Coyote Posted February 13, 2020 Share Posted February 13, 2020 Just in case anyone goes searching Arocalypse for quoi stuff, and to introduce anyone who's not familiar, here's a handy roundup of quoi things: Origins Here's a really detailed timeline of where the term came from, and here's a summary: Wtfromantic (as in what-the-fuck-romantic) started getting used (jokingly, at first) in 2011 Quoiromantic, as an alternative way to say wtfromantic, was suggested in 2012 It's based on "quoi" (kwa), the French word for "what" It can be used to describe: a ??? response to the concept of romance not using or not getting the concept of romantic orientation actively disidentifying with romantic orientation as a sensible/applicable category finding the romantic vs. nonromantic distinction inaccessible, inapplicable, non-sensical, etc. Related & Similar Terms You can find a bundle over at Effi's list of words for those who struggle with the concept of romantic attraction Schroromantic is an adaptation of the term Schroedinger's dating Mehmantic is another variant, with more of a shrugging tone Idemromantic can be considered a subtype of quoiromantic Nebularomantic can be considered another subtype, except with a more specifically neurodivergent emphasis (kudos to @Momo for reminding me about this one) I consider terms like these to fall under a kind of quoiromantic umbrella Are quoiromantics on the aro spectrum? Short answer: Some are, some aren't. Long answer: Individual quoiromantics will have different answers to this question. Last year I conducted an informal survey and found that -- at least out of my respondent sample, which was noticeably skewed toward aces and aros -- a majority of wtf/quoiromantics answer "Do you identify on the aromantic spectrum?" with "Yes," but there was also a not-insignificant number who answered "No," "My answer is not yes or no," and "Unsure" (all together, these answers add up to more than a quarter for those who identify strongest with wtf/quoiromanticism out of a predetermined list). A number of these respondents like the word "aromantic," too, so any time you say something is for "aromantics," you should anticipate that you might have some quoiros show up. So while quoiromanticism is not just a subset of the aro spectrum, there's an important amount of overlap, as well. Arocalypse is an aro forum; are there any quoiro forums? Not currently! Online, you're most likely to find us hanging around places with a high density of aros and/or aces, like AVEN, Arocalypse, and parts of Tumblr and Pillowfort -- dedicated quoiro spaces aren't really a thing right now Are there other kinds of quoi identities? Yep! The quoi- prefix can be used on just about anything, which is how people have derived terms like quoigender, quoigenic, and quoisexual. Just as examples, here are a few personal narratives from aro quoisexuals: "I’m not aroace. I’m not alloaro. I’m both, in a weird sorta way" "I don’t have a sexual orientation. I’m not allosexual, I’m not asexual, I’m just opting out" "I’m comfortable saying N/A for myself" 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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