Accidental Support

[Whirl]

I wanted to share something that happened to me yesterday and makes me really happy to think about. 

I don't know if y'all remember several months ago that there was this guy that asked me out & thought I was flirting with him cause of this emoji 😈

Well, he's back. And this time he asked another friend of mine out while making her very uncomfortable. With such great pick-up lines like "I used to think you were pretty" and "I thought you were a lesbian, you dress like one". Then for some reason he low-key started talking shit about me? Just a bunch of weird comments trying to put me down because I study a lot? And don't date?

My friend defended me and I just love her so much for it. She literally told him "Whirl is a bichota (popular latam term for an empowered woman, like boss bitch) that's focusing on her studies and her career. She doesn't need anybody and certainly doesn't need you."

I'm not out to her yet, but when she told me about the situation I just felt so supported and loved as I am. There's nothing to fix, I'm great this way! Yes, I am a bichota 😌

Has this happened to anyone else? Is this a sign that I should come out to her/the rest of my friends?

[sevan]

probably? i feel like your friend would be very supportive of what you identify as. but at the end of the day its up to you and outing yourself is optional until its necessary [clearing up confusion etc]

[Whirl]

On 9/16/2022 at 11:34 PM, sevan said:

probably? i feel like your friend would be very supportive of what you identify as. but at the end of the day its up to you and outing yourself is optional until its necessary [clearing up confusion etc]

That's true! For now I'm taking it slow and coming out to a couple of close friends at the time. It's so silly, but I'm scared that by coming out I'll be "missing out" on ever having a romantic relationship, even though I don't even want one in the first place. The good thing is that there's no rush