Apathetic Echidna

14 minutes ago, IceHurricane said:

L/Light

for some reason I imagine this would be one long abuse-fest....and the ship I have been neck deep in was Credence/Mr. Graves! ^{(woot to any other Gradence/Gravebone followers!)} and yeah, there was some bluring, but at least I could generally keep the authors straight, I just blurred all the fics they wrote....unless they were particularly epic. 

One of my friends was into Naruto shipping and there are some pretty epic love triangles to octagons that were created in fanfic, but I find I can't add to ships. A triangle is about the limit. Even in canon, the more people in the love bubble the less interested I am, which has led to me dropping some book series permanently.  

Harry/Draco has so much stuff to read or see, that ship will never die out! some of the memes, and especially 'Harry Potter - Oh, you touch my tralala' will always be entombed in my mind with fondness. I remember a year in high school where that clip would be mentioned every 20 minutes. 

Yay! my 100th post!

@IceHurricane you have a crazy paralleled mind to be able to hold that many things straight. I think my limit is about 13 or so, but that was at school and counting text books and required readings along with my personal pleasure reading interests. 

Just for interest, what ships are you reading now -or maybe just tell me the fandoms. Are they similar or are they very different? I would think different would be easier to keep straight....

 I have basically out-read my recent ship, so I may start seeking new work  though I am basically in love with a couple of writers and will follow them to their new fandoms rather than part with their writing styles. 

Franco Interlenghi

5 hours ago, IceHurricane said:

I'm currently reading 13 fics right now

are they all of different ships? 

that is crazy! ......although at the height of my shipping fever a few months ago I was reading 21+ fanfics in a weekend, all the same ship though so my brain wasn't too taxed. 

In manga form I also liked Ouran High School Host Club, same with Skip Beat and Perfect Girl Evolution (The Wallflower), they start well then get tangled in their own little ridiculous mini-events (which with Skip Beat seem to get more and more romantic) Kyoko Mogami and Sunako Nakahara are both so anti-romance at the beginning of both stories. Oresama Teacher might end up dodgy too, but I like the first few volumes.I have read Death Note a few times, but I refuse to end the series. Same with Vampire Knight. I only really liked the beginning of Vampire Knight because I wanted to go to a boarding school with vampires, but the plot in that gets weirdly incestuous, at least the art was good.  I like Fruits Basket, but I think that is because it was a massive thing at my High School and I have nostalgia for it being a good thing back then. I haven't read it in 10 years, but all the books are still on my shelf. The Friendly Winter is a cute manhwa that made me really think. I actually have a list of all the mangas I have read/have copies of electronically or otherwise and it takes 9 pages, though most of them are oneshots. .....uh, apparently I also have all 23 volumes of Hana Kimi? when did that happen? Wolf Guy has good art but a seriously horrific storyline. My list only gets worse from there so I am going to stop now......

For anime, The Twelve Kingdoms is based on a novel series and the anime goes up to the 4th book so storylines are left unfinished, but it by far my favourite! Cowboy Bebop is also up there in the favourites. Both of those barely have any romance or sexual content, yet still have intriguing plots and great world building (see Western media it is possible!!). Excel Saga is divine madness, and the romantic plot continually gets stalled. I will say the English dub is better for Excel Saga because the American voice actress for Excel Excel can speak like a machine gun. Most things Studio Ghibli of course. Wolf's Rain is beautifully sad, and Yoko Kanno does a beautiful job with the music but the Steve Conte songs are grating. Gankutsuou, The Count of Monte Cristo is pretty but the music is again a let down sometimes. Like seriously Jean-Jacques Burnel's songs sound out of key half the time. At least the plot is closer to the book than the other movie adaptions I have seen. Then of course there are things like Otogi Zoshi, Erased, Orphen, Petshop of Horrors, Patema Inverted where I don't really know why I like them....I should watch them again to see. 

I just mentioned this in some other topic, but I am all about posting everywhere so......

In real live I never ship anyone, if anything I anti-ship (is that even a thing?) 

In fiction it generally has to be at least hinted at in canon, otherwise I think the characters are better off without romance. Generally I like angst ridden fix-its that don't get fluffy, generally because I like one character and I want them to be happy in any way possible. 

I don't seem to ship QPRs unless they are another form that the fix-it story takes. 

YMBAI

you feel a deep sense of loss and disappointment when you find out one of your favourite songs is about love

I watched a movie and when one character started questioning the point of the romantic plot I may have yelled 'Exactly!" at the television. I sort of startled myself.....then continued doing sudoku until the action scenes. 

@Blue Phoenix Ace on AVEN I found this one better than their wiki page

http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/119238-a-list-of-romantic-orientations/ 

and that is all I was really thinking of for here, a pinned topic which is a list, rather than a wiki page with info like in the FAQ

There should be a topic pinned in either the welcome forum or the aromantic discussion forum listing all the known romantic orientations, maybe created by one of the mods or @Arocalypse ? Having an on-site list that new labels can be suggested to and edited in as they appear would be a good thing. It might help new members find terms for themselves if they want to, and also be eye opening to all members about the variation that is out there!  

I don't think I researched very hard, yet I have found many labels. When I mention some of them on other sites some people are surprised and say things like 'goodness, that is me! I'd never heard that term before'. So I think it would be nice if there was a comprehensive list here I could point unsure people to. It would also expand the exposure this site gets. 

10 hours ago, Dodecahedron314 said:

To be perfectly honest, if I weren't romance-repulsed, dating someone for the express purpose of stealing their nice clothes is totally something I could see myself doing. I just have a weakness for really nice jackets, okay?

ha ha, yeah! go speed dating and the first question you ask is what size clothing the other person wears so you have a better chance of stealing clothes that fit!

On 15/11/2016 at 4:58 PM, UncommonNonsense said:

Your best friend meets another aro person and is interested in this person

Explain aromantic to your friend then prep them for rejection, because the way I see it the aro object of affection is quite likely to flat out reject or be repulsed by romantic advances. 

If the aro also decided to get into the relationship I would then drill my friend on consent. Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean you can hold hands, hug, kiss or snuggle freely, and one time consent does not make it a free for all. 

So yes, I guess I would be grudgingly supportive, but vocally pessimistic. 

On 25/05/2017 at 3:59 AM, TheGreatUnstitched said:

Ohhh that thing that couples do where they like seeing their significant other in their clothes. Like it's just your shirt??? On them? Why do you like this so much? Although I do feel like this might just be coming from that it's a trope in a lot of fanfiction. 

I used to want to date lots of boys from the surrounding private schools so I could have a collection of school blazers in my wardrobe......but I don't think that is the same thing....maybe I got caught up in the trope fandom in my own aro way....

9 hours ago, Holmbo said:

 

It's always sad when someone you think might be a potential friend romozones you
It feels impersonal somehow. That maybe they talked to you only because of involuntary romantic urges rather than a conscious decision.

This. So much this. And knowing how messed up romantic relationships can get they might not even like you as a person without those involuntary romantic urges. 

Penelope Cruz

You won't be shunned, no shunning allowed. 

But light-heartedly post something that you did or think that might be making the #noromo tag work a bit extra-hard. 

or maybe just hang around and judge me for mine, which is 

I watched Twilight last night and enjoyed it

it worked as a lens and set everything on fire, the oxygen in the air, the sand, the glass! fire! flames! kablwey!

I would rather be in charge of a fast food deep fryer than get married

On 19/01/2017 at 2:13 PM, aussiekirkland said:

Prom/ball culture is a huuuuge thing in Australia.

People are shocked when I say I didn't bother going. I had a dress and a date, but I couldn't bring myself to cough up $60 to pay for a night of finger food, Michael Jackson music (it was the year he died) and seeing the hetero couple with the rhyming names be awarded the sash for 'Best Highschool Couple'. No one I have talked to had particularly good memories of their formal, religious school or otherwise, it was all about the burnouts in the carpark drinking beer at the afterparties. 

On 20/01/2017 at 6:51 AM, SoulWolf said:

One of the girls in my class actually said many years later that when she heard that all girls have to shave, she thought she was supposed to shave everything... legs, arms, hands, toes... everything.

I knew a girl like that. I asked her 'why?' because she had dark hair, I asked her 'why?' because it looks better she said, I asked 'to who?' her mother she said. And she was the shiest person I have ever met. Some messed up stuff going on in that fam. 

On 22/01/2017 at 4:06 AM, Untamed Heart said:

that he liked women who "took care of themselves"

this is so funny! All of my friends see this sentence in a sexual way after one girl went on a rant email to a guy from a dating website. A basic translation is "Seeking female who can supply all her own pleasure as I can't"

I like wearing dresses in the house, but outside doing things pants are just so much more useful. Especially pants with pockets that actually fit stuff. 

I find my armpits slimy if I shave, it just feels wrong, that may have to do with the deodorant I use. But I would prefer to not shave than change my deodorant. My grandmother hates armpit hair, but she doesn't discriminate, man, woman, whatever, they are all 'under jungles' and hideous. I occasionally wax my legs because I am weird and actually find it a mix of fascinating and pleasurable, and maybe there is some social pressure too. I have been publicly judged and shamed before about not shaving my legs, and the thought of it happening again makes me sad rather than angry or ambivalent. Shaving is prickly, I don't get why anyone would do it. Waxing is fun, getting the angles right by yourself can be hard though  

I don't really get where all this pink for girls blue for boys came from. It only started in the 1920s or something, as historically pink was seen as light red, which red was a man's colour and blue was associated with serenity and the Virgin Mary. A colour that wouldn't stir the blood of little girls. 

Due to anatomy bras are a constant companion, but seriously most were designed by men. Who else would have thought to put the adjusting buckles right at the back of the straps, so you would have to take the whole thing off to fix the straps. Most of the time the buckles are somewhere on your shoulderblade so they are visible unless you are wearing heavy material. Is it just to be able to spot at a distance from the back who is or isn't bra-less when wearing thin fabrics?! also, why do only smaller sized bras seem to have cute fabrics? oh, a bra with bees and beehives pattern! and only $1 on sale! I wonder what the largest size.......oh......00A cup  

using a gross generalisation from an observation of a very small number of people it seems the larger breasts a young adult cisfemale has, the more classical stereotyped feminine she is, at least for first impressions and acquaintance-ship. 

On 26/08/2017 at 5:21 AM, NullVector said:

@Apathetic Echidna Posting stuff from The Mighty Boosh in a "totally random" thread should probably count as cheating  

not The Mighty Boosh......

I emailed one of my oldest friends and came out to her as kinda an afterthought in one of the paragraphs (she is currently overseas). I hear nothing for a week. Then I get a reply: I didn't know those words so I researched, It makes so much sense! The flags are cool. 

I am soo giving her a huge hug when I see her at the airport. 

On 26/08/2017 at 4:26 AM, NullVector said:

I wonder: have you also found it a lonely and isolating experience sometimes, having these sorts of "dark" thoughts about our likely future?

I guess I don't talk about it with friends and I have said pretty much all I have to say on it to my family already. So I guess it is isolating. I don't drag the conversation out so I don't know which of my friends might agree and which might not, but the same can be said of religion.

I don't think it is particularly lonely, and is it dark to expect the world to work in cycles? I have read about plagues in history books all my life so when the SARS outbreak happened my reaction was 'oh, that makes sense'. I believe a lot more people are worrying about it or in denial, if they are thinking about it at all, because of the news and publications talking about the end of the effectiveness of antibiotics. It was over 5 years ago I found out there are several strains of resistant tuberculosis (my own personal horror disease phobia) in PNG, some afflicted individuals are brought to Australia for isolation and treatment. That was the point in time I decided to support voluntary euthanasia, because if I get untreatable TB I am offing myself quick smart. 

I don't know if my attitude to all of this is considered healthy...probably not. Which may also be the reason why I don't tend to bring it up. I guess I would be the downer in a conversation as most of the people I am around are the live largely for today and give little thought for tomorrow-people, but then I kinda fit in with them, they don't care beyond our generation, I think we are all doomed. Yay, friend group high-5 for the now! saying that, we are quite protectionist about the environment for several different reasons. 

On 26/08/2017 at 4:26 AM, NullVector said:

Too much of the discussion is focused around how to avert catastrophe, whereas catastrophe is probably already upon us now

Yup. I watched a documentary about the bushfires in Tasmania a few years (maybe not quite 2 years?) ago and one of the scientists basically stated something along the lines of "people have been waiting for sure signs of global warming, well it has happened. Fires like this have NEVER happened here before. Global warming is upon us" 

yet governments still aren't taking it seriously. Simple changes could change so much! soz for the wall of text, I'll stop myself before I start a rant, though if you ask I will happily continue the rant....and try to tie it to the topic. 

On 24/08/2017 at 5:20 AM, Holmbo said:

Legally Blonde

Possibly The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert? one character's partner just died, and the other two have issues but are single. At the end of the movie they have begun healing because of friendship and understanding. Most of the pain in the movie is based on failed romantic relationships.

John Tucker Must Die? maybe that is less anti-romance and more anti-heteronormative dating and cheating reactions?  

Using the info framework provided by the OP: 

I'm from Australia (often mixed up with Austria and/or New Zealand) which is located in the south of the world. A stereotypical Australian is athletic and sun-bleached-blonde with a tan, but that's a bullshit stereotype. 

 We are most famous for Kangaroos and being 'Down Under', and a lot of famous rock bands come from Australia (AC/DC,  INXS, Crowded House, Cold Chisel etc)(also Savage Garden. SAVAGE GARDEN!!! 90s pop is the best pop IMO).

So what is it like to live in Australia? I am on the south coast so we have seasons and our temperatures can go between like 0 Degrees Celsius in the winter and +45 in the summer depending on where you live. With hybrid plants we are able to grow most fruit, grains and vegetables. Banana, avocado and custard apples grow only a few kilometres away from apple orchards and berry farms, with grapes and olives growing everywhere in between. 

Australia is considered home to the oldest continuous culture in the world and because of that many people think that Aboriginal cultures were 'stuck' in a 'primitive' form, and don't think that is offensive. Australia is seen as either a multicultural melting pot or a racist backwater. Also we seem to change our political leaders twice as fast as we elect them. 

Bonus Safety Tip: Bring bottles of water everywhere. 

Resurrecting old threads!!!!

I don't remember my dreams most of the time. The most recent one I remember is I was trying to cook and I was making a dough, bread or pasta or something, but the flour wouldn't mix! it just stayed dry and powdery like that magic dry sand. I got more and more frustrated then everything caught fire.