Holmbo

Sure, as long as I could use my own money for nonessential things. 

A million dollars but you could never sleep indoors again. 

förrän han säger sin kärestas namn,

vad heter han?

I got stuck filling it in. Most alternatives didn't fit for me. 

On 5/24/2018 at 3:18 PM, Galactic Turtle said:

A person with standards.

Me too ?

Then I met someone who was like perfect on paper. And I thought, huh that's weird. 

I don't remember that many of my dreams these days. A few years ago I remembered more. Then I would often start my dream as an observer, often dreaming about an event from a book or a movie. Then as the dream progressed I'd suddenly be in it. 

22 hours ago, NullVector said:

@Holmbo

Ooh, are there prizes of we know who the quotes are by?  (no google-ing/cheating allowed of course!)

 

I recognise one from The Dispossessed /Ursula le Guin, one from Douglas Adams / Hitchiker's Guide (I think?), the 'armour yourself' one is Stoic, either Epictetus or Marcus Aurelius, but I can't remember which! (I'm gonna say Epictetus, final answer!)

Sure
You're right about two out of three. The third one is George RR Martin. I have no ancient philosophers on the board I'm afraid. The oldest one is from 1847

I'm trying to make myself a quote poster on my computer.

It's renewed for season four by Amazon! 

On 5/24/2018 at 8:58 PM, eatingcroutons said:

Sooooo after this week's episode... 

 

CHRISJEN FOR SECRETARY GENERAL Y/Y

Is that what she is now? It wasn't clear to me. She did seem like she was in charge but is it temporary or has there been an election. (imagine a world election, what a mess) I'm not sure how I feel about it in that case. Love the character but she does seem to be playing fast and loose with human rights when it suits her. 

16 hours ago, eatingcroutons said:

I love this show so much, but somehow nobody I know seems to be watching it! Chrisjen is my favourite character by a million miles, but I'm also a big fan of Bobbie and of Amos. Crossing my fingers hard that it'll get picked up for renewal by someone else, otherwise I'm definitely going to have to look into getting the books!

No one I know watches it either. I would love it if I could watch every episode together with friends and talk about it with them.

Last year me and my friend were talking about tv-series and she said she really enjoyed the recent Star Trek series and I then in turn talked about the Expanse. We agreed to each watch each others series. The result... neither of us liked it at all. I though the Star Trek one was so stupid and she thought the Expanse was really boring. But last night I tried introducing another friend. I started at ep 4 of season 1, thinking that maybe it would be more capturing to jump right into the best action. He seemed to be interested to keep going with it. Hopefully I'm not leading him into a dead end

On 5/17/2018 at 1:01 AM, DeltaV said:

@Holmbo Since SyFy has now announced to cancel The Expanse after the 3rd season what do you think the chances are for it to survive (like bought by Amazon etc.)?

 

They announced it some 12 hours or so before I wrote the post above. Though I always expected the cancellation, I didn't at all expect it to be announced at this time, so I was out of the loop for some days! (embarrassing…)

Yes bad timing for my hype ?

The show is produced by another company, Alcon. And they say they've been shopping it to other buyers. Also SYFY has made a statement that they might reconsider the drop. If viewings pick up this season. So I don't think all hope is lost. Everyone should tune in on SYFY if they have it or DVR and/or watch it within 24 hours (I think it was) because that's way SYFY counts is viewership. You can also stream the show on Amazon Prime. I'm not from the US but I managed to buy it anyway uploading money to a gift card rather than paying directly with my credit card. It's important to really up the numbers if this show is to survive.

The (thin) silver lining to this cloud is that we're getting a lot of really cool fan material to try to save the show.
Like this video (no spoilers on it)
 

Or this fan trailer (spoilers galore up to mid season three)
 

This latest episode was amazing! S3 ep5

The plot just kept escalating and every time I thought it had reach the peak a new crazy flip happened. 

Yes I hope they keep going for all seasons. Maybe they get good money from selling the rights to Netflix ? Or just keeps it going to get back some reputation after all those sharknado movies. It's critically acclaimed after all, which doesn't sound like Dark matter was. 

13 hours ago, arokaladin said:

I haven't heard of that! What's it about?

It's a sci-fi series that takes place 200 years into the future, where humans have colonized the solar system. Some humans live on Mars and some out in the astroid belt. And Earth is one nation led by the UN. Mars and Earth are kinda in a cold war situation, and they own different part of the astroid belt. When the story starts we follow a crew working on an space ice-freighter, a cop on an astroid looking for a missing woman and some people in the UN trying to figure out a terrorist threat from the belt. The show is based on a book series (which I haven't read but probably will once the show is finished, or before that if I get too impatient) so the worlds building is very rich. And the cast is very diverse which is always a big plus for me.

It's quite aro-friendly I think. There's some romance but also many other types of intense relationships.

Anyone else happen to be watching The Expanse? It's very good.

9 hours ago, Skittles87 said:

Generally speaking, I enjoy romances that are weird and unconventional. The movie "Her", for example, I found really moving. It's about a guy who falls in love with the operating system on his phone(!)

I like that too. I think there so much more than romance to it. The overall longing for connection.

All your hair falls out except one strand which lays super smooth.

I wish my headache would go away.

I was watching Master of none on Netflix. The show itself is not aro at all, lots and lots of romance, but this imagined wedding scene cracked me up and I think you'd like it. In show it's longer, I couldn't find a clip that included the vows.
 

I recently ordered a new bed and I got a wider than I really need because I feel it's embarrassing to have a single bed at my age I'm not planning to share it with anyone and don't really need any wider than a 90 but I got a 120 (going with the SI units, sorry Americans but inches are stupid). So now I have a wider bed for no practical use. Well, on the plus side I have space for my reading pad and phone next to me on the bed, instead of having to place them all the way over at my night stand.

On 2018-02-24 at 1:29 AM, Costati said:

I do think it's probably cinematography and hollywood that started this trend about romance being the centered of everything. I watched a lot of old movies from differents countries, because I really love cinema and the history behind it. Romance is a must in everyone of them even if it's secondary to the plot there must be romance. I think it's probably related to sexism in a way. The world being a bit more evolved you probably had to have a female character in the movie because representation was important and you wanted for woman to be intetested in the movie. They needed a character to relate to. The thing is even if society was evolved enough to put woman as important character I think it's still wasn't enough for having a female character as a whole deep and complex character and not just as a sort of trophy for the male protagonist. Display of affection not really being accepted at the time the female character was more of a romantic trophy than a sex trophy.

I think you're on to something. Historically women were allowed to care about marriage, homemaking and children, so that's the roles they could have in entertainment.

On 2018-03-23 at 5:47 PM, mythlady said:

I guess I should have read the thread more carefully! Oh well, at least the explanation's up now, that's something at least...

I had use for it

I'm not romance repulsed but I'm kinda indifferent to it. Most in the time in stories I just ignore it and focus on the rest of the story. However there has been a few times when I've reflected over that I really like the love story  and that it adds to my enjoyment. Most recent have been two different books: Shards of Honor by Lois McMaster Bujold and Uprooted by Naomi Novik. I'm not gonna go into the books but I wanted to post the titles in case someone else had read them and wanted to comment. I've been trying to think why I liked the love stories and I think it's because there's no anguish abut the romance. In most stories about romantic love it's portrayed as kind of stressful and draining. The two main women of these books just know what they feel and act on it.
Does anyone else have exceptions to disregard of romance?

On 2017-06-10 at 9:12 AM, jenny_any_dots said:

@Holmbo have you talked to your parents yet? I'm in almost the exact same situation with my parents. Once the conversation is going it might be fine, but I have no idea how to start it because they never ask me about relationships. Anyone got some good lines to break the ice on this one?

Now I have talked to my mom. A year from when I first thought of it. It's just hard to find my family members in quiet situations without having to make a very big deal about it. But yesterday my mom and I had a quick lunch together and I asked her if she knew about the term aromantic and then explained what it was and that I was it. She actually made a much bigger deal about it than I expected (sorry to say to you others who are considering it). Yesterday she didn't have much to say but today she had thought a bit and came to me to talk about it. She told me that she had tried to read about the term online but not found anything and she was doubting that this was really something that exists and maybe I was just reserved and didn't want to let someone in. I didn't take this so hard though because I know that she, like myself, always wants to make up her mind quickly about things but is not hesitant to change it and doesn't mind if someone else thinks different than her.

She also wanted to understand better too and asked me questions about it. I gave her my standard example (which I seem to use for everyone that doubt the idea of aromantic) that if someone is hetero how do they know that they just haven't met the right person of the same gender yet? Also I assured her that I wasn't putting myself in some box and that I would always just do what felt right for me.

On 2017-12-01 at 9:58 AM, ladyasym said:

I do intend on having one child, as a surrogate for my best friend (basically a platonic life partner) whenever she decides she wants to have children. She has a lot of health problems, and is unable to conceive or safely have a child herself. I decided to be a surrogate for her back in high school, and have never wavered in this decision (though the whole pregnancy process is rather...icky). But in my mind, it has always been her child - even though it will undoubtedly be a part of my life as well (I think I'll be an okay aunt, even to young kids, haha).

I might like to do something like that if the option ever came up. Pregnancy is actually really fascinating to me. I'm sure it'd be very uncomfortable but also interesting to see all the weird changes of my body. Also that the kid can hear sounds in the uterus and taste the food in the amniotic fluid. If I knew someone who'd make a great parent I might have a child for them. I doubt the opportunity will come up though, which is probably just aswell because what if I wouldn't want to give the baby up. Hormones can do crazy things I've heard

It seems to me that the most commonly used gender neutral pronoun in English is They. I feel kinda uncomfortable about this term because it feels weird for me to use a plural pronoun for one person. I suppose that maybe native English speakers have a easier time with this since it's kinda an extension of using the same word for second person and fourth person. I just feel like all my childhood years of English classes crashes in my brain when I try to think of They as a single person. Am I being silly and should just gt used to it? I'd much rather prefer a third pronoun. I've seen some different exponentiations on that, like xe or e, but they all seem kinda clunky to me.

What is your preferred gender neutral pronoun (in English or other language)?

Also a disclaimer, I'm quite uninformed about this topic compared to many people, so feel free to ignore me if I add nothing interesting.