sol Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 (edited) cw // internalized arophobia, internalized amatonormativity I've accepted the fact that I'm aromantic a long time ago, and most of the time I'm okay with it, even proud. But sometimes, when I'm watching a movie or reading a book, I see characters being deeply in love and the thought that "I may never experience something like that" crosses my mind. It's frustrating to catch myself having such thoughts when I should be comfortable with my aroness by now. Obviously, that has to do with the fact that the romanticization of romance was very strong in my education. (and of course, the lack of aro representation in media doesn't help) There are times I feel like the only way I can have a deep relationship is by having a romantic partner, because friendships are supposed to be more "casual", and my mind goes on a melancholic loop. I can't help but think that "is that how my entire life is going to be? Having casual friends to casually meet and have casual fun?", even though I'm usually comfortable being alone. So yeah... Amatonormativity sucks, what's new. (sorry for the rambling) Do you feel like that sometimes too? And if so, how do you deal with those intruding thoughts? Would love to read what you guys have to say! Edited October 14, 2021 by sol 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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