the beautiful Rocky Mountains of SE British Columbia Canada, and work 3 different jobs on the side to support that life-style(can it be called that when you are not really ever home to enjoy it?). English is my second language, German my first, although I have to say over the last few years my german has suffered greatly, although I still catch myself trying to mix the grammar from both languages, so if something in my writing seems weird, I am having an off(tired) day and keep mixing up my grammar. I am a rather hermit-like person outside of work, and according to family even was that way back when I was 3-4 yrs old, punishment for me was when my parents made me invite "friends" from school to play at my house *shudders*. I paid my dues socializing during the day at school/work, I don't want to bring that stress home ! Crushes, love, and the whole emotional desperate need of being with a specific person always baffled me, I always thought it to be some sort of obsessive illness/psychosis that those people should go in and get treated for, it doesn't seem healthy. I always chalked this thinking up to my less-than-social character, and maybe the idiots I was surrounded by. So my teen years were quite confusing, although I knew I was Ace in my early/mid teens(read about in a medical text I was reading in the school library of all places, and it fit nicely. People are nice, and sex is a totally natural thing but I have no desire to partake). The Aromantic bit took a little longer to figure, right around the 20 yr mark when I let my mother push me into a relationship with a guy who was very obviously crushing on me, in hopes, maybe you get feelings(both physically and emotionally) for a person after a while- maybe? Possibly? Well, that didn't work out well. Stumbled over the term "Aromantic" trying to figure out why I don't seem to click at all emotionally with what I judge to be perfectly good people(either male or female), as friends yes, but never more. I even would think to myself:- we get along well, have so much in common, in my friends when I see them get along that well that pre-ludes into a mutual romantic phase between them,- and here I will drop the whole friendship like a hot rock if they hint at romantic interest in me(probably with a look of disgust for the other person having ruined a perfectly good friendship). Anyways, enough of my rambling. I am looking forward to a lot of interesting reading on this forum, I am more of a lurker than a participant really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aihpen Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Hi Anna! Welcome to Arocalypse I'm a German native speaker as well though I still live in Germany I hope you'll enjoy your time here whether participating or just lurking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassiopeia Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Welcome Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedNeko Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Nice to meet you Anna. Welcome to the forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zuzulien Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Anna, welcome to Arocalypse!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Welcome to Arocalypse! Hope you enjoy the community here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quinoa Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Welcome! Have some ice cream! I also realized I was asexual before I realized I was aromantic. I think that's true for a lot of aro aces. Sexual attraction was super alien, but romantic attraction seemed less well defined, at least for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boothcreek Posted June 28, 2016 Author Share Posted June 28, 2016 thanks everyone! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlexisS Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Welcome! I'm also an autochorissexual, so I know what it means On 2016년 6월 27일 at 3:07 AM, boothcreek said: Stumbled over the term "Aromantic" trying to figure out why I don't seem to click at all emotionally with what I judge to be perfectly good people(either male or female), as friends yes, but never more. I even would think to myself:- we get along well, have so much in common, in my friends when I see them get along that well that pre-ludes into a mutual romantic phase between them,- and here I will drop the whole friendship like a hot rock if they hint at romantic interest in me(probably with a look of disgust for the other person having ruined a perfectly good friendship). I hear you- I've felt the same way about being in (romantic) relationships. Also, I've had mixed feelings, sad and annoyed, when the others showed romantic interest in me. I look for an escape route quickly when it happens. Anyways, hope you enjoy your time here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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