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Hi Janis!

7 hours ago, Lovebird said:

Another thing I'm scared about is that I'm never going to get over it.

You will.  It may take a long time, but you will.

What does sexual attraction feel like?  And what does it feel like to feel sexual attraction?

I am sorry for your loss.  Heartbreak is always difficult.  It's never easy to deal with, whether it's platonic or romantic.  

Welcome!  I'm 29!

Have fun!

I've had heartbreak.  I think some aros get it and some aros don't.  It doesn't make you any less aro if you do.  Getting heartbreak over friends is still a thing.

Have you considered demiromantic?

I was sitting in the middle of a Spanish class when I realized I was AroAce.  I think I was bored.  I think I also got some (very suspect) strawberry horchata afterwards.

So, I have never felt romantic attraction in my life save for one person when I was very young.  I am pretty certain of this.  However, I came across this one person last year who has made me question this a little bit.  What I felt for him definitely wasn't romantic.  However, I would have felt comfortable with him kissing me on the cheek (and vice versa), us giving each other pecks on the lips, and even him kissing my neck and collarbone and giving me hickeys (although sex with him didn't appeal).  I also would have loved to cuddle with him.  Our relationship is now over, so I can't tell him about this or explore any of these things with him.

Does this make me grayromantic?  I know the community says labels are all about attraction, and I felt no romantic attraction to him.  However, to a degree, attraction is also about what you want, and I kinda wanted a soft romo relationship with him.  Am I grayromantic now?

I suspected I was ace at around sixteen.  I knew when I was eighteen.  I knew I was aro around...two years ago?

I've been in four.  Only one (my third) was halfway decent.  I am grateful to be single since 2019.

welcome!

welcome!  Have you heard The Piano Guys cover of "Fight Song"?  It involves bagpipes!

1 hour ago, Holmbo said:

How annoying!

Very!

Try discussing hobbies/avocations :) 

Hey, don't speak for everyone.  Some people would find that sexy.

Hey!  I'm 29 too!  DM me on Discord!  PM me for my Discord handle :) 

I personally draw the line at lip kissing.  If lip kissing is involved, it's romantic.  If not, it's platonic.

QPR?  Queerplatonic relationship?

welcome!

Bacon Bad.

welcome!

Hey.  I'm aro ace, and am very intrigued by the notion of voidpunk.  However, I don't feel "dehumanized enough" to be voidpunk.  I do ID as a cat therian, which I suppose is a form of voidpunk.  However...could I still be voidpunk?  Am I voidpunk already?

welcome!