Elluna Hellen

I just found this gem on a very old forum I used to be active on another member: I want a boyfriend 14 year old me: I don't Yet another member: I want a boyfriend too 14 year old me: WHY?

I never understood them either, but I didn't think much of it because I was still really young to fall in love, right? (in my teens) or 'It could still happen, right?' (in my early 20s)

Only occasionally *and* never enough to really be affected.

23. Before that I thought for a long time that I was a late bloomer, and then spent a year or so going "I *might* be aro buuuuut who knows" and then got sick of that and literally went 'f*ck it, I'm just gonna call it what it is now.' This is not to say that I ever bothered TRYING to find the "right one". I have never dated. I have never even considered it. I have, to be completely honest, never even HOPED to fall in love or anything like that. So when you look at it like that, I never *did* wait for "the right one". My form of "waiting" was literally just me not wanting to be wrong about being aro. That was all. So depending on how you see it the answer is either '23' or 'waiting for the right one? Why would I wanna do that'

Ha, your brother sounds great I once kind of accidentally/unplanned came out to my mum. me: Sooo I don't think I'll really ever fall in love My mum: Eh, you'll just fall for the right person! me: Yeah but... I don't know I've never even had a tiny crush Mum: Maybe you're just afraid of it, like you're scared of change and you're just repressing the feelings? Me: But... Then I'd still feel it. Mum: I guess. Well as long as you end up happy it's all good right? Pretty okay response if you ask me!

Eww, that's major irritating. I probably would've gone 'NO' as well and then if they tried to grab my hand and get me back... There'd probably be cursing. I am... not subtle. Same!

tbh if someone did the repeated trying thing to me (especially even after I've clearly stated 'not interested, never will be') I'd probably just verbally explode in their face at some point. "HOW 'BOUT I'M NOT FRIGGIN' INTERESTED AND I'VE TOLD YOU THIS 3 MILLION TIMES NOW STOP FRIGGIN' ASKING!" Because seriously. When did we ever learn that sometimes, no means no? And not 'no but maybe later' Maybe that'd scare them off. Or I'd be labeled a b*tch. Probably the latter I literally never get asked out though. I.. do not mind this

Come to think of it, I never really tell people 'love you' (I do with my pets though. Go figure). Though it's not because i don't like the word. Also this. When I was 12 I was a fan of a singer. Cue some random aunts/family members. "OH, do you have a little crush on him? " And I just remember being like "will they just shut up I like the music that's all >_>"

Yes hello random young aro-haters. Aromantic over the age of 20 here. We exist. (25. Wonder if I'm still too young to know? ) And yes, I definitely noticed the lack of crushes/romantic feelings when I was under 20, and maybe if i'd known aromanticism is a thing I'd have thought to identify as it then. (I doubt it though. I was scared to be 'wrong' as it was, and that was when I was 23!) Teenagers can definitely know, or at least question. They're not necessarily late bloomers just because they're young >_> In fact, I admire the aromantic/asexual teens for being sure enough of themselves at that age to identify and come out. With this whole 'too young' argument, I assume it's not easy! :\ Also: "Maybe you're just scared to fall in love and repressing it!"

from 'straight by default and just young' to 'late bloomer? Still straight by default' to 'GAY MAYBE?' to 'We'll see' to 'REALLY LATE BLOOMER?' to 'MAYBE ARO? Maybe REALLY late bloomer?' over the course of like 10 years, then to 'EFF THIS, YOU'RE 23. ARO. NOT LATE BLOOMER.' I just got sick of the 'possibly aro/ace but maybe not because it could still happen right?!??!?' it was not even a hopeful 'it could still happen either' just a 'Look I don't wanna be wrong about being aro/ace' thing XD. So I got sick of the maybes two years ago

Same! I wondered what having a crush would feel like, sure, and I expected it to happen at some point, but I can't remember ever *wanting* a relationship. I realised that this was different when I was maybe 12, and I thought I was just a late bloomer. I thought that for a really long time, though I was also aware that I'd be a REALLY late bloomer so I felt weird about it kind of. Never BAD, just... Off. (and I thought I was gay for a while and had a crush on my friend. I didn't. Shoutout to that one sort-of-friend I had at the time for confusing me!). Then I realised I'm aromantic and asexual and well, not a 23 (now 25) year old late bloomer

I'm a bad aro because -I don't really mind romance. Romantic stories *can* be cute. Most of the time I'm just indifferent, though. -I never faked crushes. -I don't experience squishes? -I also don't mind love songs.

The time a friend insisted I must have a crush on a friend of mine. Apparently she could tell by 'the way I was looking at her'. All this because that same friend asked me if I'd ever wondered what it'd be like to have a girlfriend, and specifically that one friend. So I imagined it for a bit but couldn't and I was like 'I mean, I guess I've thought about it' and it literally spun into her assuming I must have a crush on her. Got 19 year old, still unaware of aro/ace me VERY confused for a while. It literally turned into me having a couple of romantic dreams about me and that friend, probably because the thought was occupying my mind so much (me being really confused and all that xD). Good thing i'm not exactly romance repulsed? I was so annoyed by it though. I was like 'YO BRAIN CAN YOU NOT THIS WHOLE FIGURING THIS OUT THING IS ANNOYING ENOUGH DURING DAYTIME' (come to think of it, just the fact that I woke up going 'ugh, not again' rather than 'OMG IT WAS JUST A DREAM ' should PROBABLY have been a giveaway. xD) ALSO: Every single time when I was going out as a teenager. My mum: *jokingly* no boys! And I was just always like 'yea no worries lol'