lotusflower Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 (edited) I was discussing the meaning of queerplatonic, and some people told me they thought the word "queerplatonic" was unhelpful. They had the following reasoning: it doesnt necessarily include queer people and it may not resemble a platonic relationship fully. So I had the following thoughts, doesnt queer mean "odd and unusual"? The adjective queer, is a description of the relationship you have. That makes sense as a QPR is described as: a nonsexual and nonromantic relationship (no sexual/romantic intentions), but the acitivities done would still go beyond whats considered a friendship, which could be considered unsual. So hence why, a queer platonic relationship. However, after I shared my thoughts, they told me this definition is no longer used as it can be considered a slur. I was unaware of the fact some people consider it to be a slur, so my bad. But, what other word and/or definition could be used for it instead? The "it should only be used by queer people" is new to me. The adjective describing ur relationship isnt a descriptor of ur feelings, its a descriptor of the type of relationship you have yk. For instance, you can like someone platonically and have a qpr, you can like someone alterously and have a qpr, you can even like someone romantically and have a qpr (the latter would be me, im greyaro so I have experienced romo attraction before, however, im still romance aversed so I would never want have actual romance in my relationship).The same way some aro's (cupioromantics specifically) could have a romantic relationship even if they dont experience romantic attraction. Edit (some extra writing): so I dont understand why gender/orientation would be taken into account when using queerplatonic as a description of ur relationship. So yeah, im kinda confused right now, so could someone clear this up for me? Thanks! Edited March 11 by lotusflower 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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