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I am living solo now. Earlier I enjoyed living in a shared accomodation (own bedroom). I may do it again with the right people and with enough space to store my belongings.

I have some doubts about this. This may be a chicken and egg situation: the brain is shaped by the way we use it (our experience) and by our environment (including endogenous and exogenous hormones). A brain could present some gendered traits (if this is really a thing) because the person has been raised for this specific gender. I don't know what a 'normal' person thinks. The social expectations linked with my biological sex made me challenge my gender quite early. I chose the gender with the social constructs most compatible with my personality. I ignored the social gendered 'relationship goals' and 'professional clichés. This validated my biological gender but I did not know that agender was a possibility back then... I notice a lot of people caring about their looks matching their gender to avoid disphoria and for practical reasons (getting the right message accross).

People have tried to be open so far but I felt out of place in face-to-faces with asexuals a few times. First because it felt like a matchmaking meeting for asexuals while I am quite averse to dating and dreading courtship even more. Also I'm afraid that I may have been too 'sexual' in some of my comments. I hope that my bluntness did not offend anyone. I will remember that I need to watch what I say in inclusive spaces.

Hi everyone. I'm a female in my late 30s. I recently discovered the A world and have been lurking on ace communities since. I cried when discovering the split attraction model because finally I made perfect sense to myself. According to my latest diagnostic I am graysexual and aromantic (not detailing the sublabels). I was already anticipating my lack of desire for a romantic partner at 13 years old but I never really pictured other people in similar situations. Althought I always felt like the odd one, I guessed that I was just unique and that it was ok. Having some friends in the LGB community helped coping with difference but not with the lack of attraction. Feminism also gave me hope and strenght to fight amatonormativity. Hopefully I can understand more about the aromantic part of me.