boba Posted June 12 Share Posted June 12 I'll go first. In the beginning, I don't tell them I'm romantic explicitly. I've tried in the past, and you just see their minds trying to conjure this impossible, new, radical concept. Now, I say, "I don't really catch feels." Most of the time, it's followed up with, "Wait. What? You've never had a crush?" And I'll shake my head. Some people don't even ask, they just roll with it. Then a few conversations later, I may introduce the term. But I've found this hilarious bro-language of "I don't catch feels" to be very effective. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Collie Posted June 12 Share Posted June 12 I don't usually bother unless they're in-the-know on LGBTQ+ labels. I've had co-workers ask me if I have a boyfriend or girlfriend, I say no, they ask if I want one, I say no, they say for real, I say yup. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deltalorian Posted June 12 Share Posted June 12 I usually say something along the lines of "romance just isn't for me/what I'm looking for." 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted June 14 Share Posted June 14 For me it rare I'm asked. Do you bring it up or does it come up naturally? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boba Posted June 21 Author Share Posted June 21 On 6/14/2022 at 12:55 PM, Holmbo said: For me it rare I'm asked. Do you bring it up or does it come up naturally? I am not sure what it is, but yes. Oddly enough, people do ask. Or, like, they make comments. In the past month, I've had at least 2 people inquire why I don't have a boyfriend (As if they cannot comprehend me not having one at all.) And then one girl, who I recently met, told me "You are the most anti-boy person I know!" ??? I thought this was normal for aro people ??? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glypharia.exe Posted June 21 Share Posted June 21 Most of my friends were familiar with the label I use, but there was one of my friends who asked what an aroace was and my response went like this: "Can you put flowers in acid?" "...No?" "Exactly. I am the acid and everyone else are the flowers. We are simply not compatible." 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted June 21 Share Posted June 21 8 hours ago, boba said: ??? I thought this was normal for aro people ??? It might just be cultural differences. In Sweden "mind your own business" is basically the national moto. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boba Posted June 25 Author Share Posted June 25 On 6/21/2022 at 3:57 AM, glypharia.exe said: Most of my friends were familiar with the label I use, but there was one of my friends who asked what an aroace was and my response went like this: "Can you put flowers in acid?" "...No?" "Exactly. I am the acid and everyone else are the flowers. We are simply not compatible." this is hilarious. I love it 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted June 25 Share Posted June 25 (edited) Today my romantic orientation actually came up (I think the guy asking wants to date me). I told him I don't date and that I'm happy solo. Later I mentioned aromanticism of hand but I don't know if he knows what it means, he didn't ask about it it commented on the term specifically. Edited June 25 by Holmbo 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boba Posted July 2 Author Share Posted July 2 On 6/25/2022 at 11:09 AM, Holmbo said: Today my romantic orientation actually came up (I think the guy asking wants to date me). I told him I don't date and that I'm happy solo. Later I mentioned aromanticism of hand but I don't know if he knows what it means, he didn't ask about it it commented on the term specifically. sometimes, I worry that they think I said, "I am a romantic." vs. the legit, "I'm aromantic." 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted July 2 Share Posted July 2 3 hours ago, boba said: sometimes, I worry that they think I said, "I am a romantic." vs. the legit, "I'm aromantic." That's not a problem for me since English is not my native language 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.