feeling other

[espop]

I love being aroace most of the time but once in a while, I feel really different or other from everyone else. I don't mind being different, but sometimes it feels othering in a bad way, like I'm wrong. (Which objectively I know isn't true)I figured I can't be the only one that feels like that sometimes. 

What do you do when you feel that way?

[AroAcedragon13]

I talk to other aros or watch aroace videos on Youtube. And I just try and remember that I am valid and so is everyone else. :) 

[A User]

I sometimes feel this way, and surprisingly watching aroace tiktoks or ace tiktoks makes me feel more validated and happier

would totally recomend! tons of comps on yt!

Edited July 12, 2022 by A User

[Jedi]

I think about all the people I have ever heard of that have chosen to live unpartnered, for one reason or another. You can never really know if a historical person or someone you never met was aro or not, but it still adds a sense that this is a valid way to be, and a reasonable way to live ones life, and it makes me feel less alone. To me, looking back like that serves as a reminder that while being partnered was always the most common choice, it has never been the only choice. There has always been a lot of people choosing to do differently. Whether or not it was done for the same reason, it still reminds me that I am not as isolated as all that.

 

[Nix]

Whenever I feel ‘other’ (which happens a lot less these days thankfully) I try to distract myself by doing something positive. Like drawing, or just making a cup of coffee or tea and picking up a book or comic I find comforting. Or I go for a quick walk. After a while, the logical bit of my brain has caught up with me and I feel like myself again. Different, but right instead of wrong.

Edited July 10, 2022 by Nix
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