asexualpanda27 Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 If you're confused about what you want or don't want, about whether it's okay to want a relationship even though you're arospec, if you're worried nothing will ever work out because you think your orientation just too complicated, here is a sign saying it is possible to for it to work out. I went through high school questioning my aro identity because I wanted a relationship but I just didn't seem to have romantic feelings. After years of questioning, I settled on the term aroflux, but I don't really feel romantic attraction. Mostly I flux between alterous and platonic attraction for people. I wanted a relationship similar to the commitment and depth of a romantic relationship because I'd never seen anything different. A queerplatonic relationship might've been more up my alley, but I'd never seen one. I didn't know how it would work. Generally, I just felt really lonely. And sometimes I wondered who could ever love me. Someone with fluctuating emotions that aren't even romantic. But then I came to college. And I found someone who loves me aroflux ace and all. Neither of us are really sure what we feel for each other. A lot of times our feelings aren't romantic. But we decided to give being partners a try. And they make me really happy. My feelings aren't romantic. I'm not even sure they're alterous a lot of the time. But I love them deeply in some way, and I know they love me. It's still a really new relationship, so we don't know where it's going, but I wanted to give you all a little hope. If a relationship is something you want but fear you'll never have, here is a sign that it is possible. Even if you're arospec. 19 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 thank you I love my best friend deeply...but idk if we could ever have a relationship or if it would even be desirable. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asexualpanda27 Posted March 3, 2021 Author Share Posted March 3, 2021 22 hours ago, alto said: thank you I love my best friend deeply...but idk if we could ever have a relationship or if it would even be desirable. And that's okay too! I love all my friends deeply, but I wouldn't want to have an exclusive relationship with all of them. I don't know how to explain what makes my relationship with my partner different from what I have with my other friends. Do you want a relationship with your best friend? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueerAroAce Posted April 25, 2021 Share Posted April 25, 2021 Really needed to hear this? thank you! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted May 17, 2022 Share Posted May 17, 2022 On 3/3/2021 at 11:29 AM, asexualpanda27 said: Do you want a relationship with your best friend? I don't know. I could see myself being happy with any one of my besties at this point. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asexualpanda27 Posted May 18, 2022 Author Share Posted May 18, 2022 On 5/16/2022 at 9:14 PM, alto said: I don't know. I could see myself being happy with any one of my besties at this point. :) In the end It’s whatever you and your friend(s) are confortable with 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClearSkiesAhear Posted June 25, 2022 Share Posted June 25, 2022 Thank you for the reassurance :] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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