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What is your ethnicity/culture? Did living in that kind of environment affect the way you view romantic and sexual attraction? Was the narrative of getting married and/or raising a family pushed on you because of this?

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My family is Chinese and I wouldn't say that getting married is being pushed on me (yet), more just unspokenly expected? Like I just  know that my mum and dad have always expected grandkids and will expect me to get married, they don't even have to say it. It's what every Chinese family does, they raise their kids until those kids have their own kids and I know my parents have this vision of looking after their grandkids one day. Soon all my mum's friends of a similar age will start bragging about their grandchildren and she'll feel left out. 

I do think my parents are starting to get the vibe though that it might not happen with me or my sister. So far we've been spared from any pressure from them. 

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I was raised in a Christian household & community. They were not capable of understanding my lack of interest in physical affection, dating & marriage. I was led to believe that there was something wrong with me.

Around the age of 15 I was learning about Native American culture & that my ancestors were accepting of Sexual, Gender & Romantic Minorites (SGRM) as two spirit people. That helped me to make peace with my nature.

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US, grew up in a religious, fundamentalist home. Was never pushed to be married really, but y'know. Everyone expects it and they tend to assume if you're not interested in the opposite sex you must be gay. (Which I sorta am, but just barely.) My parents actually had some kinda concept of aroace without realizing it though, my mom for instance used to say that "some people just don't have crushes, and that's okay". And my stepdad was like "well the Bible actually encourages singlehood, maybe God doesn't want you to get married". This was before I had learned of aromanticism or asexuality myself.

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53 minutes ago, Collie said:

US, grew up in a religious, fundamentalist home.

What do you mean by fundamentalist home?

Some people say that Paul from the Bible is asexual. 

It is interesting how your mother and stepfather had a concept of that nature; I, for one, find it neat. 

On 9/23/2022 at 6:40 PM, Storm_leopardcat said:

Pakistani! Live somewhere in the Middle East though, usually. Not right now, though, for studies.

To add onto this, I suppose my parents (especially mom) have an expectation of marriage for they’re children, especially daughters. I’m not saying that most families and parents would take it well if their sons didn’t want marriage. Relatives also expect it as well. 

And don’t get me started about children. 

I can only think of one relative I know who never married and never had children. 

Ah, please do not misunderstand. This pressure about marriage from parents and relatives is not from the religion. It is culture and societal expectations of people, and pressure from others that makes them conform to this and cling to it. 

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18 minutes ago, The Gray Warlock said:

White male working class Midwestern GenXer. Through my mid 20s everyone was trying to fix me up with somebody. Or gave unsolicited dating advice. My mom even got scared about me not being romantically active and, not shitting you about this, thought I was going to be a mass shooter.

Yikes, that is unfortunate to hear. Is it any better now?

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To be honest, there are upsides to belonging to the culture and country that I belong to, as well as the religion. People don’t expect you to be in a relationship, or have a boyfriend/girlfriend. They don’t ask if you’re dating. It doesn’t raise any eyebrows because you aren’t supposed to be in a relationship or dating anyone. So there’s no pressure. 

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