WizardGrayFire Posted March 16, 2023 Posted March 16, 2023 i had no idea this place existed until it came up in conversation over on AVEN, and i’m very excited to be here. i hope this place will help sort out my lingering uncertainties about my (gray?) aromanticism, but even if it doesn’t i’m sure i’ll have fun here :) it’s really late for me right now, so i’m trying not to be too wordy with this — if you want to know more about me before i add the information here, my username’s the same on AVEN, and i have a bunch of info filled out there i’m not usually this concise lol sina toki pona la o toki tawa mi a! :) 2 Quote
WizardGrayFire Posted March 16, 2023 Author Posted March 16, 2023 thank you, and it’s nice to meet you too :) 1 Quote
WizardGrayFire Posted March 16, 2023 Author Posted March 16, 2023 woah a rainbow serotonin slug!!! i barely know what that means but it sounds awesome! Quote
Lunar Nova Posted March 16, 2023 Posted March 16, 2023 1 hour ago, WizardGrayFire said: woah a rainbow serotonin slug!!! i barely know what that means but it sounds awesome! this it what it is lol 1 Quote
Isa1116 Posted March 16, 2023 Posted March 16, 2023 8 hours ago, WizardGrayFire said: thank you, and it’s nice to meet you too :) Do you mind if I know how you found out you are a-spec? 1 Quote
WizardGrayFire Posted March 17, 2023 Author Posted March 17, 2023 1 hour ago, Isa1116 said: Do you mind if I know how you found out you are a-spec? not at all! my initial bout of intensely looking stuff up was caused by watching Jaiden animation’s video titled “being not straight.” i was interested in it because i regularly watched her videos at the time, and was surprised to find that i related heavily to the video. i wasn’t actually sure at first what parts i related to and why, but it was enough to make me aware of my own reaction to it. still, i didn’t relate enough to immediately say “yes i am definitely aroace,” and i don’t think i would’ve even started looking into it had she not put something at the end of the video along the lines of “aromanticism and asexuality are both broad spectrums with a variety of experiences, so if you related even a *little* with this video, maybe you should look into that.” about a week after i watched that video, i realized that it was practically all i thought about for the entire week, so i decided to start looking stuff up. i quickly learned some vocabulary which explained a whole lot — i realized both why i initially related to the video, and why i later thought i didn’t, “must’ve been the wind” style. it also helped explain my own previous behavior to myself, allowing me to come to terms with some stuff that had been bothering me from my past (some of which i hadn’t realized had been bothering me until that point). a lot of vocab helped me at this stage, but particularly notable were the different kinds of attraction, especially aesthetic and sensual, as i feel these often and strongly, and had been confusing them for romantic crushes. for a while i thought i was inherently morally wrong having romantic interest in a bunch of people, but with new definitions and new sources from which those definitions came, i realized that 1) it’s not morally wrong to romantically like more than one person (i had not previously been exposed to poly relationships) and 2) #1 doesn’t matter in my case ‘cuz i didn’t romantically like them anyway — it was just that looking at them made me happy and i wanted to give them hugs (and also probably be friends; i feel strong platonic attraction often too) looking back on it, i had a lot of clues that i missed from before i saw jaiden’s video, and while i’m happy to share them if asked, this is already very long and i don’t want to drop my life story on you lol tell me if you want me to elaborate on anything :) 1 Quote
Isa1116 Posted March 17, 2023 Posted March 17, 2023 18 hours ago, WizardGrayFire said: not at all! my initial bout of intensely looking stuff up was caused by watching Jaiden animation’s video titled “being not straight.” i was interested in it because i regularly watched her videos at the time, and was surprised to find that i related heavily to the video. i wasn’t actually sure at first what parts i related to and why, but it was enough to make me aware of my own reaction to it. still, i didn’t relate enough to immediately say “yes i am definitely aroace,” and i don’t think i would’ve even started looking into it had she not put something at the end of the video along the lines of “aromanticism and asexuality are both broad spectrums with a variety of experiences, so if you related even a *little* with this video, maybe you should look into that.” about a week after i watched that video, i realized that it was practically all i thought about for the entire week, so i decided to start looking stuff up. i quickly learned some vocabulary which explained a whole lot — i realized both why i initially related to the video, and why i later thought i didn’t, “must’ve been the wind” style. it also helped explain my own previous behavior to myself, allowing me to come to terms with some stuff that had been bothering me from my past (some of which i hadn’t realized had been bothering me until that point). a lot of vocab helped me at this stage, but particularly notable were the different kinds of attraction, especially aesthetic and sensual, as i feel these often and strongly, and had been confusing them for romantic crushes. for a while i thought i was inherently morally wrong having romantic interest in a bunch of people, but with new definitions and new sources from which those definitions came, i realized that 1) it’s not morally wrong to romantically like more than one person (i had not previously been exposed to poly relationships) and 2) #1 doesn’t matter in my case ‘cuz i didn’t romantically like them anyway — it was just that looking at them made me happy and i wanted to give them hugs (and also probably be friends; i feel strong platonic attraction often too) looking back on it, i had a lot of clues that i missed from before i saw jaiden’s video, and while i’m happy to share them if asked, this is already very long and i don’t want to drop my life story on you lol tell me if you want me to elaborate on anything :) Oh cool! I also started questioning myself when I watched that video! Well I was wondering if my 'crush' was even a real crush and turn out it wasn't.. I just liked their hair lol 1 1 Quote
WizardGrayFire Posted March 17, 2023 Author Posted March 17, 2023 29 minutes ago, Isa1116 said: Oh cool! I also started questioning myself when I watched that video! Well I was wondering if my 'crush' was even a real crush and turn out it wasn't.. I just liked their hair lol nice! i’m glad that video helped so many people! also some people’s hair is rlly cool :) 1 Quote
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