hemogoblin

There's actually quite a big asexual kink community. If you would feel better asking anonymously, try any of the tumblrs: millenniumfae, fuckyeahasexual, or platonikink (may be inactive). If you're over 18, I also have the invite to a Kinky Aces discord I can invite you to. And here is a kink-specific thread over on AVEN: https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/105805-kink-bdsm-and-cake/?tab=comments#comment-1060869891

You can also DM me if you'd like. I'm asexual and have delved into kinks, though I'm not super active in the physical scene. At the very least, I may be able to point you in a better direction if I know more. :)

No pressure either way! I know how intimidating and nervewracking it can be to open up about this.

Wishing you calmness o3o

Oh wow!

@MulticulturalFarmer So fluid buildup occurs because it's basically an immune system response, so if you exercise and cause too much undue stress on a still-healing area, it can cause bruising or even tearing between skin/muscle that's still healing and reconnecting itself. The body responds by sending things like white blood cells (for healing) and serous fluid (reduce friction to help prevent further harm - this is the fluid behind seromas and other fluid buildups). This can be more than the body actually needs or because the area is damaged and still healing, there may not be good draining away from the area. Thus, fluid buildup can occur around any areas of injury, such as surgical incisions.

@MulticulturalFarmer I'm open to all questions! It took about two weeks for them to close (at which point, I could have removed the glue, but as it was staying on, I left it on as long as I could stand), but it'll take 9 - 12 months for them to fully heal and see the final result. To prevent stretching and widening, I should avoid heavy lifting and raising my elbows above shoulder level for 3 - 6 months. I am cleared for cardio and starting to lift weights again, finally, but I am really nervous about navigating working out and accidentally causing fluid build up or anything else that could set back healing.

@Atypique Right!? I didn't think about it too much before surgery, so it was pretty shocking to find afterwords, lol. And dang if that stuff doesn't stick on well.

@the more the merrier Thanks! It's looking really good, but tbh, I think I've been very lucky since the beginning. Extremely minimal swelling and bruising. I've definitely seen some results that were very gnarly-looking in the beginning, but I seem to have skipped all that!

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