QueerAroAce

Craving that deep non romantic connection? Yes I felt it went I watch that movie, I feel it when I see platonic marriages, cherished friendships irl that are bounderline qprs, sci fi/supernatural stories where the beings have telepathy or soul connections or meld into each other. Gets me everytime. While I wish for that type of connection, I'm not ready for our closest equivalent to it so I'll try to pursue it when I'm ready for one.

Really needed to hear this? thank you!

I want my friendships to be celebrated, just the length alone of my friendships have outlasted marriages. Why wouldn't I want to celebrate the amazing people in my life? Gosh this could be so exciting making up traditions and such.

My advice? Platonic cuddle companions where the boundaries and ground rules are set upfront and any changing feelings are communicated so you can distance. Build up a friendship connection first to get comfortable though. Many love the skinship but not all want a relationship so best of luck!

Personally felt as if it was me typing this post, it hurts knowing that friendships are not prioritized like other relationships are. My bonds felt even more flimsy when I realized my feelings for them no where matched, theirs for me. That's how I know for sure that I want qpp(s), individual(s) that will invest the same kind of interest and commitment into our platonic connection. Sadly haven't found a partner or potential candidates for that. I also want other platonic connections that may not be QPRs, with people who don't make me feel insecure when it comes to our friendships not make me play second fiddle to their other romantic/sexual involved ones. People who also consider me family like I do for them.

Completely agree with you! People should work on themselves to not carry their unresolved issues into their relationships. Must've been difficult for you! Glad to hear about your self discovery & that you're pursing what you want. Hope I'm not overstepping, I've been really into articles and videos about platonic co-parenting like between friends to raise children? Or platonically become a family together! Could also be an option? Either way hope you have people to help support you in your endeavors!

Personally I feel like I can resonate with your post, took me a long time to accept I could be ace and finding out that I could be aro? Just didn't have enough energy to deal with that. Always rationalising because I love romance, I didn't see myself in a heternormative pairing though, always thought one day I could have that with a platonic friend. Untill I realized the majority values sexually/romantically involved pairings over platonic ones. I hope to be someone's special someone like in a QPR, because mutual commitment & spending my life together with a lifepartner sounds great, especially if they respect my need for space. Do you know what your boundaries & non negotiables are? Some of mine are all potential candidates must be my friends before I consider them for anything else, I know what types touching I would like to receive and give (with their consent) I know what Relationship dynamics I'm comfortable with (open to poly) I wouldn't mind living seperately or living together one day.

As far as platonic dating goes, I use queer apps like taimi to look for cuddle companions + friendships. While I do want a QPR/QPP or just to be platonically in a Polyamorous Relationship I'm not in a place to pursue one. There's also discord groups for finding QPPs/ ace/Aro dating. It would be awesome to have an app like that! Gets a bit tiresome explaining how things would work to people that are under the ace/Aro umbrella.

Hey! I wonder about that as well but there are discord groups for finding QPPs & making QPRs, I've never used tinder before though. Also I use queer dating apps to look for cuddle companions? Like taimi for my country.