Lovebird

There's actually quite a big asexual kink community. If you would feel better asking anonymously, try any of the tumblrs: millenniumfae, fuckyeahasexual, or platonikink (may be inactive). If you're over 18, I also have the invite to a Kinky Aces discord I can invite you to. And here is a kink-specific thread over on AVEN: https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/105805-kink-bdsm-and-cake/?tab=comments#comment-1060869891

You can also DM me if you'd like. I'm asexual and have delved into kinks, though I'm not super active in the physical scene. At the very least, I may be able to point you in a better direction if I know more. :)

No pressure either way! I know how intimidating and nervewracking it can be to open up about this.

@SkyTuneRein may also be very knowledgeable on this, especially from a researched perspective of you not being alone in this! They may be another person to share thoughts with, if (and only if) you would both be happy to communicate with each other in this way! 

@AroAcedragon13 Yes!

I can give some insight to the anon results from my poll, including numbers of particular kinks. If we get a bunch more takers or enough samples for each selection, then we don't have long to wait before I publish the first charts, if that'll help.

I have a particular kink/fet too which has made me question my (a)sexuality, as well as sanity at one point, even though it's not that bad. It's something that I'm comfortable admitting and talking about, but not with a large and open audience, or on a public forum. It can be a great way to bond, at least if done right, but, like many kinks, can be mistaken or mis-associated with things that isn't acceptable, not to mention it also, like other kinks, can evoke disgust to at least some who don't share it. So far my poll has more than 10% who at least partly shares it though.

My experience in the field is like my experience in relationships though - next-to-non-existent. So like hemogoblin, I've delved deep in the knowledge side but not in the physical. Being demi and with social anxiety, one can guess it's hard-at-best for me to share let alone practice. AVEN, however, was the first place I could open more and discuss sexual topics, and even mention some words, without a lot of people losing their heads or getting banned, so that helped.