Ace Archer Posted May 16 Share Posted May 16 (edited) Basically, I'm just wondering how to navigate this. I used to have a best friend who I was ostensibly in a QPR (commitment, long-term plans, etc) with, but they were poly and also dating other people. That wasn't a problem for me until they said that one of their romantic partners wanted a more 'traditional' relationship in the future and that maybe the expectations around our relationship should change. Obviously, that "break up" was really hard. We're still friends but not nearly as close. But now that I've finally moved on I really would like to start looking for a QPP. I ultimately want a deep, long-term, live-in mutually supportive, emotional relationship, but classifying it as romantic doesn't seem right, although it might look similar. I often say that I want family, not romance. The thing is, I just don't really know how to go about it. Personally, I don't think I would have a problem with someone (including my partner) calling the relationship romantic, even though I wouldn't view it that way. So I thought about maybe going on dating apps and just being pretty up-front about my expectations. But I have a friend who says that that is "immoral" that I'd just be stringing people along and that it would be really crummy of me to be in a QPR with someone who is interested in Romance. Especially because I would be a little more hesitant about being in a more open relationship, given my previous experience. Probably this is just because I don't really understand the difference between romantic and platonic attraction (especially if you are sex-repulsed asexual, like myself), but I feel like as long as I'm clear about my expectations, it would be ok? Idk. It just seems like the possibility of finding something is so small if I don't use something like dating apps. I guess I just was wondering how people have found their QPPs and if you have any advice for finding one. Thanks! Edited May 16 by Ace Archer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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