dordor

this is a hug for you :)🫂

This is super normal, dont worry with time you would be able to understand it better. For years i thought i had crushes but one time this person i had a squish on, liked me romantically so we started sth like a relationship and then i realized god i cant take it. After a while i came to understand that my feelings were never romantic for those people. Dont worry, just let your brain process this on it's own.

Mine at the sexiest version are just simple kissing. It's really funny during the few times it had happened, all i could think about during the kiss was, am i liking it? Is this a betrayal to my aromantism? Why am i kissing my friend? Yes they are always about my friends, but never the same one. Wierd i know

Thanks😊 Do you know any websites where i can get specific informations?

so it goes like this until a few years ago i was really proud of being a woman, then gradually i started hating having a label for my gender(around the time i decided my sexuality is unlabeled). i have been really busy with school these 3 years so i never gave it much though, but now that i have more free time i have come to realize i just hating having a gender, behaving and feeling and thinking in a form of a gender, i hate kind of every thing that comes with a gender. i dont even understand what it mean to be a woman, man or be nonbinary. i have taken multiple of these stupid google gender quiz, the results were well not consistent, you could say. some said agender, a few said nonbinary, one said cis female and to everyone's surprise one said tans man. im just super confused, what do you think i should do?

well i actually tried, after a few month one of them really made me feel good about it, he sent me aro wallpapers, made healthy aro jokes etc. but the other just kept pretending i had never told them about it. well these past weeks i havent been in touch with them much, i really hope they have changed thier mind for better when uni starts.

thanks, i know they say such things with good intentions and lack of knowledge but it still hurts

hi im dorsa, you can call me dordor or dori, im 18 and aromantic and on ace spectrum . i dunno anything else about myself i discovered im aro about 6 month ago, i have come out to most of my friends bc i was very surprisingly comfortable with this part of my identity but now i kinda regret that, half of them were very nice or at least passive about it as they didnt have any info about asepecs. but the other half well i dunno just. more than once i heard the infamous and hated phares: you will find the right person. so i am here bc i really like aro community and i actually really felt welcome when i joined it on tumblr, i hope i can talk about my life and other aro people's life more openly here. i am really bad at communication and making friends but im gonna try more here.

hi aro fella! im dorsa and im 18 yo too. i hope you enjoy being here.

i finished high school about 3 month ago and during high school, me and my supposed friends were together from 7am till 10pm(we stayed at school to study). when school finished we just stopped, we dont go out together, there are like 5 messages per week in our gp, etc. even my closest friend, the one who knew how much i care for my friends, the one who knew how much it is hard for me to accept people as my friends because i am scared of losing them and the hurt that come afterward. yeah he just stopped texting me, for a whole month i tried, i keep sending him silly things i find, etc. but now im just tired of trying. i was so frustrated yesterday i even deleted my telegram acc but not even one of them care to message me and ask WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED ? i mean why should they, they have each other and their romantic partners why bother with the needy aromantic one then? god im just feeling so lonely and this is the only place where i think i would be understood/

i had some kind of feelings for this girl last year and like all the times when i like someone i went and befriended her(very wierd that friendship was the most i wanted from my "crushes"!). from there things went downhill cause you see "she liked me". i unconsciously tried my best to keep the relationship at friendship. i really liked her but you see my answer to her "i really like you" was "you're my best friend" and when she asked me on a date i just refused. after a while she said she loved me and i just lost it from there because to me love wasn't the thing she was talking about. after a few months of misery and feeling bad for my "not being able to love and not even wanting it" i realized i am aro. wow this got really long🫢