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Any suggestions? My own suggestionz for you are: Aromantic moodboard by Maxwell Anthony Turning Out by AJR Pretend Love by The crane wives

i agree with the demiromantic part but i think he is asexual. he did have sex and enjoyed it but i still never got the vibe that he was sexually attracted to amy 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️

hi i'm dorsa, i don't mind my pronouns. i hope we can help you through this process:)

yeah that's exactly ive been doing these past days. i have found of a group of my classmates involving another aroace person(I STILL CAN'T BELIEVE I HAVE SEEN AN ACTUAL AROACE PERSON IN PERSON) and they are really welcoming, i even kinda came out to a couple of them( my phone wallpaper is literally aroace flag but seems like people rarely stuck their heads in others' phones!!) and they were freaking nice. so i am spending most of the time at uni with them and when at dorm, i spend most of the time in the library studying; therefore i rarely have to see her.

Thankd for your support, really. It's kind of enough for me to know there are people like you here to support and understand me❤

well i cant tell anyone about the aphobic roommate, bc well i live in iran and people just dont understand things like that, and it is not safe to put sth like this in public's hand. i am finally feeling better after 2 days about this and can think properly(srs i have been a mess ) and i guess i am strong enough to deal with her, im not gonna go in closet(im gonna out my aro profile back for my telegram acc💃) but i guess i can handle not reminding her this a lot. i am still going to make sassy comments and make puns about their romantic tendencies cause i just love making fun of them for their stupid behaviors around boys😂 omg i love your logic, i am definitely gonna use it somewhere, but i dont think i want to have that conversation with her, for my own mental health sake. you're really right. and at the same time that they think our identities aren't real, i really can't believe that such opinions as theirs are real; therefore i guess we are kinda even🙄 you are also right, im gonna stand right where i am and am not gonna shy away from this. thanks for your support<3

I like my other roommates tho. Mybe she'll get better... I don't know whether to make her understand my situation better or just never mention this again?!

warning: aphobia, rejecting enby and gender fluid as i have said before here, we have found 2 asexual in uni till now and everyone in our room seemed cool with that, no sassy comments or anything. so one day it slipped from my mouth that i am aroace, half an hour later one of them said these words to my face: "i don't think these things like gender fluid, non binary, asexual, etc are real" i was on the verge of tears then, i just put on headset and tried to not hear the rest of her sentence. i was fucking hurt, angry and frustrated at her but i didnt say a thing and tried my best not to bring out the topic at all. tonight everyone started to say each other flaws in a friendly way, i let myself make a comment about that. then things got bad and she denied saying anything like that, it wasn't the first time i have heard her saying things like that. she even said she "supported this thing" alley my ass girl so she got really angry at me and well i do admit i did over reacted a bit but it is a fucking delicate matter for me. i apologized to her for my own behavior but she just didn't and left the room. as i am me i apologized again to her through txt bc i don't want tension in the house, but she hasn't answered yet after an hour. god why can's i keep my mouth shut.

Thanksss. Iran, unfortunately 😭

it does feel amazing doesnt it? today i figured one of my own classmates is ace too. god it made my feelings feeling so real! two ace people and ME! all studying in the same university help im losing my ability to form proper sentences

hiii again, i really dont get anytime to write here anymore, but here i am today. well so as for the topic: you know how you sometimes think that your mind has made up this idea of aromanticism and asexuality, for whatever reason? well i get this feeling a lot and i have always wished to find someone like me or close to me about this in real life as a proof that all of these aren't just some lies. one of my roommates who study chem(very surprisingly they are all known to be gay, including my roommate) has found a friend, also studying chem, dunno why i felt the need to mention this. and this friend is an asexual & non-binary! it's really weird bc most people in this country are never comfortable enough to come out, especially people they have known for only a couple of weeks. but this person did! wow the bravery. i still haven't come out to anyone in uni, even to my roomies, now i really wanna make friends with them! they sound amazing, a very soft person, very nice hair and eyes. im getting sideway, i wish i had the courage to go and talk to them. just for a friendship ofc. and im curious about their status on aro spectrum, my roomie didn't mention anything but she might've just forgotten.

yeah i have been told people would get used to it by the second year, but it's still such a long way to go. this week i started to talking to people and communicating a bit, there is this kinda popular boy in our class who keeps on saying hello to me every 5min and say nice funny shits like that. he does it with everyone so i kinda thought it might be good for me to kinda befriend him and respond to his efforts, until yesterday he fucking blew me several fucking kisses. god i just dont waant to see him again. i might die until people learn to behave humanly

so Iran's universities' slogan is "crush culture" before uni, schools are single sex so when young stupid kids enter uni and confront the opposite sex, things get messy. everyone somehow manages to fall in love during the first month, people breakup with their previous partners with the hope of finding better partners at uni, well you get the idea. now imagine my aromantic brain in this corrupted environment, im going mad. i dont dare to talk to boys bc they will think i'm looking for a bf and im sick of talking to girls bc all they can talk about is love life. well now i have come back home for the weekend after 3 weeks in that place, and god it feels relaxing.

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Hii agian, Well this is my first night in dorm, i share the flat with 5 other people. It's kinda scary but we all get along well. Well my problem starts when they start discussing romantic relationships. I dont know if i can pretend to be interested. But at the same time im not comfortable with coming out to any more people. I dont know what to do, they keep talking about it. At some point they're gonna realize i dont participate, right?

Hi, i cant tell you if you aro or not, you'll figure that yourself on your own, there is no rush. About cuddling and hand holding and kissing, they can be platonic too, we believe these to be romantic bc society has always told us. You are to chose whether they are romantic or not.

i keep clicking on wrong items, i do things i cant undo, send unfinished messages, cant delete messages, etc. i really need a tutoring course: how to work with Arocolypse for old puppies

how do you handle having strong feeling for your friends when your feeling are not reciprocated? i have been in this situation for 4 times now and i get hurt every damn time

so my best friend have been kinda ignoring me for the past month, plus he's changed his pfp to sth creepily romantic and sexual, so i had come to the conclusion that he has got a gf and has now forgotten me. i finally asked him about it and he confirmed it. bastard. i think he didnt tell me bc he thinks i am disgusted by real life romance, i kinda am, but man hhe should've known i would love to talk about it with him. god help me kick him in the balls

hiii, thankss khhdfbba i love your pfp, it freaking cute

Hi, im dorsa Dont worry you dont have to fit in with society's stupid norms, i mean seriously there are something really wrong with those norms. We gotta change them.