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So, I've made a few 'memes' that have helped me and thought could help you guys figure out your orientation. There are three links, which take you to my posts on the AroAce United Amino.

 

Attraction Scales: https://aminoapps.com/c/aroaceunited/page/blog/attraction-scales/lq4e_l6UQu8V0R4VJGEbqj3pW3zo35Vno

 

Attraction Scales 2: https://aminoapps.com/c/aroaceunited/page/blog/attraction-scales-2/4EKB_k7iYuboemwJ5bZbeLPKGE1KNZkqJr

 

TLDR - All you have to do is mark on the scale how often you experience 5 types of attraction: sexual, romantic, aesthetic, sensual and alterous. The 2nd Attraction Scales further breaks it down into how often you experience these attractions between men and women. 

 

Romantic Checklist: https://aminoapps.com/c/aroaceunited/page/blog/romantic-checklist/xBZ0_vLf2ux13bPpQMJGvRZqaqnEPg3vzq

 

TLDR - you answer whether you'd either say yes, no, maybe or I don't know to 22 activities that are seen as 'romantic'.

 

Feel free to use these to help you, or not. I haven't done the Romantic Checklist one myself yet!

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On 10/8/2019 at 12:22 AM, TripleA said:

So, I've made a few 'memes' that have helped me and thought could help you guys figure out your orientation. There are three links, which take you to my posts on the AroAce United Amino.

 

Attraction Scales: https://aminoapps.com/c/aroaceunited/page/blog/attraction-scales/lq4e_l6UQu8V0R4VJGEbqj3pW3zo35Vno

 

Attraction Scales 2: https://aminoapps.com/c/aroaceunited/page/blog/attraction-scales-2/4EKB_k7iYuboemwJ5bZbeLPKGE1KNZkqJr

 

TLDR - All you have to do is mark on the scale how often you experience 5 types of attraction: sexual, romantic, aesthetic, sensual and alterous. The 2nd Attraction Scales further breaks it down into how often you experience these attractions between men and women. 

This appears to use yet another definition of "alterous". Not sure how well these would apply to people who are demi, quoi or disagree with the definitions given.

The definitions appear to be somewhere "asymmetric".
Sexual Attraction: The desire to have sex/perform sexual acts with someone. Rather than desire for a sexual relationship.
Romantic Attraction: The desire to have a romantic relationship/to do romantic things with someone. What are "romantic things"?
Sensual Attraction. The desire to give or receive touch. e.g. cuddling. kissing, holding hands, etc. All of those being romantic coded.

Aesthetic Attraction: When you are attracted to someone's appearance.

Alterous Attraction: To desire a deep, emotional bond with someone but not in a romantic way. 

 

There's also a rather obvious flaw with the second part.

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7 hours ago, Mark said:

This appears to use yet another definition of "alterous". Not sure how well these would apply to people who are demi, quoi or disagree with the definitions given.

The definitions appear to be somewhere "asymmetric".
Sexual Attraction: The desire to have sex/perform sexual acts with someone. Rather than desire for a sexual relationship.
Romantic Attraction: The desire to have a romantic relationship/to do romantic things with someone. What are "romantic things"?
Sensual Attraction. The desire to give or receive touch. e.g. cuddling. kissing, holding hands, etc. All of those being romantic coded.

Aesthetic Attraction: When you are attracted to someone's appearance.

Alterous Attraction: To desire a deep, emotional bond with someone but not in a romantic way. 

 

There's also a rather obvious flaw with the second part.

Well what do you believe would be the best definition of alterous attraction then?

 

Also what is the 'obvious flaw' with part 2?

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3 hours ago, TripleA said:

 

Also what is the 'obvious flaw' with part 2?

I'm assuming they meant the binary gender references...

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