For the past 3 years I've been dorming with my friend from highschool. This might've been the worst mistake I could've made. When I decided to dorm with her, I didn't know her too well, because even though we were in the same friend group we never really talked. Well spring semester some of our friends came to our college to visit us, while hanging out she became jealous. I was laughing and dancing with one my friends (who I am a little closer with) and she started making mean comments towards me and putting me down. Over the years it has gotten worse and whenever anyone hangs out with us she gets really jealous, and later I will ask her, what happened, and then apologize, and then take the blame. It has gotten to the point where it feels like something happens every week. Over this past Christmas break, she even tracked me and my other friend and saw that we were at my house and she texted me friend asking her about it! I understand she can sometimes feel left out but the jealously, constantly feeling like I'm the problem (because she doesn't get jealous about anyone else!), and it makes me anxious to hang out with my friends in a group setting because I'm afraid she's going to say or do something. I know I'm not the best roommate either and probably too sarcastic and depressed at times but I don't know if I'm the problem, or if I really should leave this friendship.
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For the past 3 years I've been dorming with my friend from highschool. This might've been the worst mistake I could've made. When I decided to dorm with her, I didn't know her too well, because even though we were in the same friend group we never really talked. Well spring semester some of our friends came to our college to visit us, while hanging out she became jealous. I was laughing and dancing with one my friends (who I am a little closer with) and she started making mean comments towards me and putting me down. Over the years it has gotten worse and whenever anyone hangs out with us she gets really jealous, and later I will ask her, what happened, and then apologize, and then take the blame. It has gotten to the point where it feels like something happens every week. Over this past Christmas break, she even tracked me and my other friend and saw that we were at my house and she texted me friend asking her about it! I understand she can sometimes feel left out but the jealously, constantly feeling like I'm the problem (because she doesn't get jealous about anyone else!), and it makes me anxious to hang out with my friends in a group setting because I'm afraid she's going to say or do something. I know I'm not the best roommate either and probably too sarcastic and depressed at times but I don't know if I'm the problem, or if I really should leave this friendship.
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