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Status Updates posted by aro_elise
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off topic but after i relapsed with self harm i asked my roommate to take my blades (and the one from the blender, in case). it was uncomfortable but i'm kind of proud of myself. you have to make deliberate decisions to heal.
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It's good that you have friends like that. I think it's really important to recognise that we can't do everything by ourselves (actually, it may be unhealthy to tell ourselves that we can, particularly when trying to make positive changes in our lives to do with breaking old habits?) and to feel able to ask for support from other people. Even (especially?) when it feels awkward to do it.
Now I just need to try taking my own advice there more, hah.
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I reckon it takes a bit of practice to pick up on things earlier, before they get out of hand. A bit like keeping your balance on a tightrope or slack line (I was trying this the other day, lol). At first you make a few big movements and fall off a lot; but if you can learn to make a lot of smaller, more frequent corrections, you keep your balance better (random analogy, but maybe it helps?)
I'm doing better recently, actually. Made myself get out of the house more to interact with people. It helps.
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so i consistently get hangovers now when i have several drinks. i didn't used to. and they suck so i'm going to try limiting myself to one drink in an evening (which will also save money). realistically i'll probably have 2 sometimes but yeah that's my boring update
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so i'm "talking to" this guy (i hate that term but idk what else to say lol) and it came up that i'm aro and he was super cool about it (he's familiar with it) and he seems super cool in general. so that's nice
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i know! he's bi, maybe that has something to do with it? actually relatively recently i had a similarly chill experience, it was a group of people, some guy asked everyone like "how important to you is sex in a relationship?" and of course that didn't make sense to me, i was like "i wouldn't be in a relationship" and this girl asked me "are you ace?" and i replied "aro" and she said "cool" and that was it. she's also bi.
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Yeah, I guess that’s a common thing. Often whenever someone is lgbtq they tend to know a lot more than others. I mean I’ve told a couple of my friends my concerns. My friend has 2 kids who I’m like 90% sure are both bi. I forgot the rest of the specifics but the other kid in my friend group might be aro himself. :D
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so i'm in a facebook group for women in my city to like, make friends/do stuff together, and someone posts that she's "seeking some successful ladies who are in happy, healthy relationships and looking to expand their social circle" and i'm like, ?? why do they have to be in relationships? like yeah you're free to pick the criteria for your own friendships; i just...don't understand.
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Maybe she wants to do couple-related activities, like double-dates or something?
wow, you're more positive than me. my thought was 'oh shit, pyramid scheme'. like she was targetting 'successful' women with husband's money to throw at stuff, but with a safe sounding post.
maybe thats just my cynicism towards local facebook groups though.
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the mood for tonight: wanting a fwb. like i want to go on little weekend vacations.
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@MulticulturalFarmer just noticed this. i'm not sure there's a best way, and as for the other question, whatever works for the people involved. i've only had one fwb, from tinder, classic. we had sex on the first "date" or whatever you want to call it--we didn't know then whether we'd continue to see each other (and i've had hookups where we didn't) but obviously in this case we did. when we're comfortable with each other and want it, i figure why wait, but everyone's different. mutual attraction with an existing friend could also lead to adding a sexual component to the relationship, but i can see where that might be more high-stakes. i mean, the same ways you meet people to date--pretty much anywhere--just be clear about what you're looking for.
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things just ended (mutually) with the guy i'd been sleeping with since October (albeit infrequently) and i have no feelings about it, just moving on. yup, definitely aro. also, it made him realize he's no longer interested in casual dating, so yeah, make of that what you will ?
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thinking about the time someone tried to compliment my appearance by saying "whoever's girlfriend you are is lucky". wild
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today i met up with 4 people from a group for child-free women in my city and i mentioned i'm aro (i wanted to talk about amatonormativity and relationship anarchy at that point in the conversation) and it went well. one of them had just days ago learned about aromanticism and listened to podcasts because she was curious about it, and she asked me a few things. so that was nice.
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told another coworker i'm aro haha we were talking about relationships and stuff, i said i don't date and there's "not a chance" i'll get married, and she wanted to know why. she responded positively, noting that i get "the good parts of a relationship" ie sex, lol ok i'll take it
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when my friends are talking about dating and i have nothing to say for 20 minutes