Nagito

Hi, welcome

3 hours ago, Littleface said:

Omg I am the same!! Or I definitely feel after a certain period (sometimes weeks, sometimes months) the shine wears off completely and I just don't want it at all. 

In my case it depens a lot of relationships. When I was in a qpr with someone and this person did something behind my back, I turned romance repulsed for several months. If not longer. And I keep being somewhere in between indifferent and repulsed at this moment.

6 hours ago, Littleface said:

romance positive

"Romance positive/neutral/negative" is about your attitude towards romance in general. The term you're looking for is "romance favorable".

6 hours ago, Littleface said:

I love romcoms and all that silly stuff

My favorite fandom activity is shipping. I'm an active fanfic writer.

6 hours ago, Littleface said:

whenever it seems to happen to me irl I'm just like ew no thanks lol

I'm romance ambivalent and it's a weird thing to experience. Very, very weird. For the most time I'm indifferent, but if something happens, I can turn romo favorable or romo repulsed – it's my case.

On 11/21/2022 at 7:50 PM, Littleface said:

I have an 'imaginary' relationship in my head with a musician I like but I think it really just exists as a way for me to have fun in my head rather than experience any particular 'feelings'.

I have an "imaginary" relationship with several fictional characters. The "imaginary" relationships don't make anyone "less" aromantic + there are still aros who want to be in a relationship (for example, the ones who are cupioromantic). Being aro is just about attraction and not what you imagine or do.

• I'm neurodivergent.
• I was dating in the past.
• I don't care about my sexual attraction.
• My favorite fandom activity is shipping and I like writing romances or drawing my ships.
• I'm into self shipping (I'm shipping me with fictional characters), lol.

That's all for now. Maybe I'll add something more in the future.
 

I'm using only "aro" label, because I'm simply confused about my sexual attraction, and I don't think it's necessary for me to identify as alloaro or aroace. Alloallos generally don't use split attraction model, so why should I? It makes no sense. If they can ignore, I can ignore it, too.

It's fine to say "just aro" about yourself, regardless of being allosexual, asexual or just confused about it (like me), and you don't have to explain to people why you're using only it.

You shouldn't gatekeep yourself, nor listen to gatekeepers and queerphobes. If you think your experience fit into the definition of aromanticity, then use the label and nobody can complain about it. Age has nothing to it.

11 hours ago, Acearospec said:

Like aesthetic? (I definitely experience that).

Yep, that's it.

I'm aromantic (romance ambivalent) and nonbinary (gender neutral, but closer to the masculine part of spectrum). Talking about fiction: I prefer m/m content and I'm avoiding het. I'm okay with f/f content, but it's not really my cup of tea.

It's possible to be aroace lesbian/gay/etc because of tertiary orientation. But using it to say about what you like in fiction… I wouldn't be sure about it.

The majority of the society is perioriented, so it's not a surprise that aromantic spaces are dominated by aroaces. However, it's possible that the reason is more simple than it, because the topic of aro orientation started in asexual spaces and how it was pointed out before, aces are overtalking us.

The only thing we can do to raise the visibility of alloaros and non-SAM aros (who are facing the inivisibility problem too) is talking and educating people.

I'm "obsessed" with Isshiki and Momoshiki ._.

Nothing, Halloween isn't something very celebrated in the place where I live + I don't have friends.

I got apathromantic

I was diagnosed with avoidant and paranoid pd.

(About 2 years later)

I don't agree with it. Simply don't agree. I keep my opinion about the test being bad constructed.

Orochimaru (Naruto/Boruto) was confirmed as nonbinary, but the current role of the character is none.

I'm autistic

It's okay to inform people about using another name than you were using before. Think about your own comfort. Here you can check a base of 200+ gender neutral names – don't look on the "popularity" part because it's connected to the base of PESEL.

Talking about how I found my name… it's very weird story because I literally took it from a random Brazilian football player, lol. I just changed the -i ending to -y.

Non-SAM aro, INTJ

Type of aro: Loveless aro

Aro representation: Non-human

Arcana: Swords

Flag: Frayromantic

I was talking about it in another place and yep, it's alienating and not only for aros but also the persons who are part of the LGBTQ+ community but not because of orientation. Also, the phrase even doesn't describe why for real the community was created. How do you want to fight for equality if the only word you know to say is "love"?

2 hours ago, roboticanary said:

you couldn't control the desires your sim has

Before I stopped playing, you could just to deny something or lock but if I remember it well, there were desires that you simply couldn't ignore and it was so annoying because it was still appearing back after denying to realize them.

Playing video games (at this moment FootballTeamGame and I'm thinking about to back to The Sims), foreign languages (I speak two foreign languages – Portuguese and English, and I'm learning Japanese), Japenese and Brazilian cultures, cosplay (I almost finished my Hidan's cosplay and I'm going to start completing Momoshiki Ōtsutsuki's costume), Brazilian football, anime/manga, roleplaying, drawing and writing.

It's still very simplified (because of both being a spectrum), but better this way. I had enough of seeing the comments from alloallo people saying "you can just imagine they're aro or ace!!!". Like, no, it's totally different thing and breaks the immersion if you have to still think about it instead of making it real. Also, it's like, you want to watch something in the language you're learning and the subtitles are from different series/movie (sorry if my comparision makes no sense).

Disappointed