ImJustChillingHere Posted January 26, 2022 Share Posted January 26, 2022 (edited) What is your ethnicity/culture? Did living in that kind of environment affect the way you view romantic and sexual attraction? Was the narrative of getting married and/or raising a family pushed on you because of this? Edited January 27, 2022 by ImJustChillingHere 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
such Posted January 28, 2022 Share Posted January 28, 2022 My family is Chinese and I wouldn't say that getting married is being pushed on me (yet), more just unspokenly expected? Like I just know that my mum and dad have always expected grandkids and will expect me to get married, they don't even have to say it. It's what every Chinese family does, they raise their kids until those kids have their own kids and I know my parents have this vision of looking after their grandkids one day. Soon all my mum's friends of a similar age will start bragging about their grandchildren and she'll feel left out. I do think my parents are starting to get the vibe though that it might not happen with me or my sister. So far we've been spared from any pressure from them. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alaska Native Manitou Posted August 31, 2022 Share Posted August 31, 2022 I was raised in a Christian household & community. They were not capable of understanding my lack of interest in physical affection, dating & marriage. I was led to believe that there was something wrong with me. Around the age of 15 I was learning about Native American culture & that my ancestors were accepting of Sexual, Gender & Romantic Minorites (SGRM) as two spirit people. That helped me to make peace with my nature. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storm_leopardcat Posted September 23, 2022 Share Posted September 23, 2022 Pakistani! Live somewhere in the Middle East though, usually. Not right now, though, for studies. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Collie Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 US, grew up in a religious, fundamentalist home. Was never pushed to be married really, but y'know. Everyone expects it and they tend to assume if you're not interested in the opposite sex you must be gay. (Which I sorta am, but just barely.) My parents actually had some kinda concept of aroace without realizing it though, my mom for instance used to say that "some people just don't have crushes, and that's okay". And my stepdad was like "well the Bible actually encourages singlehood, maybe God doesn't want you to get married". This was before I had learned of aromanticism or asexuality myself. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storm_leopardcat Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 53 minutes ago, Collie said: US, grew up in a religious, fundamentalist home. What do you mean by fundamentalist home? Some people say that Paul from the Bible is asexual. It is interesting how your mother and stepfather had a concept of that nature; I, for one, find it neat. On 9/23/2022 at 6:40 PM, Storm_leopardcat said: Pakistani! Live somewhere in the Middle East though, usually. Not right now, though, for studies. To add onto this, I suppose my parents (especially mom) have an expectation of marriage for they’re children, especially daughters. I’m not saying that most families and parents would take it well if their sons didn’t want marriage. Relatives also expect it as well. And don’t get me started about children. I can only think of one relative I know who never married and never had children. Ah, please do not misunderstand. This pressure about marriage from parents and relatives is not from the religion. It is culture and societal expectations of people, and pressure from others that makes them conform to this and cling to it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Gray Warlock Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 White male working class Midwestern GenXer. Through my mid 20s everyone was trying to fix me up with somebody. Or gave unsolicited dating advice. My mom even got scared about me not being romantically active and, not shitting you about this, thought I was going to be a mass shooter. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storm_leopardcat Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 18 minutes ago, The Gray Warlock said: White male working class Midwestern GenXer. Through my mid 20s everyone was trying to fix me up with somebody. Or gave unsolicited dating advice. My mom even got scared about me not being romantically active and, not shitting you about this, thought I was going to be a mass shooter. Yikes, that is unfortunate to hear. Is it any better now? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storm_leopardcat Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 To be honest, there are upsides to belonging to the culture and country that I belong to, as well as the religion. People don’t expect you to be in a relationship, or have a boyfriend/girlfriend. They don’t ask if you’re dating. It doesn’t raise any eyebrows because you aren’t supposed to be in a relationship or dating anyone. So there’s no pressure. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Gray Warlock Posted September 26, 2022 Share Posted September 26, 2022 (edited) 9 hours ago, Storm_leopardcat said: Yikes, that is unfortunate to hear. Is it any better now? Yeah. My mom accepts who I am. To be fair, she's always had anxiety issues. And everyone else is too focused on their own life to care much about what I'm doing with mine. Edited September 26, 2022 by The Gray Warlock 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storm_leopardcat Posted September 26, 2022 Share Posted September 26, 2022 31 minutes ago, The Gray Warlock said: Yeah. My mom accepts who I am. To be fair, she's always had anxiety issues. And everyone else is too focused on their own life to care much about what I'm doing with mine. Well, that’s good to hear! :D I’m glad your mom has accepted you, and you have this forum and the rest of the community too, for support! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Gray Warlock Posted September 26, 2022 Share Posted September 26, 2022 6 minutes ago, Storm_leopardcat said: Well, that’s good to hear! :D I’m glad your mom has accepted you, and you have this forum and the rest of the community too, for support! I appreciate that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SkyTuneRein Posted February 12, 2023 Share Posted February 12, 2023 (edited) I'm very much an Americanized Americanised Brit, with significant Scottish and Irish ancestry. Many people would probably describe me as "Bohemian" or a "weeaboo" however. As a millennial here, we're often expected to less conventionally social. I am apparently such because I'm introverted and relatively asocial, yet I don't like socialising over the phone. Online dating isn't my thing, and anything like speed-dating even less. Only the younger generations are likely to give me less gripe about my lack of love life, but so far I've been pretty lucky when it comes to romantic harassment and pressures. I'm fortunate to be in country which is less concerned about unmarried and sexless relationships, than many others. Britain is multi-religious, Christian dominant, but also a pretty safe harbour for agnostics and atheists. It still has unbalanced or unfair laws and benefits though, which favour married couples over everyone else. Tl;dr - I'm multi-cultural. Edited February 12, 2023 by SkyTuneRein 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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