Alexander Posted November 23, 2020 Share Posted November 23, 2020 Hello there. Well, this is my first post. I am Alexander - a 18 years old, aroace (pan-oriented) man. I have a queer platonic crush on one of my best friends. Their name is Rainn. They're nonbinary, demisexual and 16 years old. They are currently questioning their romantic orientation, however they think they're probably attracted to women and overall feminity. So I doubt the option that they could fall for me. We had known each other for a few years now (I was about 11 and thet were around 9 when we first met). You could say that we're childhood friends. I had a huge squish on them back then. But after being best friends with them for years I kinda developed a queer platonic crush on them. They're for 100% not aromantic and they want to have a romantic relationship with someone (preferably a girl, they're not sure yet though). Since they are on asexual spectrum and we talk about LGBTQ+ a lot they know pretty much about aromanticism. They know what QPR, QPP, smush or squish is. Should I tell them that I want to be in QPR with them? I am kind of worried that their future romantic partner would be jealous or something like that. I mean, I was in like 5 romantic relationships before I realized I was aroace (two with girls, another two with boys and one with agender person, but nothing worked for me). And I can for sure say that people get jealous for no reason when they're falling in love. I don't understand it at all. But I am still worried. Should I confess to them? It's just that my feelings for them are really strong. We have a unbreakable connection, so I doubt anything could end our friendship. It just feels right. Kind of like when people who feel romantic love are like "they are the love of my life". I am the same with Rainn, but platonically. Should I confess to them anyway or keep those feelings to myself? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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