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I really agree with this. I might show this video to one of my romantic friends to see what she feels about it.

I had trouble coming up with a good title for this topic.

My question is do you know of anyone who is famous in some context other than a LGBTA and is aromantic?

I'm asking because I listen to a podcast called invisibilia where they did an episode on Daniel Kish who is an expert in human echolocation which allows blind people to see by using click noises. In the episode they mentioned that he is aromantic. They didn't use the term but it was very clear that's what they meant.

I thought perhaps we could make a list. If anyone has more people to add?

On 2016-10-20 at 5:59 PM, Mark said:

I've never encountered this concept before.

I recommend it. You can also arrange different specific activities and meet people that way. Me and a guy met up to make a meal including crickets, because we both wanted to try it.

8 hours ago, Mark said:

Possibly also finding out their orientations before hand too.

 

There isn't really a good term for (queer) platonic "date". Certainly not that most people would understand.
Also many aros are interested in romantic coded things (including sexual relationships)...

I'm thinking couchsurfing is a good way to kinda "date" platonically. It's a site were people can offer to host people who're visiting their city. Or just to meet up and show them around. I've hosted a few people and it's always been a good time. You go out eating, get to know one another. A few times I think they would have been open to sex had I wanted it. And there's no expectation of any romance because they are just there for a few days at the most.

On 2016-08-15 at 10:01 AM, LJ_84 said:

I once had a friend who cried about her partner that he never had time for her and doesn't care for their child and so on. She sounded very sad and frustated, so I said "Why don't you break up with him then and kick him off your home?" She gave me a really shocked look and said "How can you say that?! I love him!" oO Sorry, but I don't get you? If you cry about your relationship and how bad it is and how unhappy you are, it makes me think you would be better without him?

 

(Not sure if this was an aro or autism thing)

I feel the same thing so it's probably an aro thing. I can understand that people's emotions are not always guiding them to do what makes them happy. I too can feel the urge to do things that makes me feel bad. But to not even be aware of it. It's like if someone was eating nothing but junk food and getting health problems and responding with "but I wan't to eat this food". What you want has nothing to do with it. It's making you feel bad, so don't do it.

I used to like the occasional dating before I realized I was aro.
I would meet a guy at a club and think he was handsome. We'd dance and make out and exchange numbers (often he wanted me to come home with him but I never felt like it). First dates was often a lot of fun. You have this really intense conversations when you're trying to get to know the person and make good impressions at the same time. But it never went anywhere because I was not interested in either sex or a romantic relationship. I just thought it was fun getting to know someone.

I probably wouldn't feel confortable dating anyone know without explaining my romantic and sexual orientation first. Because otherwise I would be so concious of the person I'm with possibly expecting some very different thing from the date than I am. But in principle I'd love to go on dates again.

Also, there's not really much difference between a romantic date and just to people getting to know each other better platonically. Do you feel like you specifically want a romantic date?