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1 minute ago, babo_ said:

that's interesting, i didn't know about this term! i'm still kinda confused though, please correct me if i'm wrong, but instead of 'aegoromantic', couldn't it be used 'romance-positive aromantic'?

They’re different things. ’Aego’ means ’without me’ or something like that. Aegoromantic isn’t interested in being in romantic relations and romance-positive aro can be interested in them.

I’m basically romance-neutral, but when someone is very close to me I can turn into romance-favorable and only for this person.

There was a historical moment in Polish translations of the games, because the person who was doing a translation for ’Bugsnax’ decided to keep a nonbinary character (Floofty) as nonbinary. The translator decided to use dukaizm forms for them. Polish is very gendered language and it’s very common that translators are doing ciswashing. There was also a very long discussion about Polish translation of ’She-Ra’ where nonbinarity of Double Trouble was erased. I don’t know if they corrected it or not.

I’m aro and when I was living on my own for a year, I was eating only vegan food and I loved it. I’m sure about being back in veganism if I find a normal job and move to other place.

One Polish psychologist who published an article about aromanticism (it was also very first article about aromanticism in my language), placed a (stock) photo of two persons: a white woman and a black man (both smiling), I liked the idea. He’s known for being an inclusionst and he’s publishing lots of great educational posts about subjects connected to minorities and opressed groups of people so I think it can’t be seen as ’opportunism’ but ’hey, it’s not just about white persons but it’s about everyone’. (I hope my terrible English is easy to understand)

Hi! That’s really great you’ve discovered your identity! I think you’ll find friends here, there are lots of great persons.

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37 minutes ago, babo_ said:

i have strong feelings for her,

It can be alterous attraction or other type of tertiary attraction.

41 minutes ago, babo_ said:

(english isn't my first language so please don't be mean if i made some mistakes)

Don’t worry! Here are other persons from various countries, I’m not from English-speaking country too!

To be honest, the most important reason to love my aroness is I’m a represenation of underrepresented nonheteronormative minority and I don’t have to try find less known things about the topic to create content about it! I simply can post everything because in my language it’s very rare to find anything about aromanticism and it’s a very good feeling to be ’in the right place’. Yeah, I know it probably sounds a little egocentric but I’ve been always a quiet person and now I have a reason to talk to people.

And I met a lot of great persons by it. Unfortunately all are internet friends but I really like them and if not being aro I probably wouldn’t know them!

4 minutes ago, Alexander said:

Sure! However I'm kinda busy rn, so I'll probably won't do it right away. I am still in school and there is too much going on all at once. I'll make sure to message you later, like in a week or few! I shouldn't even be here now, since I have an assigment to do (':

No problem!

39 minutes ago, Alexander said:

thanks! I'll check it out (the group) for sure

If you’d want to, you can also send to me a message on Facebook.

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2 hours ago, Alexander said:

Woah, you're from Poland? Me too! I only know three people on ace spectrum from my country, and none od them are on the aro spectrum. I also don't know a lot of nonbinary people, I only have four close friends who are enby. Nice to see another aroace from my country!

oh, and you also love cats. and you even have wattpad! I have it too, I like to write in my free time.

So, now you know a person from aromantic spectrum! I know some aros from Poland, there’s a group for Polish aros on Facebook and I’m active person there. You only need to search for ’Aromantyczność’ and you should find it!

I know many transgender and nonbinary persons, also on Instagram.

Yeah, I have a Wattpad account and I like writting stories, but they’re strange to others I think. XD

2 hours ago, Alexander said:

Wish me luck! ?

Good luck!

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I'm sure you will find a perfect QPP one day if you want one. Keep hopes up! You never know.

I’m going to focus completely on my activist work now. It’s better than thinking about the thing I’ve lost.

To be honest, not really. Romantic attraction is the last thing I could want to understand. Yeah, it would help me in my aro-activist activities but I don’t feel the real need to understand it.

I think you should say it. I didn’t say to alloromantic ex-friend before and I ended up feeling very bad with it when they started ignoring me. I was like ’ah, no, it’s not the best time for it’ and now I’m sure I won’t find a qpp in very near future. I lost my chance.

2 hours ago, Queasy_Attention said:

Yeeessss, I ADORE the trope of the good-natured aro sex buddy who cheers his allo friends on

I think it’s important to show various situations. In other story the main character was sex-repulsed romance-repulsed aroace and when his friend revealed him he fell in love with him, it made the main character to feel uncomfortable.

1 hour ago, Confused Artist said:

So after hearing a couple of people's opinions, I think I'm going to "change" my name as a social construct. So with my friends or classmates, I will have them address me as my new name, and then my family can address me as my name assigned at birth, because that's where it feels most comfortable. Thanks for helping me figure it out!

Good luck, friend!

I’m in between. There are days when I’m very euphoric with being aro and there are also days when I’m uncomfortable with it. Maybe I didn’t accept my aromanticism completely and I’m under amatonormative pressure.

49 minutes ago, 2 Spirit Cherokee Princess said:

The stereotype would be that men aren't very interested in romance while women always are--this poll shows different.  @David Box & @Cee Fox:  nearly 50 votes, but not many non-binary like me.

I’ve seen other poll already on this forum and there were many voted from enby persons. The post was probably in ’Sexuality and Gender’ category.

35 minutes ago, Queasy_Attention said:

Yoooo ??? I wrote aroallo dudes all the time-- I thought I was being so clever, subverting tropes. See, see, instead of having the normal personality trait of being all nervous about sex and needing to go slow with someone they trust, I'd do it backwards-- my characters would be totally comfortable w/sex, but then the moment actual dating came up they'd get all uncomfortable and have to go slow. TURNS OUT THEYRE JUST ARO LOL WHO KNEW

My aroallo character was in a gay love triangle, haha. He was a sexual partner to main character who was demisexual demiromantic and the main fell in love in an allo gay. There was a situation that main character told to his sexual friend that he fell in love with other guy and this friend wasn’t annoyed with it or whatever, he accepted this fact. They ended up living together and being happy with each other, no jealousy.

One part of nonbinary persons doesn’t change their name and the second one changes. It really depends on you if you want to change it, there’s no ’should’ or ’shouldn’t’. And there’s nothing wrong if you would like to change your name but aren’t sure which one fits you. The one thing I can recommend to you is to check lists of gender neutral names, some of them can be a surprise.

I’m neutrois and I’ve already used many names. Danilo, Dani, Danilo Henrique, Bruno Danilo and now I’m using Rony/Rony Danilo.

On 11/19/2020 at 11:17 PM, Queasy_Attention said:

Dope! I write fanfic too, and I've written aro characters for years, since way before I even had an inkling that I was aro too. I sort of reverse-engineered the concept as a reverse alloromantic-asexual, and I kept writing characters who were comfortably allosexual and extremely romance repulsed. Didn't realize until way later that that was all projection, lol! The kicker is that most of that stuff was shipping, too! Looking back at it now, it's pretty clear that all I was writing was a good friendship + physical attraction-- again, projecting my own point of view. Welp!

When I was already aware about aromanticism, the very first aro character I created to my story was an allosexual aromantic man. Aromantic and asexual men deserve more love.

I find romantic relationships in stories annoying in other way. For me the biggest part of stories with romantic relationships is simply very bad-written and it makes me to avoid reading them. They’re full of stereotypes with no space for diversity.