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Elluna Hellen

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  1. I just found this gem on a very old forum I used to be active on another member: I want a boyfriend 14 year old me: I don't Yet another member: I want a boyfriend too 14 year old me: WHY?
  2. I never understood them either, but I didn't think much of it because I was still really young to fall in love, right? (in my teens) or 'It could still happen, right?' (in my early 20s)
  3. When #SingleBecause is trending on Twitter and I'm just here like 'single cause aro yo'

  4. When you're talking about being aro in a chat, and someone tells you "Well 25 is still very young, it could just be that the time hasn't been right yet" ANDTHAT PERSON IS 19. I LITERALLY GOT TOLD 'YOU CAN'T KNOW YET' BY SOMEONE YOUNGER THAN ME. *animated laughing out loud smiley* #littlearothings (that made me laugh my ass off)
  5. Only occasionally *and* never enough to really be affected.
  6. 23. Before that I thought for a long time that I was a late bloomer, and then spent a year or so going "I *might* be aro buuuuut who knows" and then got sick of that and literally went 'f*ck it, I'm just gonna call it what it is now.' This is not to say that I ever bothered TRYING to find the "right one". I have never dated. I have never even considered it. I have, to be completely honest, never even HOPED to fall in love or anything like that. So when you look at it like that, I never *did* wait for "the right one". My form of "waiting" was literally just me not wanting to be wrong about being aro. That was all. So depending on how you see it the answer is either '23' or 'waiting for the right one? Why would I wanna do that'
  7. When I was 16 (and unaware of being aro, though I was well aware of never getting crushes (just thought I was a late bloomer)) I had a shirt that said "friends are forever, boys are whatever"
  8. Seeing a shirt saying "no boyfriend no problem" and WANTING IT. #littlearothings
  9. Heyyy. Welcome! You shouldn't in any way feel unwelcome just because you're not aro! We do have a bunch of greyromantic people as well
  10. Ha, your brother sounds great I once kind of accidentally/unplanned came out to my mum. me: Sooo I don't think I'll really ever fall in love My mum: Eh, you'll just fall for the right person! me: Yeah but... I don't know I've never even had a tiny crush Mum: Maybe you're just afraid of it, like you're scared of change and you're just repressing the feelings? Me: But... Then I'd still feel it. Mum: I guess. Well as long as you end up happy it's all good right? Pretty okay response if you ask me!
  11. Eww, that's major irritating. I probably would've gone 'NO' as well and then if they tried to grab my hand and get me back... There'd probably be cursing. I am... not subtle. Same!
  12. tbh if someone did the repeated trying thing to me (especially even after I've clearly stated 'not interested, never will be') I'd probably just verbally explode in their face at some point. "HOW 'BOUT I'M NOT FRIGGIN' INTERESTED AND I'VE TOLD YOU THIS 3 MILLION TIMES NOW STOP FRIGGIN' ASKING!" Because seriously. When did we ever learn that sometimes, no means no? And not 'no but maybe later' Maybe that'd scare them off. Or I'd be labeled a b*tch. Probably the latter I literally never get asked out though. I.. do not mind this
  13. I'm not romance repulsed enough to actually hate romantic songs. I also don't hate terrible lyrics, but GOODNESS do I love to make fun of them
  14. Hmmmm... I think it's maybe not just the stalkers who would WANT it (or at least would want to be noticed by the person), but I just think that with most people it translates to wishful thinking rather than actually attempting something? Possibly? I don't really know either though.
  15. Actually literally NEVER? From... anyone? Seriously sucks that people think it's okay to assume that. Though once a few years back I was walking my dog and some older man started talking to me (because I asked him what was going to be growing on some field, I think, because they were working on it), and then he asked who my husband was (I suppose just because he wanted to see if he knew the guy? maybe? IDK, weird). I think I was 21 or 22 at the time and I was like 'dude I'm not married. Am I not a little young to be married? Also none o' your effing business...' Maybe when that man was younger it was normal for women to be married at 21 (and it's still not COMPLETELY out of the question to be fair), *and* maybe it was normal to ask a lady who she was married to, but now? NOOOPE o_o Also my mum quite often gives/gave (I think she hasn't done it in a while?) me 'You'll understand some day when you have children' when I'm confused about a way she thinks or something
  16. Come to think of it, I never really tell people 'love you' (I do with my pets though. Go figure). Though it's not because i don't like the word. Also this. When I was 12 I was a fan of a singer. Cue some random aunts/family members. "OH, do you have a little crush on him? " And I just remember being like "will they just shut up I like the music that's all >_>"
  17. Yes hello random young aro-haters. Aromantic over the age of 20 here. We exist. (25. Wonder if I'm still too young to know? ) And yes, I definitely noticed the lack of crushes/romantic feelings when I was under 20, and maybe if i'd known aromanticism is a thing I'd have thought to identify as it then. (I doubt it though. I was scared to be 'wrong' as it was, and that was when I was 23!) Teenagers can definitely know, or at least question. They're not necessarily late bloomers just because they're young >_> In fact, I admire the aromantic/asexual teens for being sure enough of themselves at that age to identify and come out. With this whole 'too young' argument, I assume it's not easy! :\ Also: "Maybe you're just scared to fall in love and repressing it!"
  18. I'm not *not* out... I just don't go around telling people basically. I'm pretty sure all my friends know. I once came out to my mum by accident (I just kind of started to talk about it, oops!) but I don't know if she remembers or cares XD. (She responded pretty well. she kind of went from 'eh, your type is just the right person' (cue the eyeroll but I can't really deny that one cause it COULD be true xD) to 'maybe you're just scared and repressing it' me: but then I'd still feel it... Mum: Yeah, that's true.) (this does sound like something I could do, by the way) to 'oh well, as long as you're happy it's all good' ) Oh yeah, and this one time some guy friend I thought was gay was like 'my attraction is basically 75% to guys and 25% to girls' so I was like 'oh, I thought you were completely gay!' some other guy: "Don't instantly start flirting now!" me: "I'm ace AF, so shut up xD"
  19. from 'straight by default and just young' to 'late bloomer? Still straight by default' to 'GAY MAYBE?' to 'We'll see' to 'REALLY LATE BLOOMER?' to 'MAYBE ARO? Maybe REALLY late bloomer?' over the course of like 10 years, then to 'EFF THIS, YOU'RE 23. ARO. NOT LATE BLOOMER.' I just got sick of the 'possibly aro/ace but maybe not because it could still happen right?!??!?' it was not even a hopeful 'it could still happen either' just a 'Look I don't wanna be wrong about being aro/ace' thing XD. So I got sick of the maybes two years ago
  20. Same! I wondered what having a crush would feel like, sure, and I expected it to happen at some point, but I can't remember ever *wanting* a relationship. I realised that this was different when I was maybe 12, and I thought I was just a late bloomer. I thought that for a really long time, though I was also aware that I'd be a REALLY late bloomer so I felt weird about it kind of. Never BAD, just... Off. (and I thought I was gay for a while and had a crush on my friend. I didn't. Shoutout to that one sort-of-friend I had at the time for confusing me!). Then I realised I'm aromantic and asexual and well, not a 23 (now 25) year old late bloomer
  21. Listening to mushy love songs... And rolling your eyes at/responding to the lyrics. "That's not how that works... IS THAT HOW IT WORKS? BECAUSE THAT'S CREEPY" "This sounds like an extremely unhealthy obsession." "Oh look, another instance of I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU."
  22. I laughed, because I have an acer and I have DEFINITELY mentally made this pun.
  23. I'm a bad aro because -I don't really mind romance. Romantic stories *can* be cute. Most of the time I'm just indifferent, though. -I never faked crushes. -I don't experience squishes? -I also don't mind love songs.
  24. Much like PerformativeSurprise, I never did. I just figured it would eventually happen and was 23 before I finally embraced that it probably wouldn't xD. I have never been the type to force it for reasons of wanting to fit in either. I've always been pretty casual. "who do you like?" "nobody."
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