Apathetic Echidna Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 As I didn't want to go off-topic on another matter I decided to make a new topic. @Mark was the one to give me this thought by saying Quote I think what causes problems is that many aros want to romantic coded things outside of romantic relationships often with friends. Which does require challenging concepts like "I don't kiss/have sex with/hold hands with/date/snuggle/share certain thoughts/etc with friends. I'll only do those with my (potential) partner/fiancée/spouse." I know it is possible to form friendships that allow for these behaviours. I created a few intimate friendships while going through my education when I was meeting lots of people still working out what a friendship is and their friends were the constant while romantic partners were a fluctuating factor. I also know some aspects of the friendships will change over time as my friends settle for someone and/or have children. I have heard it said that it becomes harder to make good friends as you grow older, and the friends you do make already tend to have a preconceived notion of friendship that they can be quite inflexible about (so they are less likely to embrace romance coded behaviours in a non-romantic way). Going through my twenties I have noticed a drop off in casual intimacy in social situation as more people are in relationships and fear being accused of cheating or to avoid their partner feeling jealous. So asking the older members here, are friends really harder to make? and are your teens to twenties the only time you really have to form intimate friendships (unless you are really lucky, like QPR level lucky)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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