I don't really like the use of 'bad' in the title, but I couldn't think of an alternative.
So we've got a list of 'you might be aromantic if' on the forum, and there's also this well known list. Despite the 'might', not fitting everything on these lists can make you doubt yourself. But obviously, not everyone is the same, people experience being aro-spec in different ways and I think sometimes people start to doubt if they're 'being aromantic' in the 'right way'.
I thought it would be good if we could share things about ourselves that mean we don't conform to these lists. Also, are there any other things, asides from things from these lists, that other people might use to describe their aro-spec identity that don't fit you? Thing people imply make you a 'bad' aro-spec person that are a part of you?
For myself that would be:
I don't experience squishes, or even relate to the concept
I never bothered to look back on past experiences that I thought were crushes. I still don't know if they are crushes, squishes or figments of my imagination so technically I might have had crushes despite using the term 'aromantic' for myself
I've been enjoying reading a very romance-based webtoon recently
I'm not interested in a QPR, nor do I really relate to anything said about them.
I'm mentally ill and may have had episodes of psychosis
Valantines Day has never bothered me, nor has other people's relationships
Let's recognise what a diverse bunch we are