meowmura

i'm sort of late to the party but greetings ! i'm vik n i have asd and mdd. tone indicators are my best friends /lh i'm pansexual and confused about gender but my pronouns are he/ce/it. i found this site through some internet digging, looking for information on aromantic definitions. i've always struggled with "romance". i feel strong attraction to people, but i've found that it's usually platonic or sexual or just an infatuation. i think i have had a couple instances where i have felt some romantic attraction? so maybe i'm gray-romantic? i'm not sure and lately i've been really stressed about it. something about me is i have a hard time on my own and get really lonely. i want some kind of partner but because of my lack of romantic attraction idk if it would work out. i've been in multiple relationships before but none of them have really worked out. usually people found me too clingy and too hard to handle (i have many problems). it's hard. not to mention my gender confusion, but i'm doing my best to figure it out. thanks for listening to my little rant and nice to meet you :] if you want to know more about me please talk to me! i'm not the best at it but i like chatting with people!

i'm pretty sure i have experienced romantic attraction maybe twice. it's hard for me to define. especially since i have a hard distinguishing all types of attraction. romantic attraction for me was a sharp pang of fondness and a desire to spend time with them alone (i guess?) and have a strong partnership based on mutual feelings of attraction towards one another. i think it's definitely emotional before physical. the physical response may (or may not) come afterwards. personally, i like generally "romantic" actions, but because of my general lack of romantic attraction, i can usually classify these actions as either platonic or sexual (at least for me). like maybe: holding hands - platonic forehead kiss - platonic passionate kissing - sexual cuddling - platonic more passionate cuddling/actions - sexual idk if this can apply to everyone, but it helps me be okay with liking these sort of things even though i'm aro. i'm positive i'm on the aromantic spectrum so you can't argue that these actions justify romantic attraction. that's just not the case for me. my situation kinda sucks because i feel like i'm not fit for a relationship because i won't have romantic attraction for my partner, yet desire romantic actions. and i love qprs (i'm in several) but they're strictly platonic. i haven't had any strictly sexual relationships either, which is an option, but i'm not sure that fits either because it involves "romantic" acts that that person may not be comfortable with/cause them to develop feelings for me that i cannot return. romantic attraction is hard to define and i would generally leave it up to each individual to decide for themselves what it means to them.

cuddling, playing video games, eating food, + maybe some platonic forehead/cheek kisses. i have some close friends and qpp's that i can do this with and aaaaaaaa paradise i just wanna stay inside and just chill with them ;u;

my attraction is kind of sporadic but i have some ideas - alt style - soft uwu - subtly feminine ? - sense of humor like mine - passionate - into cool things (weirdo things like dnd, video games, music, etc) :] also not initially but it helps if they - understand my strange speech pattern - are okay with how touchy/clingy i am

never had it but sounds pretty yuck hot pockets TM ?

well i'm still figuring it out. i know i'm definitely on the arospec (somewhere) but i have experienced two very extreme romantic? crushes? on two different girls. one is trans (and i love her so much). but these also both came with strong sexual and platonic attraction. to make matters worse i generally have a super hard time distinguishing different types of attraction. i think i experience way more platonic and sexual attraction than romantic. i rarely have any sort of romantic desire at all. and the "romantic attaction" i have experienced is extremely limited (and strangely very extreme). but i could be mistaking romantic attraction for something else. also, the thing is i generally like (or at least am indifferent to) "romantic" actions. but for me, i feel like they could also be considered either platonic or sexual. like holding hands - platonic, and kissing - sexual if anyone would be willing to help me out/give advice, etc i'd really appreciate it :]