Momo

4 minutes ago, Magni said:

So apparently embeds are not working; I made a post with many links and some of the links to other forum posts automatically embedded and then when I tried to post it, it gave me a "403 error", but when I changed the embeds back to plain links, then it worked.

Thanks for the report Magni.

I've also added a list of current known issues to the first post of this thread so there's an easy reference for people.

10 minutes ago, Coyote said:

Sure. What I'm asking for is some clarification on what criteria the staff, themselves, will use in determining whether something is a personal insult.

I can't speak for final decisions, but I suspect we may end up being more heavy handed with warnings but making many of them temporary and wear off after some period of time. That combined with a heavy dose of talking to people.

3 minutes ago, Coyote said:

For instance: Just looking at the text alone, since it says "includes, but is not limited to," I would have figured that this rule would also apply to statements like "You're irritating to deal with." Now, I could be mistaken here, but if I could read it that way, I figure it's possible that someone else might read it that way, too -- and while it's no skin off my back, I know other people can be more sensitive than I am about that kind of thing. Just saying, I wouldn't want a sensitive newbie joining the forum and thinking they're safe from those kind of comments if the staff aren't actually going to consider it against the rules.

We'll take this into consideration during the review, but on a personal note: anything with the word 'personal' in it will take some measure of judgement call on a case by case basis just by virtue of the fact that each person is individual and we can't specify a complete list of all things someone might consider an insult.

2 hours ago, Tagor said:

If you try to reach the unread feed https://www.arocalypse.com/forums/discover/unread/ it says it doesn't exist and throws Error code: 1S160/2

Worked after using the link from the main Site instead of the Tab i already had open

Thanks for reporting this! There was an effort to make old links work but apparently it wasn't quite working. This is fixed now.

1 hour ago, Coyote said:

@Momo so the site rules/terms of service aren't substantially changing, correct? In that case, can I request clarification on one of the rules?

We have a mind to review them but no immediate plans to change anything in particular right now. If you have questions about them then please ask but I can’t promise an immediate response but they will definitely feed into that review at a minimum for a response later. 

If you can reproduce the error then a screenshot may help. It's also possible you're having a few issues due to the DNS changeover - seeing the form on the new server but submitting to the old one which could produce weird results like this. I know I had some issues for a few hours where I as getting phantom notifications loaded off the old server.

On 2/13/2020 at 11:09 AM, Ch0c0 said:

When accessing the site it says that the connexion is not secure/not suporting encryption. I'm not a IT expert so I don't know what difference it makes. I'm raising this as we could be discussing heavy stuff here. Could it be improved?

The new host offers SSL for free so we now have it enabled everywhere now @Ch0c0.

10 hours ago, TripleA said:

I've heard neurodiverse was created for just those with autism, adhd, etc. and doesn't include those with mental illnesses

Illness implies something temporary. If you can get better from it then it's definitely not something that can be included underneath neurodiversity. If it's something that permanently changes you like PTSD and especially C-PTSD usually does (as one example) then it's a little more grey and people start fighting over definitions. Personally, I do include those people if they wish to be. As I mentioned, the neurodiversity movement really isn't about exact 'conditions', it's about acceptance of different peoples experiences and reactions to outcomes that may be different to your own.

Not necessarily an issue per ce, but the old Arocalypse website is no more. I have the files for it from @Blue Phoenix Ace so it is not lost and may make an appearance at some point.

Email notifications are currently not working. They may or may not all go out when I fix this - I'm unsure how Invision works in that respect. This is priority #1 after the migration for me.

Update: Email notifications may be a little while (a day or two) - I need to go through support for my host to get email sending enabled.

This thread is for anyone who has issues after the site migration. Let us know below!

Currently active known issues: none

On 3/31/2019 at 12:02 PM, DeltaV said:

Since not 10% but rather 90% of sites use cookies, it's not a real choice. You have to be a privacy fundamentalist to say “Okay, nytimes.com and washingtonpost.com say they use cookies! So I won't read them anymore!” but in that case… you're probably knowledgeable enough to get around it anyway, so it doesn't matter.

Ok, so, as someone who's probably considered a privacy fundamentalist and also someone in IT... GDPR was largely good, but slightly overbearing and poorly worded as relates to the actual technologies at play. Basically, whenever you store anything that would identify a user you have to inform that user. Since cookies are specific to a user, they can be used to identify that user and so... here we are. It's an unfortunate end result, but also not that big a deal in the long run I guess. I would rather have the law than not even as someone who has had to implement that bar multiple times now...

Welcome! It's unlikely to shut down, we just needed some time to figure out how. Hope you enjoy your stay with us.

On 7/14/2019 at 9:35 PM, Guest said:

Can I ask about mental illness? Where do it go (if it even fit in the list) . Because peoples can't agree on that it seem. Sometime they say it's a neurodivergeance, sometime not so i want to ask you what you think about it. (i mean… i can be healed and it's actually an illness, so…it is really a neurodivergeance?). And sometime they say it's a disability. Idk

On 9/26/2019 at 12:06 PM, TripleA said:

I don't personally like to conflate mental illness with neurodivergence since it's different to have Autism for example than it is to have anxiety, it also waters down just how much neurological disabilities can affect those who live with them beyond their mental health. 

I am a autistic. Even for things like autism there's a pretty heavy dose of self-identification at the moment. Lots of people prefer neurodivergent and lots of people prefer disabled. Some like both! Neurodivergence is about brain structure though. This doesn't mean from birth, though. Things like PTSD end up rewiring the brain over time and often qualify too. Neurodiversity is more about recognising that not everyones brain works in the same way than it is about any specific condition that causes someone to be neurodivergent. For my money, I'm less worried about who is using it and more about the concept underpinning it - acceptance and understanding of people who behave and act differently to myself.

On 9/26/2019 at 4:19 PM, aro_elise said:

i also put neurodiverse (although i think it's 'neurodivergent')

I am neurodivergent, we are neurodiverse. 'Neurodiverse' is the plural of 'neurodivergent'.

Another related term is nebularomantic and the related set of nebula- terms which is basically quoi- with a neurodivergent root.

6 hours ago, flergalwit said:

AVEN is only even going to be a backup plan if these issues are resolved to most people here's satisfaction (which so far isn't looking likely)

On the contrary, I think most, but not all, people here have been welcoming of AVEN as a backup plan, just not as it has been presented: as the best possible option.

1 hour ago, cluebat said:

Is there a Patreon/gofundme set up yet? If not that might be a start to allow those of us who have said we'll assist with money to actually do so.

There is not because it's still an open question as to who will take over and who should run any sort of fundraising attempts if they are even needed. AUREA have discussed opening one of these if we do get the reigns, but we're holding off on things like opening donations till we know they're going to the right place.

1 hour ago, flergalwit said:

Sexual and romantic orientation are separate but there is no denying that the history of the two movements is highly interconnected, and most likely this will continue no matter what happens with Arocalypse. People still often learn about aromanticism through the asexual community. Many ace conferences are now explicitly ace & aros focussed (the UK asexuality conference being an important current exception, though this is under review). I see the relationship between the ace and aro community as much like that between the ace and broader LGBTQ+ community in many ways. I think we amplify each other's voices, though there is always a danger of a lesser known identity (such as aromanticism) being drowned out - something we need to work to prevent.

This is precisely why I would rather keep Arocalypse run by aros for aros. AVEN's offer, while appreciated, is similar to one of the big gay or lesbian organisations coming and offering aid to AVEN. Think how you would feel in that situation, should it ever come up. It's not that it isn't appreciated, but there's been enough support from existing members that I am, personally, confident we could easily see the forum into the future on our own. That is of course just my opinion, but the number of people responding in this thread with offers of money and time is testament to the viability of that, at least into the 12 month sort of time frame.

That said, I'm always open to consultation with the folks at AVEN. I'd just rather that the people running the show are foremost aros themselves - it feels too much like a potential conflict of interest otherwise.

1 hour ago, Raphael said:

I just want a space that I feel welcome in, and I don't think AVEN is at the top of the list to provide that.

To this point, this isn't even about AVEN in particular for me. True, there's many people in the community who have personal experiences and that makes this a little more visceral for them. But I would be against any of the other big non-aro organisations getting involved as a first option. It's nice that those options exist, but if we can keep Arocalypse run by people inside the community then that will be my vote every time.

8 minutes ago, VoidArcana said:

Obviously I don't want Arocalypse shut down, but as people have said, this is a LAST DITCH option to us, because literally anything else would be better. 

Given the number of aro individuals and at least one aro organisation also interested in keeping Arocalypse alive, it really shouldn't be necessary. I'm not sure why AVEN is seemingly our number one option.

I can commit to running things from a technical perspective and potentially short-term funding. I don't know what the moderation story is here or the day to day running though - I have little ability to help on that front. I run servers for a living so this is definitely something I can take on in my free time.

1 hour ago, Aurae said:

Does anyone have a method they use to keep people away from them or even just a nicer way to decline dates than me stammering trying to explain that I'm aro?

I wouldn't recommend telling strangers that you're aro. I think Cee Fox is probably on the right track here.

1 minute ago, DeltaV said:

Oh you're back again!!

you make it sound like i left or something~

Every new person I meet, or literally every time I meet someone? I could probably live with the former because I rarely meet new people anyway. I couldn't deal with the latter though - it'd basically rule out any interaction with another human whether you were against being married or not. Can you imagine walking up to your boss and having them propose every time?

A million dollars but your bank account will be debited $5 every hour for the rest of your life and if the payment bounces then you will instantly fall over dead.

Something random.

(it's 2am, ok?)

On 29/08/2017 at 11:54 AM, breaddd said:

I'm offended that your username only has 2 letters. Letter diversity is important.

Allow me to offend you further by presenting the name in the original Japanese: もも

Only one letter!

On 30/08/2017 at 11:26 AM, Blackscarlet666 said:

I'm offended that you are assuming that she is being discriminative 

I'm offended that you assume that we assume that...