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I know that I feel this kind of attraction from time to time, but it's quite rare. Thank you for the new introspection ! I see what you mean here. I'm not aplatonic, but I did exactly this when I went out with someone. It's cool when you see the person, we can appreciate that, but it's also cool without and thinking about them and texting them all the time is a bit of a burden

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I don't really know what you say by no attraction, because I've kind of always defined love through attraction (it's quite an "easy" way to define and organize things). However, I think I understand it in some way, I just never thought about it before. Tell me if I get things wrong. I thought that we got friends through platonic attraction, but with your experience it seems like it's not the case. As for me, I do feel platonic attraction at the beginning, with some people in particular, but there is also this thing like family and long time friends when it's not attraction because it's not a will to know the person better it's just "oh wow I love that person I would be sad if they died". So yeah, love without attraction exists for me in cases like that.

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Normality doesn't really exist, so I can't answer your question. What I would say is : - as an aro, I have lots of common points with you. That doesn't have to mean anything : I love pasta. Everyone that loves past isn't aro - your orientation, or at least the label that you put on it, depends on what you want it to be. If you feel comfortable on the aro spectrum, just go for it, you don't need ANYONE to validate or invalidate you. Also aromantism is a spectrum, there are plenty of possibilities. Although, if you don't think that's for you, you can also search a little more for something that fits you better, or keep the searching for later and just not label yourself. The most important is how YOU feel it. Oh and things change. You can just identify as something right now and change later

500 (I know right it's almost as if they've forgotten about us) CONGRATULATIONS FOR 500 EVERYONE

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That's enough for you to identify as ace, you don't need more. Also, it's all about your choice but from what you described you could indeed be somewhere on the spectrum

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I usually use just the aro flag, because the ace one alone seems weird to me. I really like the sunset one, it suits well plus I find it really pretty. However, I don't really like the combo with the heart. It feels like your romantic attraction is surrounded by your sexual attraction, and therefore your sexual attraction would be more important. That sounds stupid, but that's how I feel it

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